What do women REALLY want......

[bethyj32]

This isn't an easy thread to write......I know a lot of people read my threads on this board. And though it may appear as if I'm purely sexual, I am not........In fact I'd say probably 90% of the women who come here are looking for somthing "MORE" then just sex......(For those that need exclusive sex there's still 10%..wink)
And I also believe that even though men are very physical creatures, on a deeper level they want someone to be there for them. Make them feel like Kings....
But first there needs to be a connection, a "SPARK"...........Once you find that "SPARK" its like wild fire.....You find yourself writing/talking for hours.......Thinking what they're doing at that very moment........etc,etc.....
I believe whole heartedly EVERY woman is empowered with a sence of grace,poise, and dignity that men crave.......Some of us however may hide it, or lose it, due to our lives in general........So this explains why some women attract men so freely, while others don't......It may be a "MANS" world, but ladies we are powerful creatures, everyone of us......We just need to know how to use the gifts God gave us.......And this is all coming from a woman who's coming out of 8 yrs. of Hell.........Believe me, ITS BEEN AN AMAZING TRANSFORMATION!!!!!!!!!!
Men, if there's a woman you want so desperately you feel like you can't breathe, and your always aching for her.......Get to KNOW her.....Speak to her mind......Get into her head.........But it all goes back to "Sparks".........If there's no "Spark" for her, then thats that......Go on.........Someone WILL feel that "Spark" eventually........But don't come off like a sex crazed maniac.......Its all well and good if the "Sparks" in place, and you know its mutual, but to write a woman up and say,"Hey lets fuck." Without a connection.......You'll be tuned out and ignored...Thats sending a message of," I just need a hole to stick my dick in.........Any hole will do." Its not flattering, or sexy......Not to me at least.....Others may disagree.......
So lets say you've found someone who makes your heart beat faster, and you desperately crave them......What do you do to "SHOW" them you care? Its really quite simple......Tell them......I'm not talking about spray painting it on a highway over pass, but alot of women are still strong heartfelt romantics.....If your at work, write them a brief e-mail or IM them and simply say,"I miss you".....If you have time sending e-cards are very sweet and inexpensive.....Call her for no reason at all..........Just to hear her voice......Maybe if the mood permits, give her a little tease....If she's really into you she'll reciprocate. This is when things can get hot.......There are numerous ways to "Make love/fuck" with the use of a phone......And from what I've learned thus far.......Its ALL about how the man treats the woman......IF she is treated like a Queen,princess,angel,lil girl.......With heart; well, you can't go wrong..........This is only my view, and I hope it hits home for some guys.....But if your just looking for a booty call, well continue what your doing........There's still about 10% on that same wave length........If I'm wrong I stand corrected.....

Sorry so long........
Have a great day....

Beth

 

[LeahLo519]

Well said. Seriously...I think about shit like that all the time and don't even know where to start if I feel like writing it down. I especially like what you said about women having a certain grace a poise that men find appealing. I've always known that there was something magical about all women, no matter how they look, but I couldn't think of how to word it. You articulated it perfectly.

 

[bethyj32]

Leah......

Men just don't seem to get women, and its time they know about ''us". Hopefully we'll open more then a few eyes. There are a very few however who do understand.

God Bless Sweetie!

Beth

 

[young_n_horny84]

