What do you consider a BBW? or How fat is fat?

[Llyren]

I've been lurking here for quite some time, even before I began posting, and I see a wide variety of definitions for "bbw". Some seem to think that it only includes women who are simply normal-sized and curvy. Others that it includes up to "x" size. For most people there seems to be a point beyond which people go from being a "bbw" to being "fat" or "obese". I hate that word. It sounds so greasy and sordid. Personally, I used the word fat. I am fat. I also have red hair, bluish eyes, and a very witty and charming, albeit snarky disposition. It's just a word.

My point, and I do have one, is this. How big do you like your women? Is there a point beyond which you just go "ewwww"?

 

[Mavrik316]

I posted on this Subject in the Seeking BBW thread.. But ill say it agian..


Fat is not physical. Fat is Mental. Fat is the Mental embodiment of all things unpleasant. Every heard a woman so small her Ribs are sticking out say shes Fat? I have. Why? Because shes unhappy. Fat is no longer a term used to describe a physical Situation. Fat is a term used to describe how you feel in relation to how you believe you should feel, and how Society has lead you to believe you should feel.

I will however, say, That if you have Rolls of Skin ontop of your Tits, IE You lift up a skin roll to Find your nipples, You got a problem. I have personally in my life never met a woman i felt was too big. Because simple its attitude, and personality. Sounds Stupid right? Wrong. If you feel sexy, and know your Sexy, you will have a vibe of Sexiness. Even if its that Shy innocent Plump Type of Sexiness. Society has Forced this Barbi image onto the Unsuspecting minds of countless millions of impressionable young women and forced them to contort there bodies into horrid shadows of what some Gay designer in France thought looked good. News Flash, Straight guys go after women.. not gay guys.. so why do women care what a gay man says you should wear? (Ive never understood that one nor am i saying all designers are gay.. just most). I walk down the Beach and i see these Twigy woman with bones sticking out of places i never knew bones were, wondering why doesnt she EAT SOMETHING? Now, i am not saying that Petite women are not Beautiful either. I know quite a few petite beautiful women, but, there is a huge difference between petite by design and petite because you shove a Dowel rod down your throat nightly so you vomit up everything you just ate.

But, im ranting so ill leave it at this..

Big is Beautiful, never met a woman that i felt was 'unbeautiful because she was too big'. Ive seen women that needed to lose weight for health reasons, and there is a line. However, I have a general rule. If you can Ride me for hours with out snapping my back in 1/2, Your Fine just the way you are.

 

[Woodmiester]

I have to agree with most of Mavrik's comments and will add a few.

I've seen and met some ladies that fit into the "normal", "thin" and "skinny" outlines and they were unattractive and or nasty just like some of the "fat" ladies I've met. It is mosrtly attitude and ugly comes in all shapes and sizes. It's how you carry yourself, how you take care of yourself and how you think that is going to be attractive to another or turn them off.

Sadly some people that are bigger have lost hope or given up and they don't care abuot themself. They dress in sweats or some other items trying to hide something which for me turns me off. I don't like sweats on anyone, thin or fat.
They eat like slobs, they being anyone that eats like a slob. Nothing revolts me faster than seeing someone spill something down their front and then laughing it off and or picking it up and eating it. That type of slob holds no title on fat or thin.

Somewhere, someone is going to go bonkers over your looks no matter what shape your body is in but as said, if you have rolls on top of rolls your not helping yourself at all.

Big can be beautiful just like thin can be ugly so it's all in your thinking.

 

[Vay]

I thought we discussed this before, Llyren. It's all about how you categorize yourself. Everyone else has varying opinions and the one that matters the most is your own.

What do you consider yourself? That is your classification.

 

[Vay]

Oh, and as for how big is too big...

Bulges are nice, rolls are not. A plump pouch of flesh is pleasing to the touch, but if you have to lift layers to get to it, then it's a turn off.

Hope that's sufficient.

 

[showuoff]

Why Only Women?

The term "big and beautiful" only seems to be applied by women to themselves. How often have you seen a man describe himself as a bbm or a bhm (big handsome man)? You won't find many.

Men are not as concerned with their body image, and therefore don't feel the unfortunate need to warn people about it.

A woman can be built like a female wrestler -- 6 ft. 4, shoulders to make a pro football player jealous. If she is also thin, she says she is tall, but does not call herself a bbw.

To the women who use the term, bbw means fat. Not necessarily in real terms but fat in the eyes of the women herself.

The term bbw always seemed to me to reflect an ego problem on the part of the women who use it. It as if they are so concerned about their body shape, that they are warning people in advance to avoid being put down.

It's ridiculous. I have seen 5'4 petite ladies who happen to have some yummy curves, describe themselves as bbw's.

Sexy is as sexy does. I have seen some very heavy ladies who I love to showoff and who are an unbelievable turn on because they believe they are sexy. They feel sexy and act sexy. They don't dwell on their weight, and consequently the people around them don't dwell on their weight.

