What do you do when you're depressed to pull yourself up?

[FurryFury]

I do escapist fiction either in book or movie form --- usually book.

I also pray at the church of arts and crafts and have recently found my favored denomination.

I drive up the coast road with my dog and sit in the ionized air at the beach.

I dance or clean house or walk or anything else I can think of to get my blood moving. Physical movement can often bring your brain and emotions back from depression or apathy. Of course the challenge is that you don't FEEL like moving so you have to look at it like an aspirin for a headache or something. Just get up and do it and it won't take long before it makes you feel better --- seriously, five or ten minutes can make all the difference in the world.


-B

Hi Bridgeburner!

I'm glad to get your ideas on this. I wish I could sit at the beach whenever I wanted. I love the beach it feel right to be there.

I do the book and movie thing too.

Also I do the physical activity thing but the church of arts and crafts? What denomination have you found?

Fury

 

[Private_Label]

Hi Kili, CC and FF...

The jerks as you start to go to sleep may be Hypnic Starts or hypnogogic jerk. Here are a few links:
Wikipedia article
Medicine.net article
Neurology Forum

You can also check out the Usenet sleep disorder support group.

 

[FurryFury]

Hi Kili, CC and FF...

The jerks as you start to go to sleep may be Hypnic Starts or hypnogogic jerk. Here are a few links:
Wikipedia article
Medicine.net article
Neurology Forum

You can also check out the Usenet sleep disorder support group.

Hi Private_Label,

Good information at those links, thank you for posting them.

*hugs*

Fury

 

[Killishandra]

Hi Kili, CC and FF...

The jerks as you start to go to sleep may be Hypnic Starts or hypnogogic jerk. Here are a few links:
Wikipedia article
Medicine.net article
Neurology Forum

You can also check out the Usenet sleep disorder support group.

Thank you very much, PL. That was considerate of you to search for and post those for us.

At least I have a name for it now!

 

[slave C]

So right now I'm feeling useless.

I can't write the way I usually do on the sexual or other role play threads.

I feel like I'm letting people down.

I feel I've been let down by someone I really cherished. I don't know why. If I did something wrong, got boring or he is just busy. *sighs*

I also feel like there is a certain person I can never make happy for long, which makes me not even want to try.

I want to write about blood and suicidal urges but that would probably be considered icky and wrong, wouldn't it?

So I'm trying to pull myself up.

Dennis only knocked out a few windows and power for a few hours, so that's good.

I have a wonderful life really.

Did two great gigs today.

Still I'm very draggy and blue.

Any ideas?

Thanks for listening if you got this far.

Fury

You do what a good friend of mine Kerkermeister told me to do. Get my head out of my "ahem" and get back on stage. This is just a phase and yOu will get through it. Try exposing yourself to some new experiences. The others You are trying to please might also be feeling a bit down about life right now. Hang in there cause in the long run everything will turn out all right. hugs

 

[FurryFury]

You do what a good friend of mine Kerkermeister told me to do. Get my head out of my "ahem" and get back on stage. This is just a phase and yOu will get through it. Try exposing yourself to some new experiences. The others You are trying to please might also be feeling a bit down about life right now. Hang in there cause in the long run everything will turn out all right. hugs

Thanks Slave C!

I think you and your friend are right. Happily I am better already.

*hugs*

Fury

 

[sigsauerprinces]

i've tried all the things youre supposed to do, and sometimes they work. looking forward to something nice i bought myself coming in the mail in the next couple days. ive talked to friends about it, listened to music, gone out shopping, got a hug from someone who cares about me, cuddled my kitty cat...they all work, sometimes.

 

[bridgeburner]

Hi Bridgeburner!

I'm glad to get your ideas on this. I wish I could sit at the beach whenever I wanted. I love the beach it feel right to be there.

I do the book and movie thing too.

Also I do the physical activity thing but the church of arts and crafts? What denomination have you found?

Fury

Leathercraft. Oddly enough NOT paddles and whips and the like although I do have some interest in constructing such things. I started a leather tooling class about 3 months ago and have finally found my craft-niche.


-B

 

[FurryFury]

i've tried all the things youre supposed to do, and sometimes they work. looking forward to something nice i bought myself coming in the mail in the next couple days. ive talked to friends about it, listened to music, gone out shopping, got a hug from someone who cares about me, cuddled my kitty cat...they all work, sometimes.

Hi SigSauerPrinces,

Scary pic there!

When it gets bad and it continues like that, you might need some help. If you get help and start on a drug, remember two things, it can take a while for a drug to really work and talk to your doctor immediately if you experience side effects you don't want to deal with such as lack of libido for instance.

I have seen people turned around in just a few days with drugs and therapy. I have also seen people that the right fit was all too elusive.

San Fran is a beautiful place to live! I spent a honeymoon there! I love the views, dim sum and sour dough there to name just a few things.

You are doing all the right things that you can do. Don't give up. Keep at it. Remember little steps still keep you moving forward.

I'm not sure how old you are but if you are in your early to mid twenties I will say a lot of folks are miserably depressed during that time. I know I was for two solid years. I thought of offing myself every damn day. I yearned to not exist. To stop the pain and just slip away.

