What if you start a job, and you discover that you hate it, and it's your 2nd job...

[BlondGirl]

And you don't really need it?

I am in that situation. Every day I think during the entire day about
a.) not getting out of bed
b.) not getting out of the tub
c.) not getting dressed
d.) Driving past there to get to the race track/game room/book store/mall
e.) Upon arriving, I consider reatarting my truck and visiting the previously mentioned places
f.) All during the day I consider walking out without saying anything.
g.) At lunch I go through the forcing myself to go back routine

I've been here before, but never when I did not really need the job. I have a sense of obligation to be there for reasons I won't state here. They are very good reasons. And the rewards can would be worthwhile. But I don't care. I hate the place. There is an underlying hostility everywhere except with the people that I work with directly. Sometimes it is an open and direct hostility. (One wierd example, I am a health care professional, and one nurse-? went off on me today for using her sink. The only other sink besides the restroom at the end of the hallway was next to the phone line and had multiple cords hanging into it. Not my idea of a good place to be splashing water...)

I just started this job 2 weeks ago. I will not simply disappear (even though the fantasies are my main pleasure while there). What do you suggest I say when I bring it up to the supervising person that I really don't want to be there another moment?

Anybody been there who can give me sound advice that will not leave me with guilt?

Thanks in advance. (I'm going nutso!)

Signed,
Almost Insane

 

[Kalypso]

Sorry can't really help you...I was in a position I hated and went to the boss and told him I had to leave (not my second job). I was upfront with him. He promoted me. I then found out about another position within the company and went to the president and my boss and told them I wanted it. And I got it.

If you want something, go get it or get rid of it. Whatever it takes to make you happy.


If you don't need it nor truly want it...why stay? Where is the guilt from? Be honest. You just don't need the job.

~Edited to add Good luck...you need to be happy with what you do first and foremost and you have the opportunity to atleast be happy NOT doing this job!

 

[Nora]

Holy cow, blondgirl! Would it be rewarding to jump right back in their faces? I'm thinking a catfight in traditional nursing uniforms would be kinda hot. You could make extra cash that way!

*has momentary fantasy involving white stockings, squeeky shoes and hair pulling*


Otherwise, what about discussing your concerns with administration? Would it help at all? What about in a staff meeting?

When you finally throw in the towel (and who the hell can blame you when you do it!), make sure they know that part of why you're leaving is the hostile and tense work environment. They need to be aware that there's consequences of allowing things to get that bad.

 

[BlondGirl]

I went ahead and quit today.

Thank goodness. I felt like a giddy kid all afternoon!

The person who I followed to that job called me a couple of hours afterward (I had been unable to get messages through, apparently). I have a meeting scheduled with her to discuss that next week and hopefully the office manager as well.

I have mixed feelings. I applied for and accepted a specific job in a specific location with specific people and was told that I needed to wait it out until summer.

I feel a bit guilty.

But I also plan to sleep in every morning next week.

 

[The Heretic]

Don't feel guilty - what it ultimately comes down to is whether the job was worth it to you or not. It is better to quit early on that wait any longer - this way they can get someone else.

You do need to communicate to them the reasons, but don't burn your bridges.