I have met perfectly beautiful, average-bodied women who could have been sexy, but are not, because they think they are fat and ugly and no one will want them.

Ladies, be sexy, know you are sexy, and stop worrying about whether you are a bbw. Sure some people will be cruel. But some people will be cruel to thin ladies too. Know they are jerks with no opinion and move on. It's their loss.

Of course I never mind a woman of any weight who feels like my telling her to showoff her body is humiliating, and then does it.

 

[Erotica_Writings]

Bodacious

Don't like the word *big*, don't like the word *fat* don't like the word obese......
I use Bodacious and I don't care if you have rolls on top of rolls of flesh its the heart that is going to turn me on.......there are bodacious *MEN* and *WOMEN* through out the world........some are so unhappy they do leave their homes because of people who are so cruel, they hurt in their bodies, they hurt .........
I hate when someone tells a bodacious person to *JUST* stop eating.......thats like telling a stupid person to get smart quick......before they can lose the weight they have to love themselves and people do not make it easy to love your self....when they are picking fun at you. I grounded my daughter to her room for a day when I heard her calling another child fatty and laughing at that child with her friends.......she has not picked fun at anyone else since she was 10 and she is twenty six now

 

[jadedlili76]

There are so many words used to describe BBWs. (Big, heavy, fat, curvy, statuesque, large, plus sized, etc.) But they are just that... words. It's sorta like calling a classic car old without seeing the heart and soul that the car has. Okay, that my be a little far fetched for some people but work with me here.

I think it's human nature to want to catagorize people. And when that happens, stereotyping isn't too far behind. I am considered to be a BBW myself. Some of the stereotypes about eating all the time, poor hygine, being dumb, and talking with that voice that suggests that they are talking with their mouthes full are insulting and down right untrue.

Also, it seems that BBWs get more negative attention than the BHM do. That is totally unfair but hey... that's life. I guess the point that I'm trying to get to is don't worry about classifying BBWs cuz they are all women with hearts and compassion and sexual appetites (I don't know who started that rumor that big girls don't like sex. Whoever it was should be shot!). However, if you really need to classify then a BBW is any woman who doesn't fit the description of thin. We BBWs are like ice cream; there are many flavors and they are all good!

 

[Erotica_Writings]

There are so many words used to describe BBWs. (Big, heavy, fat, curvy, statuesque, large, plus sized, etc.) But they are just that... words. It's sorta like calling a classic car old without seeing the heart and soul that the car has. Okay, that my be a little far fetched for some people but work with me here.

I think it's human nature to want to catagorize people. And when that happens, stereotyping isn't too far behind. I am considered to be a BBW myself. Some of the stereotypes about eating all the time, poor hygine, being dumb, and talking with that voice that suggests that they are talking with their mouthes full are insulting and down right untrue.

Also, it seems that BBWs get more negative attention than the BHM do. That is totally unfair but hey... that's life. I guess the point that I'm trying to get to is don't worry about classifying BBWs cuz they are all women with hearts and compassion and sexual appetites (I don't know who started that rumor that big girls don't like sex. Whoever it was should be shot!). However, if you really need to classify then a BBW is any woman who doesn't fit the description of thin. We BBWs are like ice cream; there are many flavors and they are all good!

*Standing ovation! *

 

[jadedlili76]

*Standing ovation! *

*is humbled* Sometimes you just have to vent it all out. hehe.

 

[Erotica_Writings]

*is humbled* Sometimes you just have to vent it all out. hehe.

How true .......

 

[NaughtyLove]

Re: Why Only Women?

The term "big and beautiful" only seems to be applied by women to themselves.

Girls like myself use the label BBW simply because we know that plenty of people do not desire bigger significant others/sex partners/etc. Personally, I don't want to waste my time with someone who is closed minded enough to think that a large woman can't possibly be sexy or entice pleasurable sexual feelings from another person. I am a big girl and I know that there are people who look at me in disgust because they wonder how I could 'let myself go', so I attach the BBW label to any description I give of myself.

There were a couple of other things I wanted to say, but I've lost my train of thought. lol

 

[Erotica_Writings]

Re: Re: Why Only Women?

Girls like myself use the label BBW simply because we know that plenty of people do not desire bigger significant others/sex partners/etc. Personally, I don't want to waste my time with someone who is closed minded enough to think that a large woman can't possibly be sexy or entice pleasurable sexual feelings from another person. I am a big girl and I know that there are people who look at me in disgust because they wonder how I could 'let myself go', so I attach the BBW label to any description I give of myself.

