What, exactly, is "sexy"?

[bcnu]

What makes someone "sexy"? I know that it depends on the beholder, but what is sexy to you?

For some people, it is all about physical attractiveness. I can understand that, to a point. The world is full of beautiful women and handsome men. So many people love the look of a well-toned body.

For others, intellect is sexy. A hot body is nice, but what about conversation? You can't have sex all the time, (I've tried) so there has to be something to fill up the down time while sore bodies rejuvenate.

Some individuals find humor to be very sexy. To them, a good laugh is the best aphrodisiac. Sadly, life has a way of being very un-funny, for lack of a better word.

Then, you have the great "intangibles". Those qualities that we all know of, but can't fit a name to. Certain people, though they may not be the most attractive physically, exude this aura. It says "I'm confident in myself and my ability to rock your world." In some cases, this can be percieved as cockiness.

Personally, I like a little of everything. I like a woman that is intelligent, that I can talk to, that can arouse me physically and intellectually. I like women that are confident and comfortable with their bodies, no matter how they look. That intangible air of sexiness, combined with a healthy dose of kinky, and a good, lewd sense of humor.

What is "sexy" to you?

 

[Indulgence]

Sexy is something that attracts attention and exudes an aura-of sexuality casually in appearance, approach, or during the chase. I can't help you, I left sexy out and just put "Indulgence"... because I'm not into experimenting sexually, I'm the CEO over Full Scale Research.

 

[chrismiss]

Lots of things are sexy;

Honesty
Sincerity
A nice smile
Soft kissable lips
Sparkling eyes that say "hello"
Sense of humor
Someone who loves little kids
Warm hands
A willingness to help even when he'd rather be doing something else
Respect
Good manners...please and thank you
The ability to laugh at himself
Compassion
Understanding

I could go on...

 

[sexkit-teen]

to me sexy is a relative term at best....yes it is, as mentioned above, in the eye of the beholder but sometimes i think that one person's view of sexy can vary with no notice at all

 

[rod47]

Sexy to me

is a woman who's mind, libido and sense of adventure matches my own. A woman who is willing to try anything once is a treasure and should be held onto at any cost. She has to be able to stimulate my mind as well as my body.

Physical appearance has nothing to do with it.

 

[seth6138]

to me sexy is a relative term at best....yes it is, as mentioned above, in the eye of the beholder but sometimes i think that one person's view of sexy can vary with no notice at all

you are wise beyond your years...

 

[HappyMisha]

Eyes do it for me...

I'm definitely looking at the eyes. I don't care if he's got a pot-belly, if he's skinny... the eyes...

That intense look that makes me melt... a look filled with desire and passion... that's sexy.

 

[seth6138]

I'm definitely looking at the eyes. I don't care if he's got a pot-belly, if he's skinny... the eyes...

That intense look that makes me melt... a look filled with desire and passion... that's sexy.

it is an attitude

 

[deliaO]

Intelligent yet approachable and not condescending.
A sense of humor and can laugh at themselves.
Manners especially in public.
Confidence, someone who looks me in the eyes.
Someone who does not rely on slang or curses in everyday conversation.

 

[seth6138]

Intelligent yet approachable and not condescending.
A sense of humor and can laugh at themselves.
Manners especially in public.
Confidence, someone who looks me in the eyes.
Someone who does not rely on slang or curses in everyday conversation.

I love a conffident woman....thats so dam sexy, youre right

 

[Solivagant]

Honesty has to top my list. Someone that decieves me, others, or self just isn't sexy in any way.

 

[Cratchit]

wow, what a simple question, but what a complex answer....


sexy can be so many things. an emotion, a material possession, an attitude, a feeling, a person. sexy is a look, a flicker of the eyes, a soft kiss. its when you have on your best outfit for a night on the town and you know you look good. its a car in a firetruck red paint job. sexy is what makes you feel confident, loved, aroused, stimulated, estatic. its different for everyone

 

[pokerbum06]

Sexxxy

To me the simple answer is, woman who like sex-I mean who really get into it. That is sexy.

 

[bcnu]

To me the simple answer is, woman who like sex-I mean who really get into it. That is sexy.

I tend to agree here, especially. I've been with some women who were very attractive physically but didn't get into sex all that much. I've since learned the error of my ways, though. Women like that sometimes use sex as a means of control, and that's not right. Some of the most memorable sexual experiences that I've ever had were with larger women that most people don't find attractive. However, they were very comfortable with their bodies and made me feel as though there were nothing else in the world that they would rather be doing than making love to me. That is sexy. It's all about the enthusiasm.

Many of you have also brought up good points. I'd like to see this keep going.

 

[deliaO]

Edited because it was unnecessarily rude.

 

[pretty_green_eyes]

I don't think sex and sexy go hand in hand. I think sexy is a state of mind.

 

[akkily]

I don't think sex and sexy go hand in hand. I think sexy is a state of mind.

What she said

 

[pretty_green_eyes]

What she said

thank you. It's confidence. Someone stated that earlier, and they are right.

 

[Indulgence]

"What exactly is "sexy"?"

The four words you do NOT want to hear your own male or female interest say when you ask them to be... sexy. Believe it or not I've overheard those exact words from women talking to their "proposition's" more than once, and once is usually enough to keep most men from putting their foot in their mouth in that manner again.

 

[College_geek]

it is an attitude

I'd say that sums it up right there. Someone can be very attractive, but not sexy. Or someone can be not very good looking and still extremely sexy.

 

[interracial_sex]

A secure sense of self, bright eyes, a lilting laugh, a smile that is ever at the ready and beautiful when elicited, intelligence, faded jeans, a white t-shirt and a baseball cap, a light smattering of freckles on the nose, shoulders and chest,auburn hair with chestnut highlights, vitality, passion, innocence, chidlike fascination and wonder........those are just some of the things I find to be "stop my heart and take my breath" sexy!

 

[Sensual_guy]

I agree

Hmmm... in no uncertain order... a female is sexy to me if they possess confidence, sweetness, openness, and palyfulness... also (random thoughts): expressive eyes, smooth skin, naughty glances, the curve of the breasts, nice legs, an intriguing voice, and being comfortable with themselves...

 

[kevinb_99]

What is Sexy?

This has been mentioned a lot, but confidence is the most sexy characteristic to me. Looks are certainly a factor, but I find an average looking woman that is confident sexier than a beautiful woman that is not confident.

In terms of looks, sexy eyes melt me.

Of course, dressing sexy helps too:
- nice jeans and low cut shirt
- braless if she is not too large
- a nice sundress in summer
- a woman that likes to flirt and tease

Overall a woman that feels sexy generally is.

 

[kevinb_99]

Natural breasts are sexy

One other thing that I find sexy is natural breasts. I may be in the minority, but I find big silicon mountains a turn off. Natural breasts turn me on much more and size really doesn’t matter. I enjoy small perky breasts as much as larger breasts.

 

[interracial_sex]

I like this thread so I'm bumping it.