What does a female realy want sexually?

[eric60red]

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We are all different in many ways, we all have different needs. Some just like to be romanced, others to be taken fast and furious, or to be told how and what to do. I believe that a good woman just needs to know you care, and at the end of it all just wants to be hugged.

 

[Connubium]

That's kind of sexist...Yeah us girls jut want daddies to cuddle us . Personally I just want an open mind, communication and trust, that way I can explore my desires comfortably, whether I feel like playing the baby girl or getting out the strap on. All I want is to not be told I'm weird afterwards.
Everything else comes down to compatibility.

 

[southern_gal]

What we (ok I will speak only for myself) I want out of my mate differs greatly from the bedroom to the living room. It is off topic but I will say briefly that I want to feel that I have an equal say in all things that matter in our home. I am educated and I think for the most part my opinions are valid and I really want him to ask and care, not just a how was your day thing as he sorts the newspaper. In the bedroom (which is more on topic) it is safe to say that yes I want cuddled. I want to be made to feel special when even I do not think I am. There are times when I think that a goldfish has more sex appeal than I do, so it does wonders when he makes me feel desirable. Do I always want the same treatment? Do men want the same thing for dinner every single night? No, I want different things at different times. When hubs comes back after a few weeks working, I just want to pull the curtains, and wrap up inside of him and lay there. The next night......could be a totally new outlook. There are times I want animal lust and I want it now. It just all depends. Are we so different in this regard?

 

[AuntNelda]

We are all different in many ways, we all have different needs. Some just like to be romanced, others to be taken fast and furious, or to be told how and what to do. I believe that a good woman just needs to know you care, and at the end of it all just wants to be hugged.

Very thoughtful and true statement.

I discuss that subject in my book.

- Dr Ruth Westheimer

 

[Stella_Omega]

What do I want sexually? I want to wreck my girlfriend. I want to hear her thank me in a shaky voice. And then I want cuddles. And then I want her to flip me over and wreck me.

I want the kind of bruises that feel so good I almost come all over again, just from touching them the next day.

Other "females" might want something like this, or something else entirely. The thing to think about is" what do YOU want, and then think about if it's something SOME women might also want. Then you see if you can find those women.

 

[eric60red]

Orgams

Some interesting answers so far, so to take it a stage further, how important is it to have an orgasm during sex, and does your partner make you cum more than once?

 

[amofiga]

The only thing I've learned over many years on this planet is that women are like snoflakes, no two are alike. They all have different motivations both sexually and non-sexually. They all have different triggers, different turn-ons, and different turn-off's. The best you can do is try to give each other some respect and honesty to say what it is that you want, like, don't want, don't like, etc about whatever it is from sex to the type of restaurant you like or the movies you hate. If you turn out compatible, wonderful. If you don't, it isn't wise to try to change yourself or the other person because it never works out well if you try to force it.

What does a woman want sexually? Ask her. If she's honest and confident enough to tell you, you're home free. If she is too embarrassed or ashamed to tell you, you'll spend a lot of time guessing and not getting it right. Life's too short to play guessing games. I wish I had understood that decades ago. Want to give your kid some good advice, tell them to be open and honest and to listen when the other person is too. Then develop some mutual respect and life will run a lot smoother.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Some interesting answers so far, so to take it a stage further, how important is it to have an orgasm during sex, and does your partner make you cum more than once?

I can make my girlfriend cum until she begs me to stop. She seems to enjoy that.

Just saying.

 

[southern_gal]

I can make my girlfriend cum until she begs me to stop. She seems to enjoy that.

Just saying.

Just had to go there huh? Some of us are self reliant these days sister.

 

[DPprettyPLEASE]

I want basic attention... All eyes on me! And a huge load that's followed with a smile. I can care less about having an orgasm every time. I get satisfied seeing the satisfaction on my lovers' face(s) lol

 

[blkjames]

I want basic attention... All eyes on me! And a huge load that's followed with a smile. I can care less about having an orgasm every time. I get satisfied seeing the satisfaction on my lovers' face(s) lol

damn,a women after mine own heart,i am more into pleasing my lady then mine own desire)

 

[pfflyerhot]

The only thing I've learned over many years on this planet is that women are like snoflakes, no two are alike. They all have different motivations both sexually and non-sexually. They all have different triggers, different turn-ons, and different turn-off's. The best you can do is try to give each other some respect and honesty to say what it is that you want, like, don't want, don't like, etc about whatever it is from sex to the type of restaurant you like or the movies you hate. If you turn out compatible, wonderful. If you don't, it isn't wise to try to change yourself or the other person because it never works out well if you try to force it.

