What Are You Thinking? Continued 4

[Sh75]

Why is this person pm'ing me?

Sorry i didnt think you would mind

 

[JennyNo1]

Sorry i didnt think you would mind

Someone advising me to always check people out before I meet them. What am I, twelve?

 

[BadAmy]

Someone advising me to always check people out before I meet them. What am I, twelve?

no, but it is nice to see you Jenny
xxo

that is what I am thinking right now

 

[Fugu_B]

Mortality, and gratefulness.

I'm sitting in my living room surrounded by my snoozing healthy kids while my friends son rests in a hospital bed......Hodgkin's.

 

[JennyNo1]

no, but it is nice to see you Jenny
xxo

that is what I am thinking right now

*pouncehugs!* I heard rumors of your return! Glad to see you!

 

[CaptainPineapple12]

I was here once before, I left and now I'm back again.

I'm thinking I'll leave again though.

 

[mnbreastluver]

Losing an eye is one of the few things that is way worse the second time around.

 

[AlwaysFara]

When I see everyone all lit up on Skype and wonder who is banging who.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Holy cow that was some loud thunder! That shook the house.

 

[Joe_Bob_Gautama]

Thinking about going to a store today and circling the same aisles several times while thinking, Surely, they must have condoms (before remembering where I live now, and thinking, Well, no, probably not). A really quite beautiful young woman was up on a step stool stocking shelves while I was doing this, and I began to fear I was making her uncomfortable. This was in a store where I overhear another employee talking about a customer recently jerking off in front of her, and I don’t want to add to their worry. I wanted to explain to this young woman everything I was thinking. That I wasn’t circling her, and that I was on an embarrassing mission with other thoughts in my head, and that even if I were inclined to lust after her, I’ve mislaid my glasses and couldn’t see her well enough to do a good job of lusting after her. But you can’t spill your guts in the checkout line.

 

[PlNKbits]

I like this place just some of the people are creepy


Are people really that into "relationships" on here they hide who the flirt or chat with?!

I can understand the real couples who have met and all of that. Even still you probably started off talking to more than just the one so what happened to the rest?
Do you send out I'm taken messages or something?

Not asking to be nosey I'm just curious.

 

[JennyNo1]

I like this place just some of the people are creepy


Are people really that into "relationships" on here they hide who the flirt or chat with?!

I can understand the real couples who have met and all of that. Even still you probably started off talking to more than just the one so what happened to the rest?
Do you send out I'm taken messages or something?

Not asking to be nosey I'm just curious.

People have all kinds of relationships here, just like in real life. If you're on the boards you'll get to know who some of the couples are. Some put it all out there in public, some are more low key about it, some of us keep it off the boards almost entirely. It's also going to vary as to how flirty those people are with others. The others you've flirted with? Same thing - just like IRL. You just tend to stop talking to them as you get closer to "the one" you're becoming a couple with. It's a fluid thing, again...just like real life. The difference is that it's easier to hide what you're doing or not doing online.

 

[Esslemont]

On a night as brilliant any glorious as this, when the Northern Lights dance, my soul aches to ascend and join its rhythm.

 

[PlNKbits]

People have all kinds of relationships here, just like in real life. If you're on the boards you'll get to know who some of the couples are. Some put it all out there in public, some are more low key about it, some of us keep it off the boards almost entirely. It's also going to vary as to how flirty those people are with others. The others you've flirted with? Same thing - just like IRL. You just tend to stop talking to them as you get closer to "the one" you're becoming a couple with. It's a fluid thing, again...just like real life. The difference is that it's easier to hide what you're doing or not doing online.

I think that's how I'm screwed I can't trust enough in real life to make it work and online is worst. I did it once and got hurt even if I shouldn't have, we were both honest in what it was.
I think I need a distance, I just can't keep it. Or they want a label for what we are doing and I'd rather not labelling it makes it real instead of fun.
In saying that I think the couple's on here I have seen interact are the sweetest thing. Melts my bitter heart

knowing me I'll come back and delete this before you even read my response lol

Thank you for trying to explain even if I still can't grasp it.

