MallardGoodbody
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i have a buddy who without question has been through some ill scenarios.
a divorce from a guy who relegated her to the guest room when he would bring home other women. eventually declaring that she could leave if she wanted to, but that the master bedroom was gonna be used by him and his new woman. eventually she was able to afford to leave. but this kinda thing was in the line of a whole lot of abuses at the hands of many people in her life. (including some horrors commited by her father)
and all the while they kept telling her that she was crazy and goofy and many other negative tags. i know that this was all done as a way to steal power away from her and keep her in a dominated position.
well later on in her life, we reconnected after the divorce (just as friends, nothing sexual) and i was her sounding board.
i've been very supportive of her and i totally think that her ex is a cancer.
but here's the thing.
the more and more i listen to her, the more and more i think..."wow, this chick is crazy"
i'm not coming at it from the place that her ex was, but she just says some things that make the hippiest of spiritualists and vibehealers sound like republican senators.
my guess is that after everything she has been through and a lifetime of being told that she is crazy, maybe she actually has kinda lost it a little.
she is in no danger of hurting anybody, herself or other wise, but every-so-often she'll say something kinda ludicrous and then ask my opinion. and the honest answer would be, "well...i love you and i'll always been here for you , but what you are saying has absolutely no connection to any established reality."
so the question is how do i tell her that she's not the crazy that her abusers told her that she was in the past, but that she is currently spouting a whole lot of next level crazy?
a divorce from a guy who relegated her to the guest room when he would bring home other women. eventually declaring that she could leave if she wanted to, but that the master bedroom was gonna be used by him and his new woman. eventually she was able to afford to leave. but this kinda thing was in the line of a whole lot of abuses at the hands of many people in her life. (including some horrors commited by her father)
and all the while they kept telling her that she was crazy and goofy and many other negative tags. i know that this was all done as a way to steal power away from her and keep her in a dominated position.
well later on in her life, we reconnected after the divorce (just as friends, nothing sexual) and i was her sounding board.
i've been very supportive of her and i totally think that her ex is a cancer.
but here's the thing.
the more and more i listen to her, the more and more i think..."wow, this chick is crazy"
i'm not coming at it from the place that her ex was, but she just says some things that make the hippiest of spiritualists and vibehealers sound like republican senators.
my guess is that after everything she has been through and a lifetime of being told that she is crazy, maybe she actually has kinda lost it a little.
she is in no danger of hurting anybody, herself or other wise, but every-so-often she'll say something kinda ludicrous and then ask my opinion. and the honest answer would be, "well...i love you and i'll always been here for you , but what you are saying has absolutely no connection to any established reality."
so the question is how do i tell her that she's not the crazy that her abusers told her that she was in the past, but that she is currently spouting a whole lot of next level crazy?