What do you think of love?

[Tempest_Soul]

*tempest whispers* 'Okay guys this is a secret so no-one tell Ok? ... good.'

I'm the loneliest guy in the world, for real. I don't really know if I'm good looking or anything but I've never been called ugly, and I get laid at an entirely disproportianate rate compared to my friends (But they're all whipped) But the thing is I've never had any REAL connection to someone, no body really knows who I am, so long as I smile, people think I'm happy. . I never used to believe in all that love bullshit, I thawt it was sumthin people made up to sell flowers and chocolates. But lately I've been thinking (I KNOW!!! SHOCKING!!!) what if there's someone out there who can actually accept the real me without me having to act like the person I think they want me to be. what if I can just be me? But then I thawt, wot if that person doesn't exist and I have to spend my life hiding the real me inside, while I keep smiling like an idiot

What do you think? Does love matter? Does it even exist?

 

[koalabear]

It exists, just don't confuse it with hormones.

 

[DarkLover]

In my rather cynical view, love is a lie that we tell ourselves in order to swallow the bitter pill that we call marriage.

 

[angelkitty7888]

i believe in love..... and a small part of me believes in true love / "love at first sight", but mostly i think that people will always grow and change and while the love for others grows and changes with the person it doesn't always change fast enough or in a good way, so love can end, but there are always more people that may have evolved to love you... and that you may have evolved to love..... there is always someone for you, it just might not be the same person for your entire life. there might even be more than one person you love. like a three person relationship (sometimes they do work though not often). so love is always possible even if it isn't always obvious.

i love my girlfriend. i know i love her. she makes me feel happy, safe, warm/fuzzy, along with the usual lust. i love to talk with her cuddle with her and spend lots of time with her. i don't mind her faults or her figure. she is free to be herself around me. She has accepted my love along with all of my faults as well. so if i didn't believe in love, what would that make my relationship with her?

 

[bluebell]

Can't speak to loveless marriages, but...

I do think love exists, you just have to search hard and be patient for it. And if doesn't come, well...there's always lots and lots of pets

 

[Tempest_Soul]

i believe in love.....

i love my girlfriend. i know i love her. she makes me feel happy, safe, warm/fuzzy, along with the usual lust. i love to talk with her cuddle with her and spend lots of time with her. i don't mind her faults or her figure. she is free to be herself around me. She has accepted my love along with all of my faults as well. so if i didn't believe in love, what would that make my relationship with her?

Thanx angel, I'm really happy that you've both found that person who accepts and loves you for who you are, it gives me a little bit of hope that maybe that person exists for me too ...

 

[Tempest_Soul]

I do think love exists, you just have to search hard and be patient for it. And if doesn't come, well...there's always lots and lots of pets

Yeah, I wuz thinking last nite that maybe the reason why I neva connect with people is because I think I have to be the person they want me to be, maybe if I wuz just myself I'd find it easier to find someone to accept me ... And I already have pets, I just don't want to become the crazy cat guy living with a hundred cats, lol

 

[kitty68]

love exists.. but sometimes it choice to love somebody or not.

 

[shy slave]

I once had a boyfriend who told me I wasn't his Soul mate but would do until she came along.
I didn't know whether to hit him for offending me or applaud for being honest lol.

I love my sons and I love Andante.
I have loved other people in the past, but in a different way to how I feel for him.
Love is a whole mix of passion, lust, care, interest, respect, a need to make them happy, plus a heap of other emotional stuff.

Then there is love for chocolate, an unbridled passion that cannot be curtailed

 

[kitty68]

I once had a boyfriend who told me I wasn't his Soul mate but would do until she came along.
I didn't know whether to hit him for offending me or applaud for being honest lol.

I love my sons and I love Andante.
I have loved other people in the past, but in a different way to how I feel for him.
Love is a whole mix of passion, lust, care, interest, respect, a need to make them happy, plus a heap of other emotional stuff.

Then there is love for chocolate, an unbridled passion that cannot be curtailed

personal i would look at him said i guess you do until i found mine also.

 

[elizabeth22673]

of course love exists. you will know it when you feel it

 

[kitty68]

my thing is lately everybody use that word just to easy... if you feel lust then say i lust you.

if you want to sleep with somebody be honest about. don't use word that connected to somebody heart unless you mean it.

 

[elizabeth22673]

my thing is lately everybody use that word just to easy... if you feel lust then say i lust you.

if you want to sleep with somebody be honest about. don't use word that connected to somebody heart unless you mean it.

ITA KITTY

 

[maggie7235]

I hope no one minds if I put in my two cents on the subject.