Then one day I realized I hadn't been thinking about that for once. I credit my work situation with that. I was doing something I increasingly liked and felt good about. My personal life (marriage) sucked big green donkey dicks, but my work life was good. I was also reforming a relationship with my Dad.

Still for two years it was a struggle to not act on impulse and to keep trying to bring myself up.

It does get better. Sometimes it doesn't seem like you can see the light at the end of the tunnel I know but it does get better. I want you to believe me on that.

*hugs*

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

Leathercraft. Oddly enough NOT paddles and whips and the like although I do have some interest in constructing such things. I started a leather tooling class about 3 months ago and have finally found my craft-niche.


-B

So we are talking wallets or belts? Sounds like fun it could be fun. I'm glad you have round your niche in crafts.

Good for you bridgeburner. Finding a niche in any area of one's life is a great thing!

Fury

 

[shy slave]

I am so fucking depressed right now it is ridiculous.

Life and opportunity is passing me by at a million miles a second.

Losers are pointing and laughing at me, kicking dirt in my face.

There is nothing that can be done. I am hoping the next hurricane will kill me.

Thats a bad place to be,

I am sorry to read your feeling like this at the moment Marquis.

Sometimes nothing people say or do can help, its an internal mechanism that has to move in another direction.

Everyones 'bad place' is different and we have all had varying degrees of it.

Mine was a couple of years ago, I thought about driving my car until it crashed or simply not waking up one day.

Truth is I didn't have the courage to do anything about anything. The apathy had hit so hard with the depression it was all I could do to have one coherant thought a day.

Slowly things improved for me, I am not the person iwas but that does not mean I am a greater or lesser person than i was before the 'bad place' happened.

I hope things improve for you soon.

FF I have read through the thread and see that you are starting to feel better, I am pleased for you.

I found just surviving bad days and trying to look to a time when they decreased helped.

A friend of mine who had been there as well suggested I rated each day 1-10 and monitored how things were.
To be honest I was too depressd and apathetic to bother but I realise now it would have been a good thing to do.

 

[FurryFury]

<snip> Truth is I didn't have the courage to do anything about anything. The apathy had hit so hard with the depression it was all I could do to have one coherant thought a day.

Slowly things improved for me, I am not the person iwas but that does not mean I am a greater or lesser person than i was before the 'bad place' happened.

I hope things improve for you soon.

FF I have read through the thread and see that you are starting to feel better, I am pleased for you.

I found just surviving bad days and trying to look to a time when they decreased helped.

A friend of mine who had been there as well suggested I rated each day 1-10 and monitored how things were.
To be honest I was too depressd and apathetic to bother but I realise now it would have been a good thing to do.

Hi Shy Slave!

Yeah, I am doing a bit better, not perfect, I'm not feeling my muse, I don't self gratify ever these days and I'm still sad and really tired, but better.

As far as having the courage to do something about it? I have also said that about myself. I prefer to think of it as the will to survive being stronger than we think even if this takes the form of lethargy.

I hope Marquis is feeling better soon too.

*hugs and kisses to you both*

Fury

 

[Marquis]

A friend of mine who had been there as well suggested I rated each day 1-10 and monitored how things were.
To be honest I was too depressd and apathetic to bother but I realise now it would have been a good thing to do.

Isn't that always how it goes?

Thanks for your concern sweetie!

 

[XXplorher]

What do you do when you're too depressed to pull yourself up?

LO-fuckin-L... you become a sub!! 'Tell me what to do instead'.

I just wrote my first BDSM story. I was trying real hard to go there and be... BOTH, actually. I struggled being either. I've heard and observed enough to understand it, yet... at the final page, I didn't buy in.

I don't get this thing. From either side - it's a dedication to... beaten.

Sure, I know all the claims of freedom (and I used that) in the 'agreement' of BDSM, but it doesn't ring true. The only thing that rings true is somewhere along the line, you thought what you want should not be wanted. And you now want punishment for it. (Or the control of it).

I think that highly unnecesary. I think the obliteration of that very thought is your freedom. That your sex should never ever be something to apologize for. Apology is the enemy (in this case).

So I wrote a story, to try and figure it out (hasn't been posted yet: "Learning to Swim"). And I got all Dom upon this girl. And when it was over... all I wanted to do was give her back her value.

Cuz that's the only thing that makes any fuckin' sense...

I - don't - getit

 

[XXplorher]

Oh and I guess it goes without saying, but what the heck I'll say it anyway, don't I always? *dry chuckle* My sex drive is dead, dried up, nada, nothing.

And all this crap - what the fuck was I ANSWERING? A married woman who thinks nothing of her bonds, MAY have lost some other bond, that MAYBE doesn't care anymore, REMINDS her of some other non-caring episode... and her poor pussy feels nothing...

YOU'RE FUCKING MARRIED?

Please, can I get that wrong? And if I don't, no wonder you think you're worthless person - grow some labia and take a stand. No one PUTS you there. Make choices.