This isn't an easy thread to write......I know a lot of people read my threads on this board. And though it may appear as if I'm purely sexual, I am not........In fact I'd say probably 90% of the women who come here are looking for somthing "MORE" then just sex......(For those that need exclusive sex there's still 10%..wink)
And I also believe that even though men are very physical creatures, on a deeper level they want someone to be there for them. Make them feel like Kings....
But first there needs to be a connection, a "SPARK"...........Once you find that "SPARK" its like wild fire.....You find yourself writing/talking for hours.......Thinking what they're doing at that very moment........etc,etc.....
I believe whole heartedly EVERY woman is empowered with a sence of grace,poise, and dignity that men crave.......Some of us however may hide it, or lose it, due to our lives in general........So this explains why some women attract men so freely, while others don't......It may be a "MANS" world, but ladies we are powerful creatures, everyone of us......We just need to know how to use the gifts God gave us.......And this is all coming from a woman who's coming out of 8 yrs. of Hell.........Believe me, ITS BEEN AN AMAZING TRANSFORMATION!!!!!!!!!!
Men, if there's a woman you want so desperately you feel like you can't breathe, and your always aching for her.......Get to KNOW her.....Speak to her mind......Get into her head.........But it all goes back to "Sparks".........If there's no "Spark" for her, then thats that......Go on.........Someone WILL feel that "Spark" eventually........But don't come off like a sex crazed maniac.......Its all well and good if the "Sparks" in place, and you know its mutual, but to write a woman up and say,"Hey lets fuck." Without a connection.......You'll be tuned out and ignored...Thats sending a message of," I just need a hole to stick my dick in.........Any hole will do." Its not flattering, or sexy......Not to me at least.....Others may disagree.......
So lets say you've found someone who makes your heart beat faster, and you desperately crave them......What do you do to "SHOW" them you care? Its really quite simple......Tell them......I'm not talking about spray painting it on a highway over pass, but alot of women are still strong heartfelt romantics.....If your at work, write them a brief e-mail or IM them and simply say,"I miss you".....If you have time sending e-cards are very sweet and inexpensive.....Call her for no reason at all..........Just to hear her voice......Maybe if the mood permits, give her a little tease....If she's really into you she'll reciprocate. This is when things can get hot.......There are numerous ways to "Make love/fuck" with the use of a phone......And from what I've learned thus far.......Its ALL about how the man treats the woman......IF she is treated like a Queen,princess,angel,lil girl.......With heart; well, you can't go wrong..........This is only my view, and I hope it hits home for some guys.....But if your just looking for a booty call, well continue what your doing........There's still about 10% on that same wave length........If I'm wrong I stand corrected.....

Sorry so long........
Have a great day....

Beth

thanks for sharing all of this information I know that alot of guys (myself included) can benefit from this. the only problem with just calling her at random is when you know she has to leave for work in like 10 minutes...then getting her all worked up isn't a good thing

 

[bethyj32]

hummmmmmm

It can be......

Wink

Beth

 

[cinnamonstick]

Great post Beth, I do agree with what you said. Nothing can turn a woman off faster than a guy saying "I'd love to fuck you" when he doesn't know u at all. Not a compliment. It might be a bit of work for a guy to get to know a woman but it is well worth the reward.

 

[young_n_horny84]

not when you have been yelled at for it before *lol*

 

[Scooby_Dew]

my opinion

I think what women really want is for someone to clean their house!!

 

[young_n_horny84]

hey! not ALL men are lazy...just most of us

 

[bethyj32]

Tooo funny boys.....

Thanks for the little laugh....But seriously, I have a sign thats beside my front door that reads as follows," My fantasy, 2 men. 1 to cook and 1 to clean."

Giggle

beth

 

[motorhomemale]

Very good post! There is something about a womens body that is beautiful. The curves, soft skin etc. Then you mix in the poise and everything that was listed above and you have a WOMEN.

BUT, remember the title of a new book that is out right now: Men Will Put You On A Pedestel So They Can Look Up Your Skirt. Just had to add that!

 

[SensualGent69]

This isn't an easy thread to write......I know a lot of people read my threads on this board. And though it may appear as if I'm purely sexual, I am not........In fact I'd say probably 90% of the women who come here are looking for somthing "MORE" then just sex......(For those that need exclusive sex there's still 10%..wink)
And I also believe that even though men are very physical creatures, on a deeper level they want someone to be there for them. Make them feel like Kings....
But first there needs to be a connection, a "SPARK"...........Once you find that "SPARK" its like wild fire.....You find yourself writing/talking for hours.......Thinking what they're doing at that very moment........etc,etc.....
I believe whole heartedly EVERY woman is empowered with a sence of grace,poise, and dignity that men crave.......Some of us however may hide it, or lose it, due to our lives in general........So this explains why some women attract men so freely, while others don't......It may be a "MANS" world, but ladies we are powerful creatures, everyone of us......We just need to know how to use the gifts God gave us.......And this is all coming from a woman who's coming out of 8 yrs. of Hell.........Believe me, ITS BEEN AN AMAZING TRANSFORMATION!!!!!!!!!!
Men, if there's a woman you want so desperately you feel like you can't breathe, and your always aching for her.......Get to KNOW her.....Speak to her mind......Get into her head.........But it all goes back to "Sparks".........If there's no "Spark" for her, then thats that......Go on.........Someone WILL feel that "Spark" eventually........But don't come off like a sex crazed maniac.......Its all well and good if the "Sparks" in place, and you know its mutual, but to write a woman up and say,"Hey lets fuck." Without a connection.......You'll be tuned out and ignored...Thats sending a message of," I just need a hole to stick my dick in.........Any hole will do." Its not flattering, or sexy......Not to me at least.....Others may disagree.......
So lets say you've found someone who makes your heart beat faster, and you desperately crave them......What do you do to "SHOW" them you care? Its really quite simple......Tell them......I'm not talking about spray painting it on a highway over pass, but alot of women are still strong heartfelt romantics.....If your at work, write them a brief e-mail or IM them and simply say,"I miss you".....If you have time sending e-cards are very sweet and inexpensive.....Call her for no reason at all..........Just to hear her voice......Maybe if the mood permits, give her a little tease....If she's really into you she'll reciprocate. This is when things can get hot.......There are numerous ways to "Make love/fuck" with the use of a phone......And from what I've learned thus far.......Its ALL about how the man treats the woman......IF she is treated like a Queen,princess,angel,lil girl.......With heart; well, you can't go wrong..........This is only my view, and I hope it hits home for some guys.....But if your just looking for a booty call, well continue what your doing........There's still about 10% on that same wave length........If I'm wrong I stand corrected.....