What does a woman want sexually? Ask her. If she's honest and confident enough to tell you, you're home free. If she is too embarrassed or ashamed to tell you, you'll spend a lot of time guessing and not getting it right. Life's too short to play guessing games. I wish I had understood that decades ago. Want to give your kid some good advice, tell them to be open and honest and to listen when the other person is too. Then develop some mutual respect and life will run a lot smoother.

Amofiga, your insight into relationships and communication is enlightening. You have a knack for offering a clear and sensible point of view, and you do it in a kind, caring and respectful manner. Do you know how LONG it's taken me to figure that out... what you summed up quite nicely there, in a couple short paragraphs... while illustrating so perfectly what you describe at the same time? Say it. Mean it. Show it. Do it. Ask. Answer. Talk. Listen.
I want mutual respect. I want human warmth and compassion. I want honesty... and communication, involving discussion, asking questions, listening, considering... agreeing to disagree... Talk about shit. Exploring all topics. Figuring it all, out, and then some. Together. With each other. Process, think, ponder, dream and discuss openly, blamelessly, unabashedly, freely, candidly, calmly, passionately, seriously, unflinchingly—In my best Groucho Marx voice: 'I could go on and on and on with this...'). As far as what a woman wants sexually? As far as what anyone wants sexually? Depends on that anyone, and who's doing the asking, and... and... much, much more than I could ever know. Best to ask the particular person in question... And, remember to listen, ask questions and clarify what you understand is being said. That's what I'll do, anyway...
Fuck. It's late. I hope this makes sense.

 

[eric60red]

I can make my girlfriend cum until she begs me to stop. She seems to enjoy that.

Just saying.

Thats what is all about, but most men (sorry do not intended to offend you guy's) can't control the abllilty to hold back, and with hold there climax until she is ready. Just ask yourself why are dildos so popular, and do females get a better orgasm with one?

 

[eric60red]

Fuck. It's late. I hope this makes sense. [/QUOTE]


You do, make sence, but every one is different, we all have are own little quirks, our kinks and ways of pleasing each other. The secret is to find the right person who can give you everything you need, sex, support, understanding everything to make her happy.

 

[Dyslexicea]

I can make my girlfriend cum until she begs me to stop. She seems to enjoy that.

Just saying.

*smile* If I wasn't in love I'd be knocking at your door, luv!

 

[Que]

That's kind of sexist...Yeah us girls jut want daddies to cuddle us . Personally I just want an open mind, communication and trust, that way I can explore my desires comfortably, whether I feel like playing the baby girl or getting out the strap on. All I want is to not be told I'm weird afterwards.
Everything else comes down to compatibility.

Minor threadjack...(she is always encouraging me to Jack I feel)

You know I think the part about acceptance and after care is awfully important...

In our relationship I was kind of the chick and my wife was kind of the dude she was the one that always wanted to roll over afterwards and go to sleep... I would feel alive and flooded with creative energy and often would go make something innovative in the kitchen.

In bed in the heat of the moment she was delightfully open minded, fun and kinky. I grew up with a lot of negative messages around sex and sexual themes. I was uncomfortable with being aroused by sadistic play.

I hated the times that her post coital reactions triggered my issues where i would feel intellectually small and sexually weird in the cold light of day. We would engage in some sort of play that was her idea... she would be extremely vocally appreciative at the time... but the next morning she would say something like "well, YOU were in a mood last night!".. but in a "hey aren't you glad I tolerated your kink?" sort of way.

As far as the original post here I do get what he saying he like I am a bit older and I have a feeling that that "they just want to hug" a sort of a vibe is probably related somewhat to a side of women that we likely bring out...

I've actually joked at times when people are a bit surprised at my (fairly modest) success rate with girls half my age: " there are girls have had a bad relationship with their fathers; in which case they need a hug...in the alternative: they have a great relationship with her fathers; in which case they enjoy a hug"

Hugs are an excellent way to increase that pair bonding chemical in the bloodstream that makes them feel comfortable and safe enough to enjoy it when you grab them by the hair and shove their pretty little faces onto your c*** . Others mileage may vary.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Thats what is all about, but most men (sorry do not intended to offend you guy's) can't control the abllilty to hold back, and with hold there climax until she is ready. Just ask yourself why are dildos so popular, and do females get a better orgasm with one?

Well, that's why foreplay. Get her off once before the peen goes into the veen and she'll probably get off with you, when you start humping. The pump has been primed.

