What do the pros do for compassion fatigue?
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Is it take drugs?Hi.I’m a nurse! I’ve been working in the ER for several years and I’m also a middle school mental health nurse.
But I think I’m the worst one to answer your question.
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My post was real also.lol, no ma’am. Is this a real post?!
I haven’t found the perfect outlet for compassion fatigue. Maybe that’s why I’m here. I don’t feel like I get fatigued often, kind of the opposite. My middle school kiddos fill my cup.
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Do I get a free skillet with that?
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With someone you love, you don't have a choice.
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My volunteer work over the years has required a bit of compassion. I learned early not to take their problems home with me. Compassion for family or friends is different because it is at home. I have disciplined myself to use music as a way to escape the burden until I have to address it.
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My wife suffers from a chronic heart condition and has been basically house bound for the last 8 months. I’ve recently retired so my days are devoted to her care and running the house.
However, there are days I want to scream, days I want to cry and days I feel sorry for myself. There are too many emotions at work here to even begin to describe.
But I’ve noticed that even on the worst of days, I get up the next morning with hope she’ll have a better day even though I know she very likely won’t.
It’s just a little lie I tell myself so I can cope.
And yes, music helps as well as diving into documentaries late at night while she’s asleep to clear my head.
I’m spending as much time with her as I can nowadays and trying very hard to not dwell on the inevitable even though those thoughts are racing through my head as I fall asleep some nights.
However, there are days I want to scream, days I want to cry and days I feel sorry for myself. There are too many emotions at work here to even begin to describe.
But I’ve noticed that even on the worst of days, I get up the next morning with hope she’ll have a better day even though I know she very likely won’t.
It’s just a little lie I tell myself so I can cope.
And yes, music helps as well as diving into documentaries late at night while she’s asleep to clear my head.
I’m spending as much time with her as I can nowadays and trying very hard to not dwell on the inevitable even though those thoughts are racing through my head as I fall asleep some nights.
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The married ones unload on their spouses* for the first few years
and the single ones unload on the unwitting bar tender
who listens only in the hope of a future big tip
(... like never get married).
Eventually the "Pros" learn that you have to leave work at work and that recharges the compassion battery.
* Who have to learn to stay quiet, listen and not try to offer advice or solutions.
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That's dealing with beginning of life issues – never really a problem, they're brimming with hope and potential.lol, no ma’am. Is this a real post?!
I haven’t found the perfect outlet for compassion fatigue. Maybe that’s why I’m here. I don’t feel like I get fatigued often, kind of the opposite. My middle school kiddos fill my cup.
True, but my middle school kiddos live in poverty and have a lot of real life big people problems. Things way too heavy to be carrying at 11.
But my second job is in the ER so I see all stages of problematic lives there too.
Wow. That may be true for some, but couldn’t be further from the truth for me. Sad you feel that way.
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I'm in a caretaker role right now. I schedule time off and have respite care options. I try to create a village to help.
Sometimes all I can get is an hour a day to walk in a park or see a movie, but I take it whenever I can.
Having home health care, a nurse, to and pt gives me 1 1/2 hrs a week.
I doubt drugs would work for me, unless we drugged the ones I caretake
Also stay in touch with your friends even if you can't be with them.
If you don't have a laptop, get one.
Sometimes all I can get is an hour a day to walk in a park or see a movie, but I take it whenever I can.
Having home health care, a nurse, to and pt gives me 1 1/2 hrs a week.
I doubt drugs would work for me, unless we drugged the ones I caretake
Also stay in touch with your friends even if you can't be with them.
If you don't have a laptop, get one.
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