Sorry so long........
Have a great day....

Beth

I couldn't have stayed married 31 years if I didn't know all this!

But, sometimes "GUYS jus wanna have fun!"

 

[foxhunter]

On the ball!

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[bethyj32]

Very True.........

The way women & men relate to each other is a very difficult thing to explain. In my heart I believe we were ment to be the opposite sex's equal......Not inferior. Hense explaining a self-assured woman in a man's world. But if a self assured woman shows sexual prowess, or determination she's either a "slut", or too masculinized to be truely female. I am very self-assured, very picky, very determined. I've had to be. In this life I've had, I've carried a man for many years who couldn't carry himself. So now a little jaded, I hope to help others. Men and women. Not saying I know everything about men, because just like women they're complicated. But the bottom line is fairly simple: Men and Women can relate openly. Its comunication that really is the key. We need to communicate our needs, hopes,dreams,fantasys,desires..........By doing so the man has his masculinity rubbed......Not ego (ego is the lesser of 2 base evils, thus I choose masculinity).He becomes the King he deserves to be, because men are amazing and deserve to be treated as such......And we in turn become Queens........A man can not help but love/want a woman he's already attracted to who tells him HOW amazing he is, and then he'll put YOU were you belong.....Not necessarily on a pedistal, but enshrined in his heart...

Beth
Just my thoughts

 

[young_n_horny84]

The way women & men relate to each other is a very difficult thing to explain. In my heart I believe we were ment to be the opposite sex's equal......Not inferior. Hense explaining a self-assured woman in a man's world. But if a self assured woman shows sexual prowess, or determination she's either a "slut", or too masculinized to be truely female. I am very self-assured, very picky, very determined. I've had to be. In this life I've had, I've carried a man for many years who couldn't carry himself. So now a little jaded, I hope to help others. Men and women. Not saying I know everything about men, because just like women they're complicated. But the bottom line is fairly simple: Men and Women can relate openly. Its comunication that really is the key. We need to communicate our needs, hopes,dreams,fantasys,desires..........By doing so the man has his masculinity rubbed......Not ego (ego is the lesser of 2 base evils, thus I choose masculinity).He becomes the King he deserves to be, because men are amazing and deserve to be treated as such......And we in turn become Queens........A man can not help but love/want a woman he's already attracted to who tells him HOW amazing he is, and then he'll put YOU were you belong.....Not necessarily on a pedistal, but enshrined in his heart...

Beth
Just my thoughts

this was a problem I ran into with my now ex-girlfriend who is now my best friend. while we were dating we were never open about who we were, so we couldn't fully be ourselves. we broke up in april and just a few weeks ag we both admitted to somethign huge in our lives we thought the other would never accept. we realised that this was huge for us as friends because it's somethign that WE share

 

[bethyj32]

hello?

Bump
wink
bump


Beth

 

[Rimmugýgur]

I think the main problem is that most people don't really understand others. And then I'm not just talking about the opposite sex, but literally all other people. Only with prior, comparable experiences does a glimmer of understanding shine between people, but mostly we seem to wander around in a sort of a fog.

The other reason behind the "gender divide" is most likely the hugely differing sex drives. To simplify things, we men are geared towards as much sex as possible, with as many women as possible (to maximize the spread of our genes), while women, being restricted by a 9-month pregnancy, benefit more from being "selective".