XXplorher must sign off before he becomes angry double-X again... hurting humans.

 

[FurryFury]

You are so right. You are clueless. That's really too bad for you and for those around you.

Fury

 

[XXplorher]

Yeah, that was an abusive response. And I apologize (at the risk of bumping a mistake even!). There are certain things that make me very, very angry...

But I am far from clueless.

G'luck

 

[Brinnie]

ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.


I go paint, draw, or write.

Cherrish your depression.

 

[Killishandra]

Yeah, that was an abusive response. And I apologize (at the risk of bumping a mistake even!). There are certain things that make me very, very angry...

But I am far from clueless.

G'luck

You come into a thread designed to help someone pull through their depression, only to be that fucking abusive?!

And you're saying WE need help.

Totally clueless.

*hugs, FF*

 

[FurryFury]

Yeah, that was an abusive response. And I apologize (at the risk of bumping a mistake even!). There are certain things that make me very, very angry...

But I am far from clueless.

G'luck

Actually it was uncalled for and abusive. I accept your apology. With all due respect you do seem to be pretty clueless about BDSM. I'm not in the mood after those two negative posts to educate you, nor do I think you would listen. How unusual for me, since I tend to be a pedagogue, but yeah certain things make me very angry as well.

I will say that you should probably stick to writing what you can understand. I can imagine it would be very difficult to write about something that makes one angry or about which one can't be tolerant and open. There is a reason for the saying, "write what you know."

Good luck to you.

Fury

ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.
I go paint, draw, or write.

Cherrish your depression.

Good for you! Cherish, um, no, I won't be doing that, but thanks for your response. I'm glad you can channel yours so creatively.

Fury

You come into a thread designed to help someone pull through their depression, only to be that fucking abusive?!

And you're saying WE need help.

Totally clueless.

*hugs, FF*

Thanks Killishandra! You are beautiful inside and out. *hugs back tight*

Those of you who know me better here at lit, I think, you understand what I am talking about. I appreciate comments from you. I think those individuals I am talking about, know that I deeply respect my bonds. If I didn't I would be out doing a lot of things I'd like to do. I am not partially because I do respect those bonds and partially because I am a rather shy person in RL. My husband is supportive and aware of everything I do. He alone has full access, if he wants it, to see, read and do, everything with me.

There may be times I feel worthless but that is not the norm for me. Not by a long shot. I do think human kind tends to have these feelings from time to time, just because we are human. I personally do not believe that feelings of worthlessness, are a necessary component for the BDSM dynamic. I happen to know some people think of BDSM as a sign of mental illness. I personally disagree with that a very great deal.

There are some truly warm, intelligent wonderful people here. This board in general is open and caring.

Killishandra, you are one of the best!

Fury

 

[Private_Label]

You come into a thread designed to help someone pull through their depression, only to be that fucking abusive?!

And you're saying WE need help.

Totally clueless.

*hugs, FF*

Killi, FF, can I use the Virgin Club Flogger to beat some understanding of BDSM into him? Pleeeeeease?<sadistic grin>

 

[FurryFury]

Killi, FF, can I use the Virgin Club Flogger to beat some understanding of BDSM into him? Pleeeeeease?<sadistic grin>

Hi Private Label!

LOL!

I have no place to say anything about the Virgin Club Flogger. So it's not up to me. I think he is probably a decent sort that was just feeling frustrated and angry that day, read things the wrong way and spouted. Life is like that sometimes.

You made me smile though PL!

*huggles*

Fury

 

[snowy ciara]

Sorry to go off topic, FF, but...

I'm just wondering if anyone has a problem I have, involving sleeping. Sounds similar to what's quoted above, but different.

Sometimes when I'm falling asleep, I am almost there (or maybe have been for a few seconds) when I jerk awake,heart pouding, and totally panicked. I always have the same "feeling", as if I was walking and suddenly the ground in front of me is gone and as I take the next step, I plummet. As I fall into the pit, I jerk violently awake, and then have to deal with the immense panic until I can calm myself down enough to try sleep again.

Anyone else go through this sometimes? I have a few weird sleeping problems, but this one continues to baffle me.

Yup. I had night terrors when I was a kid which a Doctor will tell you that kids are supposed to outgrow. I don't think they do, I think they morph into what you describe. I was taking some stuff for anxiety earlier this spring and they (the terrors) disappeared for a month or so. Unfortunately, so did my ability to think clearly and feel clearly, and my sense of humour and my appetite and my sex drive and the list goes on. Four months later most of it is back. The appetite is waking up slowly, though, and I'm still can't come. GRRRRRRRRRR!

 

[Marquis]

I just had a nightmare that the more I think about it, the more I think was not a nightmare.

My entire reality feels shaken. I'm being told to do something, I need to figure out what.

 

[rosco rathbone]

i've tried all the things youre supposed to do, and sometimes they work. looking forward to something nice i bought myself coming in the mail in the next couple days. ive talked to friends about it, listened to music, gone out shopping, got a hug from someone who cares about me, cuddled my kitty cat...they all work, sometimes.

SSP sighting.