I like dildos and I have a few, but they aren't really the most perfect tool for the first orgasm... fingers and tongue work good for that. You're focussing on her clit, which is outside of the vag, and her G spot which is just inside-- use two fingers, about two knuckles deep, behind the wall of her pussy, in front...

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Hugs are an excellent way to Increase that pair bonding chemical in the bloodstream that makes them feel comfortable and safe enough to enjoy it when you grab them by the hair and shove their pretty little faces onto your c*** . Others mileage may vary.

also this.

Query, thank you for a good thoughtful post

 

[switchbitch]

What do I want sexually? I want to wreck my girlfriend. I want to hear her thank me in a shaky voice. And then I want cuddles. And then I want her to flip me over and wreck me.

I want the kind of bruises that feel so good I almost come all over again, just from touching them the next day.

Other "females" might want something like this, or something else entirely. The thing to think about is" what do YOU want, and then think about if it's something SOME women might also want. Then you see if you can find those women.

OMG thats hot

 

[DarkLisa]

The title of this thread made me giggle a bit, because I thought "That's kind of like asking what kind of house does a female really want?" Would we all answer 4 bedroom brick 2 stories? A yurt?

Knowing it's meant more as what any specific woman wants....

I want to be acknowledged and appreciated by an adventurous partner who may not want to try everything or anything but is at least willing to discuss options other than American vanilla sex.

Is that too much to ask? lolol

 

[simpletimes]

The title of this thread made me giggle a bit, because I thought "That's kind of like asking what kind of house does a female really want?" Would we all answer 4 bedroom brick 2 stories? A yurt?

Knowing it's meant more as what any specific woman wants....

I want to be acknowledged and appreciated by an adventurous partner who may not want to try everything or anything but is at least willing to discuss options other than American vanilla sex.

Is that too much to ask? lolol

Sexual communication is key in any relationship.

 

[Dyslexicea]

What does a female really want sexually?

I don't think there is a simple answer nor even one answer. Each of us has our own needs, we are not carbon copies. Even the partner we choose can be different. If she's hetero only a man is going to do. If she bi either sex is going to be fine but what she needs from each may be totally different, and I don't mean a cock. If she's like me only another woman is going to do. On top of that is the attributes each of us seeks in a partner both physical and mental.

At times, even in a partnered relationship, our wants are totally different. For myself it can be a need for romance and love, slow, sensual, tender and loving. Sometime lustful and consuming a desperate need to fulfill her pleasure while having an equal need to have her fulfill mine. At others a need to forget myself and seek only her needs to take her to orgasm after orgasm until she's exhausted(For you men it's when she says just fuck me). Not to mention my own selfish need for her to sometime do the same for me. So many more desires neither of us has yet ventured into.

Aside from partnered sex we also have self sex and even in that we all have different wants and needs. We all stimulate ourselves differently, some like breast and nipple play, some like to penetrate with their fingers, of course we all end up touching our clits to bring ourselves to orgasm. At times it can be all of the above at others only the clit. Not to even mention our use of toys. Even the reason we masturbate can be at times for different needs. Sometime erotic and sexual using our imagination and/or memories, other times just a wonderful way to relief stress.

I think it's important to communicate needs and desire but even more important to know your partner. You men reading this need to understand, we do consistently need orgasms, not every time, but the vast majority of times. If we don't our libido, as least where your concern, well become very low.

I could go on and on, the first time with someone new, the one night hook up, the sharing of someone else or another couple. There is no easy What does a female really want sexually.

 

[devinity7]

As others have said, one can only speak for herself. Even though most of us want to be satisfied and that doesn't always mean in the form of an orgasm. Some of us enjoy the giving part and the closeness that comes from sex.

Mood comes into play as well, perhaps we feel a tad naughty and just want a good f***. Other times we want it slow and sensual. Communication is a key element in letting our partners know what we want so that hopefully we get it and the same applies to a man. Don't keep us guessing....

 

[Dyslexicea]

Even though most of us want to be satisfied and that doesn't always mean in the form of an orgasm. Some of us enjoy the giving part and the closeness that comes from sex.

I'm just curious and I'm not judging you, just confused. Are you saying an orgasm isn't important and you get all or most of your needs fulfilled by giving and closeness?

 

[devinity7]

I'm just curious and I'm not judging you, just confused. Are you saying an orgasm isn't important and you get all or most of your needs fulfilled by giving and closeness?

No, I meant to say it's not always the number one goal. Not speaking for anyone else on that, just myself. Hope that clarifies.

 

[Dyslexicea]

No, I meant to say it's not always the number one goal. Not speaking for anyone else on that, just myself. Hope that clarifies.

Thank you dear. I did write something similar but overall I want my orgasms!