Then of course comes the whole deal with personality and differing sexual urges, and complicates things a whole damn lot.

As for commitment, it's the same thing there: women benefit more from a stable partner than men. During pregnancy and raising children, things that are *on a genetic level* more up the woman's alley, she and the children need protection and support, i.e. a man. Sounds overly sexist? Look at the basic differences in musculature, size and stature between men and women. Men are stronger and larger, with better capacity for endurance (although the difference here is much less than in strength). Women, on the other hand, seem to be better equipped to deal with social situations, although it can be debated whether this is because of pure genetic differences or because of society itself.

I'm not saying that women are inferior. Au contraire, women need less food to survive, a big plus in pre-civilized times. It's simply a matter of how you want to measure said "superiority".

Of course, in today's modern societies, the reasons behind said differences have vanished. However, the thing about evolution is that it never really happens very fast, short of mutation. And all the instincts, tendencies and urges that allowed us to survive in the bushes have carried over all this time, and still control our day-to-day lives.

Ask yourself this... how many women fantasize about being "rescued" by the white knight? How many men fantasize about being said white knight? It's something right out of the stone age, perpetuated both by instinct and legends. We protect, you nurture. This isn't going to change very soon.

Equality is all good and fine and great, but equality is hard to achieve when the two sides are so fundamentally different yet dependant upon each other. Not to mention that equality tends to be stupidly hard to define once you start reaching the balance between the sexes.

 

[Shdwpro]

A labyrinth to span the ages.......

I greatly enjoyed reading your thoughts on how the "mind" of a woman "works" in abbreviated terms. I have spent years and, unfortunately at times relationships, in the quest of better understanding how the genders work inconjunction with and in opposition to one another. In my mind, the most intriguing and usually most frusttrating facet to this crystal is the ever-changing societal expectation of what the male and female "roles" are. When it comes to relationships, I want an equal. Not in the "this is easy to say on the surface but I'm really just trying to APPEAR sensitive" way but in the "let us each put one leg in the pants.....or the damn sarong for that matter" way. In striving to articulate and, in doing so illustrate that desire through words AND actions, I was quick to find out that, in more situations than not, there were VERY mixed signals. In some cases the person I was interested in exhibited every personaluty trait that sparked every ounce of my interest: independent, articulate, strong-willed yet even keeled, fair, tender, able to come in like a storm when neccessary and still able to expose her vulnerable side during the quiet moments. Time and time again I saw this and it gave me hope........time and time again though, the strengths that seemed so fundamental gave way to insecurities, meek behavior that would appear in very cheesy and unecessary ways as if they had been "programmed" to display that way from past events.......
Things like intimacy, something that I indeed profess is EXTREMELY important to me would, in many cases, be as "in-your-face" as anyone would desire at first and then, in the blink of an eye go from 40 to 0 mph without as little as a "this is why".
I am by no means saying that this is the norm for all but, in saying that, I am also throwing out a "here here" to what some of the other respondees have said in reference COMMUNICATION. Not only is this an imperative thing for any aspect of a relationship but essential in the quest to wrap each others mind, body, soul, etc. around a journey that can be taken SIDE-BY-SIDE if only for a brief moment in history. BOTH/ALL parties involved should be able to leave there "armour" at the door and come to the tral head with little more than a common eagerness to see where the path leads.........
I apologize for the long-windedness but this is something that I find extrememly intriguing....

Shdw

 

[bethyj32]

bottom line

God made men and women equal in ALL things. But also made us different. Men are visually stimulated through what they SEE, women are stimulated through
what we FEEL.
For example; a couple have been married for 12 yrs. They're walking through the store. His wife is lovely, yet not dolled up to the hilt. Just every day. And in walks a 5'7 stacked female. Dressed to the hilt. Male reaction,"HOLY shit.......I'd fuck that." From the eyes,to the brain, to the penis. And whats the woman thinking? " She's pretty." For the most part, women don't become sexually attracted to other women.(nothing ment by that derogatory)
Occasionally we may become emotionally bonded to a female. As I am now. She's my best friend for over a yr now. We tell eachother we love eachother. Its platonic. Not physical. Am I attracted to her? Yes. BECAUSE we're inside eachothers heads. Would I sleep with her? No. BUT what I'm trying to say here is if men could try a little less macho, a little more heart they'd sure get alot father. And girls try a little more tough manliness, dominance we'd all be happy campers. I suspect everyone needs to get in touch with their femanine/masculine sides.
What we all really want is to just get along.