There were a couple of other things I wanted to say, but I've lost my train of thought. lol

You know I have met women and *men* who areliving large.....I am living large and proud I do not care who thinks I am sexually attractive , and the ones that do wouldn't trade me for the world. I am not self concious of my breast like alot of the *Thinner* women are and mine are real 42 DD GOD MADE NOT PLASTIC SURGEON MADE.....I don't worry about having a flat ass because believe me Erotica Writings had got back.....lol so I don't have to have my ass lifted and made fatter, my lips are full so they are already done( no colligen shots for me)...hey I am all real, 100% female just like all the other Bodacious Beautiful Women and those Bodacious handsome men. 90 % of your Barbies are not 100 % female without the help of nip & tuck....which I really like that show too

 

[Vay]

On the ego "problem"...

Most of the women I know who consider themselves BBW say so proudly. That they're glad their big, that it empowers them.

So I personally think that the whole low self-esteem, using BBW as a "warning" is bunk.

That's what experience has taught me anyway.

 

[Erotica_Writings]

On the ego "problem"...

Most of the women I know who consider themselves BBW say so proudly. That they're glad their big, that it empowers them.

So I personally think that the whole low self-esteem, using BBW as a "warning" is bunk.

That's what experience has taught me anyway.

Alot of women as well as men say they are proud, and a lot say it but do not mean it.....if you have a husband, wife, lover, stranger calling you names its kind of hard not to be wore down. Considering that *Most* of America is *Living Large* and the news at least here says that most Americans have eating disorders well maybe the BBW and BHM are the ones who are normal and its the ones with the thin bodys who have the pretty face, but could be so much more prettier if they were a few pounds heavier. My point is who are we to judge a book by the cover, read the story first then voice an opinion LOL I feel like our channel 7 anchor person.......LOL

 

[Vay]

Re: Bodacious

...I use Bodacious...

I'm rather fond of the word callipygous!

 

[Erotica_Writings]

Re: Re: Bodacious

I'm rather fond of the word callipygous!

as long as it makes you happy, but sounds painful

 

[Vay]

It's only painful if you pay for it!

 

[Erotica_Writings]

It's only painful if you pay for it!

um that sounds naughty......... hmm could be a tempting subject...... Vay now look at what you have done your corrupting my (CHOKING) innocent mind

 

[Vay]

um that sounds naughty......... hmm could be a tempting subject...... Vay now look at what you have done your corrupting my (CHOKING) innocent mind

Oh we both know there's nothing innocent about erotica!

 

[Erotica_Writings]

Oh we both know there's nothing innocent about erotica!

hey I resemble that a lot........

 

[Vay]

hey I resemble that a lot........

Indeed!

 

[Erotica_Writings]

Indeed!

well got to see the fire works have a good one

 

[tigerjen]

I have a few lbs to lose, but I call myself voluptuous and
I accept that I'm never going to be a skinny minnie.

For those who have met me in person, they like/love
me for who *I AM*......its all about personality and
attitude!

However I do have those days where I feel fat and
all that jazz----many of us do.

I will say this....while attitude and personality are a part
of how a person carries themselves, it also helps to be
ACTIVE in terms of being involved with work, volunteering/
community service, going out w/ friends, even going out
and doing some physical activity that they are comfortable
with (i.e. swimming, walking, sex devil: ) ). Those who
are very heavy and are not active are going to feel
despondent and wondering why this, and why that. That
is only my opinion of course.

I do not consider myself a BBW.....I describe myself as
curvy & voluptuous.


tigerjen

 

[Erotica_Writings]

I have a few lbs to lose, but I call myself voluptuous and
I accept that I'm never going to be a skinny minnie.

For those who have met me in person, they like/love
me for who *I AM*......its all about personality and
attitude!

However I do have those days where I feel fat and
all that jazz----many of us do.

I will say this....while attitude and personality are a part
of how a person carries themselves, it also helps to be
ACTIVE in terms of being involved with work, volunteering/
community service, going out w/ friends, even going out
and doing some physical activity that they are comfortable
with (i.e. swimming, walking, sex devil: ) ). Those who
are very heavy and are not active are going to feel
despondent and wondering why this, and why that. That
is only my opinion of course.

I do not consider myself a BBW.....I describe myself as
curvy & voluptuous.


tigerjen

That is very true if you excersize the body as well as the mind it keeps you from eating.......Ok all serious now, a depressed person puts on weight because the food becomes a drug, like an addict to break the habit you have to keep your mind and hands occupied. your mind is off of it and you get through it. It takes 21 times to create a habit and a life time battling it. so if you lose weight to a safe zone where your heart, and body organs are not being effected you still have to maintain just like a drug addict and you can only get through it one second at a time no long range plans......Hey I didn't eat a second ago. yea, then it builds to a minute, and hour. to eating three times a day.
I am a bodacious woman , I know there are people out there who want to lay down and die because of their weight. Don't give up, your not a lone, hell I would be happy to talk to anyone who needed a friend to get through the depression.
Ok I am getting off of my band wagon now, sorry for the longness its just I had a friend who died because of her weight and it was painful to watch.

sorry if their is any missing words or typos