What don't you do *outside* your marriage?

[angela146]

This is a slightly different spin from the What you didn't/won't do *before* marriage thread.

This is for already married (or other life-committed) people. If you have an open marriage or if you are poly or if you cheat, are there things that you *only* do for/with your spouse?

In my case, I have two things that are reserved for my husband: spanking and unprotected sex. Since I am not on the pill/patch/ring/implant/etc., I always insist on condoms even beyond the obvious need for STD protection.

But the spanking thing is more of an emotional privacy. *Only* my husband is allowed to punish me.

So, is there anything you reserve for your spouse/life-partner?

 

[Angelique_Coquine]

Love making is reserved for my husband. We are swingers and fuck other people, but only make love with each other. As you said, unprotected sex is also reserved for my husband. Occasionally my husband forgets to put on a condom, but I'm always there to remind him.

I don't want to be spanked, or treated like a whore, by anyone but him either.

 

[shereads]

I wouldn't have a child outside of marriage. And if I had it to do over again, I wouldn't get married unless I intended to have children. I no longer see the point of being bound to another person by law, if there are no kids involved.

For unprotected sex, I need monogamy. Anything else is life-threatening. As a guarantee of monogamy, none of us - married or single - can do more than trust our partner. Insisting on marriage can't bring trust into a relationship that lacks it.

 

[deathlynx]

Well, this is certainly an interesting question, but to some degree it relates to the question of cheating...What do you do outside of marriage or reserve for your spouce/SO is intricately connected with what you are not allowed to do...

 

[SeaCat]

This, to me concerns what you consider inside or outside the marriage. That I suppose all depends on how you define your marriage.

For me and my wife, well we have had sex with people outside of our marriage but these people were trusted and shared an emotional bond with us.

Cat

 

[Stella_Omega]

I haven't been with another man outside of my marriage, not since the mid 80's. Admittedly, this is more because of my preferences than any particular dictum that we've made-- as much as I like and admire men and their bodies, I don't know if I'll ever want to bed a guy besides the one I have.

We do "make love" with our outside partners. Old hippies, yanno...

 

[flavortang]

I don't do a damn thing outside my marriage. I 'cheat' through the male fictional characters I write about. The ones that get to have sex with the kinds of women I'd like to if I were single.

 

[Linyari]

We're swingers, but we're same room only. Also, all BDSM activities are strictly ours. We don't play that way with others. No one is allowed to have sex with someone else without the other person present. Well, my husband says that he'd really love for me to have sex with a guy and then come home and tell him about (The idea of me with other men is very arousing to him.)

But I don't act on it because I would not give him the same lee way and I don't think it would be right of me to do something I would not let him do.