What is more intimate - oral or genital sex?

[mitchmo]

My wife tells me she always has had genital sex with her partners for the first time before she has had oral sex with them. She considers a blow job more personal or inimate. I always thought the other way that genital sex was more intimate. What do you think? I know, I didn't bring anal into the question, but it wasn't the question the other night when we were talking about this.

P.S. Despite what either of us says now, I seem to remember her dropping to her knees on the second date and thinking to myself - "This one is a keeper!"

 

[ElizaRichards]

I think it all depends on past experience.
For me genital sex is more intimate. I was somewhat of a mouth slut at one point and that made oral sex completely non-intimate for me.

 

[Cycle Tom]

My wife tells me she always has had genital sex with her partners for the first time before she has had oral sex with them. She considers a blow job more personal or inimate. I always thought the other way that genital sex was more intimate. What do you think? I know, I didn't bring anal into the question, but it wasn't the question the other night when we were talking about this.

P.S. Despite what either of us says now, I seem to remember her dropping to her knees on the second date and thinking to myself - "This one is a keeper!"

Genital sex is definately more intimate. The close contact, the mutual exchange of fluids....

 

[Legion_7]

I think society has definitely made sure that genital sex is more intimate. Hell, in some generations a blowjob is practically a unit of barter.

For me personally, genital sex has the edge, but barely. Oral sex is absolutely an act of intimacy and affection, but genital sex is something special.

 

[pwr2theblondes]

Oral is so much more intimate in my opinion because it involves the mouth. It is a lot like kissing (which is such an intimate act).

 

[mitchmo]

Oral is so much more intimate in my opinion because it involves the mouth. It is a lot like kissing (which is such an intimate act).

That's what she says, only it is even more so because it involves genital and the mouth.

I don't want to give the impression that I don't think either are intimate as clearly they both are very much so. The intimacy though also has to do with the state of mind and emotions in addition to the actual acts performed.

 

[rawrrx]

I consider genital sex to be more intimate, especially in a position like missionary or spooning.

The fact that your bodies are pressed so close together.. not to mention that the man is in the very core of the woman's body.. that makes it more intimate than oral to me.

 

[Prettywilling]

I think they are both quite up there, but I personally consider genital sex more intimate.

 

[temptationislandman]

I think they are both quite up there, but I personally consider genital sex more intimate.

i agree

 

[Sensualdreamer]

I consider genital sex to be more intimate, especially in a position like missionary or spooning.

The fact that your bodies are pressed so close together.. not to mention that the man is in the very core of the woman's body.. that makes it more intimate than oral to me.

Couldn't have said it more perfectly. Though I do think that b/c of a womans anatomy that oral can be extremely intimate b/c of the fact that our genitals are internal and it can seem we're being exposed in the realm of oral sex.

 

[Red_and_Mackie]

Performing oral on my woman is much more intimate than any blowjob I could get, IMO. Going down on her means she trusts me enough to let me learn about her body in a very thorough and private way. She is lying back and spreading her legs and silently showing me what feels best. It is a gift of self that makes me feel closer to her than anything she could possibly do to me.

Thinking about it makes me long to taste her again right now...

 

[switchbitch]

I think both can be equally intimate depending on the circumstances. Sitting face-to-face looking in to each otherseyes and watching the play of expression and pleasure across your lovers facecan be wonderful. But there's a certain closeness when I have him in my throat about to fall apart

 

[NestleSnipes]

It's a subjective call.

For me, it varried from partner to partner. Some partners were more open to sex than oral sex. Other partners viewed oral sex as a small jump from making out lol. In my life the girl has dictated which is the more intimate act.

As for my current situation, I would say our oral sex is more intimate. I like what kate said earlier... Anything involving the mouth is pretty intimate. Wonder what she thinks.

 

[ElectricGinger]

It's a subjective call.

For me, it varried from partner to partner. Some partners were more open to sex than oral sex. Other partners viewed oral sex as a small jump from making out lol. In my life the girl has dictated which is the more intimate act.

As for my current situation, I would say our oral sex is more intimate. I like what kate said earlier... Anything involving the mouth is pretty intimate. Wonder what she thinks.

I agree that our oral is really intimate. But I still like the closeness of actual sex. It's a hard call for me to make.

 

[AllenWmsUSA]

My wife tells me she always has had genital sex with her partners for the first time before she has had oral sex with them. She considers a blow job more personal or inimate. I always thought the other way that genital sex was more intimate. What do you think? I know, I didn't bring anal into the question, but it wasn't the question the other night when we were talking about this.

P.S. Despite what either of us says now, I seem to remember her dropping to her knees on the second date and thinking to myself - "This one is a keeper!"

No right or wrong answer. Entirely subjective from person to person and couple to couple.

 

[Beth87]

i think for me it depends on whom the oral is being performed. I would give oral a lot more freely than I allow someone to give me. For me to receive oral is the ultimate in intimate..but I give fairly easily, preferring it to having full sex.

But I guess it depends on what you mean by intimacy.

 

[brickroadray]

i think for me it depends on whom the oral is being performed. I would give oral a lot more freely than I allow someone to give me. For me to receive oral is the ultimate in intimate..but I give fairly easily, preferring it to having full sex.

But I guess it depends on what you mean by intimacy.

mmmm that's so hot!

 

[britfunk]

Hmm, intimacy...

Based solely on the research done by myself with my penis I would say that oral is more intimate. I've had many more women ride me like a 3 toed stallion then are willing to suck on me like a hungry kid with a milkshake on a hot day.

 

[AnitaMann]

While I absolutely think that giving someone oral is truly a generous expression of desire, I tend to agree that genital sex is more intimate. I liken it to the fusing of 2 bodies.

 

[Silly_Goose]

For me, oral sex is more intimate. Whoever is giving has to up close and personal, and whoever is receiving has to trust their partner enough to let them see and feel everything. Also, it's all about the total control one has over the other's pleasure.
And I agree with Bethy... receiving oral is the most intimate sex can get for me.

 

[tkinsc]

For me it is oral.

There is nothing quiet as sweet as tasting a woman, and having her taste and scent linger on your lips. Having your tongue run along her soft slick folds as you soak up her aroma and taste is intoxicating. Feeling her hands run through your hair and her thighs clap around your head as she reaches her orgasm is a feeling you can’t get from any other sexual act.

As for receiving, it takes an awful lot of trust to allow your cock to enter a mouth full of teeth that could easily separate it from the rest of your body. In oral you have no control over your own pleasure. While an orgasm from a blow job may not be better than vaginal or anal sex, the feeling of having her tongue and lips bathing and sucking your cock to orgasm is unique pleasure.

 

[pierretubal]

I love oral sex. It is very intimate - like kissing. It's sensual and yet can be rough too. It's exstatic - and can be done for much longer than genital sex. No doubt - oral sex trumps.

 

[lacygirl09]

My vote is oral. You are getting to know them much more up close and personal, plus I think it really shows how attracted you are to the other person.

 

[m_anew1]

My vote is oral. You are getting to know them much more up close and personal, plus I think it really shows how attracted you are to the other person.

I think genital sex is more intimate.. but going down on a woman is pretty darned close too.

 

[Pinktacokitty]

I my opinion the most intimate I get with a guy is kissing him, my lips pressed to his, our bodies pressed together, our tongues dancing together.......