what is bdsm?

[asdxxx]

wa's bdsm?

 

[Quint]

Not to play "let's all laugh at the newbie," but my goodness. Couldn't you figure it out by any of the posts here? Did you even read them before posting, or were you too impatient?

Sigh...I'll give you the names and let you figure the rest out for your lazy self. BDSM is any and/or all of the below:
Bondage
Discipline
Dominance/submission
Sadomasochism (a combination of the words sadism and masochism)

Look around a bit. I'm not trying to mock your ignorance; just now I saw a post on "munches," and I had no clue what they were. I am however a trifle perturbed by your lack of finding the info on your own, especially when it's so readily available. I read that post on "munches" until I found out what they were. You could have easily done the same and gotten a decent definition of BDSM on your own.

Whew! Bitch time over now.

 

[cymbidia]

wa's bdsm?

This is cut n' pasted directly from the Mother thread and was originally posted there, by me, on July 20, 2001 in response to the question "what does it [BDSM] involve?"

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"It" is a lifestyle, like being a vegetarian or training for and competing in biathalons. "It" is also a style of sexual play. "It" can be as much a part of your life as want, or as little.

BDSM = Bondage Discipline Sadism Masochism.

Additionally, the middle two letters, DS, are always taken to mean Dominance and Submission, often abbreviated D/s.

"It" involves, though this is WAY oversimplified, relationships in which the power wielded by one of the partners exceeds that of the other, always within the sexual arena, often outside it as well.
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Since the above was posted, i think i've answered this question 50 additional times in one way or another. All of us who've been here for any amount of time have done the same.

It gets tempting to give into some exasperation when faced with the same questions over and over; i understand that. What we all have to remember, though, is that we were once complete newbies, too, and needed answers. People helped us, and we owe that openhearted and generous help to those who are coming after us.

Additionally, it's often very scary for many people to ask thier questions about this kinda thing in a place like this. If they ask, if they work up that courage, it should probably be rewarded with sympathetic answers and encouragement to keep asking. If we allow our exasperation through, we might be scaring off some tender newbie who really wants and needs to know... something, anything ...about the urges that are creeping into thier daydreams and fantasies and making them feel like freaks.

Let's be welcoming to all comers, shall we? If they don't ask thier questions in the way you would, well, that's cuz they are a different person. They're not better or worse, just less inclined to do things your way than are you.

Let's try to help, though, please - straightforwardly and with kindness.

Thanks.

cym

 

[bad kitty]

Thank you so much Cymbidia! See, if i had encountered responses like the one up above, i would definately have been hindered in my search for knowledge. i just had to let you know (again) how much i and others truely appreciate you and your wonderful posts. You have truely touched me with your kindness and openness. Just didn't want you to think it was unnoticed. You are truely a treasure, and we are all lucky to have you here!