 

[MutualMatureMike]

I think that's how I'm screwed I can't trust enough in real life to make it work and online is worst. I did it once and got hurt even if I shouldn't have, we were both honest in what it was.
I think I need a distance, I just can't keep it. Or they want a label for what we are doing and I'd rather not labelling it makes it real instead of fun.
In saying that I think the couple's on here I have seen interact are the sweetest thing. Melts my bitter heart

knowing me I'll come back and delete this before you even read my response lol

Thank you for trying to explain even if I still can't grasp it.

That is a great openness you've shown even sharing that. It's a real reminder that all of us here are human, with emotions, needs, frailties, desires and hopes, not objects to be used or disposable items. The best service we can to eachother here is to show one another sensitivity I think.

 

[PlNKbits]

That is a great openness you've shown even sharing that. It's a real reminder that all of us here are human, with emotions, needs, frailties, desires and hopes, not objects to be used or disposable items. The best service we can to eachother here is to show one another sensitivity I think.

Thank you even if now I can't delete it when I'm sober lol

 

[MutualMatureMike]

Thank you even if now I can't delete it when I'm sober lol

Oh, I'm so sorry, I shouldn't have hit quote, would you like me to delete?

 

[PlNKbits]

Oh, I'm so sorry, I shouldn't have hit quote, would you like me to delete?

No it's ok.
It justifies me keeping it up

 

[tolyk]

I think that's how I'm screwed I can't trust enough in real life to make it work and online is worst. I did it once and got hurt even if I shouldn't have, we were both honest in what it was.
I think I need a distance, I just can't keep it. Or they want a label for what we are doing and I'd rather not labelling it makes it real instead of fun.
In saying that I think the couple's on here I have seen interact are the sweetest thing. Melts my bitter heart

knowing me I'll come back and delete this before you even read my response lol

Thank you for trying to explain even if I still can't grasp it.

For some it's deniability. Putting it out on the forums, anyone can see it.. even someone's spouse....

I'm openly in a relationship with LostgirlTink, everyone knows it. I'm still a huge flirt, but that's all it is, flirting. I'm happily married, and also with Tink. My wife and Tink have met, hugged, talk to one another. But, not everyone is in an open/poly relationship.

 

[LikeableMe]

I really needed to sleep, but my brain seems to have other ideas: “Hey, HEY! Now is the perfect time to think about all the things it’s too early to do anything about!”

 

[tolyk]

I really needed to sleep, but my brain seems to have other ideas: “Hey, HEY! Now is the perfect time to think about all the things it’s too early to do anything about!”

I feel your pain.

 

[Hornblende]

I really needed to sleep, but my brain seems to have other ideas: “Hey, HEY! Now is the perfect time to think about all the things it’s too early to do anything about!”

I feel your pain.

Yep, me too

 

[MutualMatureMike]

No it's ok.
It justifies me keeping it up

I'm glad I've done something useful.

 

[LikeableMe]

I’m not going to quote anyone directly, but the above is one of the things that won’t get out of my mind, and is preventing me sleeping. It’s so hard to know if people online are being real with you, it takes a lot of trust, and I have trust issues. My whole life I’ve been screwed over by anyone I trusted even a little. I’d make friends, become close, then introduce them to others in my life. Instead of becoming a wider group of friends, they would then go off and leave me. I’ve developed a belief that I’m the human equivalent of a pit stop - I fill a gap until someone better comes along. I keep thinking things are different, but they never are.

 

[tolyk]

I’m not going to quote anyone directly, but the above is one of the things that won’t get out of my mind, and is preventing me sleeping. It’s so hard to know if people online are being real with you, it takes a lot of trust, and I have trust issues. My whole life I’ve been screwed over by anyone I trusted even a little. I’d make friends, become close, then introduce them to others in my life. Instead of becoming a wider group of friends, they would then go off and leave me. I’ve developed a belief that I’m the human equivalent of a pit stop - I fill a gap until someone better comes along. I keep thinking things are different, but they never are.

I used to feel exactly the same way. I felt like a pit stop. I cant' tell you when that ended, but it did. I now have some amazing people in my life. You'll get there. You will. And I've messaged you before, and I'll say this again, if you ever need an ear, I'm around. Like, all the time.