This same thought has been plaguing me for awhile now. I have been in lust, i have been infatuated, but to say i have ever been love, I dont think I was. I think alot of times we confuse love and lust, you know when the relationship is in the early stages and your in lust but you think its love, maybe im wrong, but I have had that experience. About a month ago I realized that I was truly in love with the guy I have been sleeping with for almost a year, and it was the scariest, most blissful, confusing feeling when it first hit me. It was a weird situation, but it just hit me that hey I love this guy, I really do. Love is painful and perfect all in the same breath and for years I have been truly phobic of commitment, relationships and love. Its confusing and wonderful, so many emotions wrapped into one. Im only one person its prob. not the same for everybody. We talked about how I felt and hes not ready for any commitment and im not sure I am either, and it hurt at first, but i wouldnt change anything. Were still friends and who knows someday maybe more, when were ready. Sorry just had to get my two cents in here. Love is amazing, and their are so many different kinds of love, but true head over heals in love doesn't come along very often but when it does it hits you like a ton of bricks and your heart will never be the same. Sorry for the rant yall.

 

[Tempest_Soul]

Don't be sorry maggie, I thought that was great! And I know what you mean about the whole commitment phobia, even though I'm really aching for someone to see me for me, the idea of being committed to someone is really scary, I've never really been in love before, I've cared about people deeply but that's about it and it was always one sided. I'm really glad you shared, please feel free to come back anytime thanx again!

 

[gitrdone]

love exists but it is often confused with obsession

 

[angelkitty7888]

Thanx angel, I'm really happy that you've both found that person who accepts and loves you for who you are, it gives me a little bit of hope that maybe that person exists for me too ...

awww shucks

but seriously i'm sure there's someone there for you to love.... if we were being cliche i'd tell you to look right under your nose lol but that is another matter

 

[Sterling]

I sort of feel this way too... The area where I am living now is just ridiculous. The 'dating' scene is just that... 'dating'.


Everyone goes out with everyone else and they all end up fucking each other and it's a small city so I've slept with girls who have slept with like four of my friends and rubbish like that.

Everyone uses each other for sex and such and there never seems to be a relationship for me. I want it but it seems like if you are looking for that then they push you away and move on to the next guy. Don't get me wrong. I love sex. I absolutely adore it... and most people would be jealous of it but I find it pretty empty. If I like someone enough to want to date them and it's just sex it's just empty and depressing.

It just pisses me off. What's wrong with just fucking/hanging out/whatever with the same person for a few months? Why is it always just a fling? Argh!

Oh well... I'll just keep my practice up untill my true love a-comes a-calling.

Frustration!

 

[elusive_buttrfly]

I Believe in Love

*tempest whispers* 'Okay guys this is a secret so no-one tell Ok? ... good.'

I'm the loneliest guy in the world, for real. I don't really know if I'm good looking or anything but I've never been called ugly, and I get laid at an entirely disproportianate rate compared to my friends (But they're all whipped) But the thing is I've never had any REAL connection to someone, no body really knows who I am, so long as I smile, people think I'm happy. . I never used to believe in all that love bullshit, I thawt it was sumthin people made up to sell flowers and chocolates. But lately I've been thinking (I KNOW!!! SHOCKING!!!) what if there's someone out there who can actually accept the real me without me having to act like the person I think they want me to be. what if I can just be me? But then I thawt, wot if that person doesn't exist and I have to spend my life hiding the real me inside, while I keep smiling like an idiot

What do you think? Does love matter? Does it even exist?

Some would say that love is actually just a chemical imbalance in the brain. More often times than not I've experienced this imbalance. Sometimes it was fun and very fulfilling, other times empty and draining. Love is out there, but whether you choose to believe in love or not is the real question. I believe love exists but in order for the seed planted in one's heart to grow, it must be tended to daily; watered with kindness and trust, nutured with communication, and pampered with the warmth of passion. If any one of these components is missing, love withers.

Then again you could also contribute your thinking to the month of February and Valentine's Day fastly approaching. LOL

 

[nymphony]

When it's strong and true, it's better than anything in the world, and the more years that pass the deeper it gets, no matter how much tribulation is brought to bear upon you both by life. It'll never happen, but I'd give up a reserved spot in paradise in a second for a chance to see him smiling at me again.

 

[ChikieRoo]

can't believe in something i've not seen for myself...

*sigh*

 

[Tempest_Soul]

Seems like there's a few people out there who know what I'm on about, stirling, chiki. Everyone else, thanks heaps for your input, everyone seems to have a different perspective on love and the differences are all really interesting (I sound like oprah, lol)