Beth

 

[Rimmugýgur]

Most of us amble through life on autopilot. Consciousness is like a sideshow along the road set before us. The lucky ones break out.

I also think that alot of the time, any advice given on how to "attract the other sex" is inaccurate. If it wasn't, we'd all be the same and sterile. But nice guys finish last, because nice guys aren't brash and showy and don't attract alot of attention. And without attention there is no impression.

You always hear women saying things like "I just want a sweet, caring man", and men saying "I want a strong woman with integrity". Then they run after the next meat that walks by. We're not really meant to be able to actually affect our own actions, I think. The body does the living for us.

 

[bethyj32]

meat and other such titilations.......

I'm curious by the thought of meat? Are women meat? Are men meat? Is it possible to have a woman who's both sexually aware and have integrity & pride?

I believe so, yes. Its called a confidant woman. I'd like to believe I am one, all I really want is honesty. Not just a brain/heart fucking job. But honestly we all are who we are, and really sexuality makes us do things that we wouldn't normally.

As we speak I think of someone who makes me weak; I'd walk through glass to touch. But then I realize,"Hold up girl! Danger ahead."

The appearance of a strong, confidant, virile man is like an aphrodisiac. You know the one ladies. His eyes are powerful,lips warm......And God you want him. Don't know why, don't care. Its a primal need. It goes back to pre-historic times.

We've all heard that song,"DO IT LIKE THEY DO IT ON THE DISCOVERY CHANNEL." Thats it, all over. You want that with this man.If there's anyone out there that can explain this, I'm all ears.

Then there are the others. Quiet, gentle, kind.....Loyal.We're with them for 2 seconds, and we're off. So simply put; are there men that are both? Its an evolution in sexual compatibility.Being, and becoming are the keys. Don't change me, I won't change you. But we all tend to evolve for our partners, cause we do. Its human nature.

* Side note/But honestly all I really want this second is a really good fuck; with a honest & good man.......(Abit of the bad boy would be nice too!....Wink)That wants me....Like most women do.

Beth

 

[chickman44]

Always learning...

Thanks for the intriguing thread, I'm amazed at the depth of the responses you've been getting. Normally I have an opinion on everything, but recent circumstances have humbled me greatly on the subject of understanding women and their needs, desires, turn-ons, etc. I appreciate the time you all have taken to respond and I hope to put your thoughts to practical use.

Speaking of practical, I know one thing for sure: Any time a woman tells me she needs a "really good fuck", I drop what I'm doing and take care of business. If only it were always that simple...

 

[JBroadrunner]

Hi Bethy

Hi:

You are a breath of fresh air and your thoughts reflect mine. I am a bit older than you-59 to be exact. I respect women and their thoughts and desires. I have loved and been loved and obviously not without a wealth of experience.

I can be as happy in most cases with a good e-mail or more relationship with a Lady as I can with a sensual physical one which brings partners to an inspiring climax.

I do feel men and women are very much equal with similar in yet different feelings and emotions. Chemistry is important and can be found and recognized in distant relationships as well as close physical contact.

Like you, I love sex, but it cannot be impersonal. It must have meaning, feeling and mutual satisfaction.

Ever want to chat, PM or e-mail me. Hope my comments are in line with your thoughts.

Yours
JB

 

[bethyj32]

Wow!

I'm amazed at the amount of people who have been here! I do believe we have hit a very real conundrum, or quandry. Can you believe it! Opposite sex's are talking!!!!!!!!!Shock & awe..........And I'm in awe. About my side note: YES I want a good fuck.....BUT only with someone who wants me, for me.....All of me, just as I am....Period.No head games. To hurtful, and too easy online. So think real when you think of me.

But honestly boys I'm so very happy we're all on the same page........Just wish a couple of you could drop everything, and um......Help me with some..Er.....Needs here at home......GOD could use some romance, steamy sex...cuddling.......BUT I'm a lady (CROSSING HER LEGS)......Not so easy...........And I want more then a 1 nighter......I really need a loving companion.

Ok......So How bout you'all?

Beth

 

[bethyj32]

oh ya..almost forgot

And gentleman; IF you see a beautiful stacked woman, talk to her face not her chest. She'll know you want her more that way, and mayhaps you'll get a little somthing somthing.

Beth