What Are You Nosey About Today?? 🦝

[Mei5ter]

I’m fairly sure that’s what I said, just in a different way.

Thanks - I thought so, but I hope you don't mind me making sure I understood!

 

[Ratchetman1982]

So, I think we all have the propensity to be dicks to each other. But we also have the ability to be kind and welcoming. I don't mean that we should e-bone anyone that pms us. I just mean that we can try harder to be kind.

 

[hotcpu]

Women can be horrible to other women. It can be brutal. They can often be your best friend, or your worst enemy.
Word of mouth can be bad too.
all it takes is one person to say.. So and so is mean to me
and their friends now hate that person.
Without ever having asked that persons side of the story or questioning why.

Hopefully Sassy won't kill me. But you, Sassy, have been nothing but totally wonderful with me throughout these many years. And I hate it when I read these stories of men and women getting bullied and harassed on this site.

I just hope we all can treat one another with respect and flirtive fun. I know I flirt with many on this site and enjoy learning what makes each of you tick. And enjoy reading your stories and adventures. It is as much an expedition into more fun naughtiness and friendships. Thank you all for a fun ride.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Hopefully Sassy won't kill me. But you, Sassy, have been nothing but totally wonderful with me throughout these many years. And I hate it when I read these stories of men and women getting bullied and harassed on this site.

I just hope we all can treat one another with respect and flirtive fun. I know I flirt with many on this site and enjoy learning what makes each of you tick. And enjoy reading your stories and adventures. It is as much an expedition into more fun naughtiness and friendships. Thank you all for a fun ride.

Thank you. You've given me no reason not to.

But I'll be the first to admit, I have a pretty unattractive side too. It comes from insecurity. But if I can see it coming out. I can step away. I can 100% admit my flaws and I'll be the first to say I have a lot of crazy.

 

[Mei5ter]

Sassy I am going to jump on your comment here because it highlights a couple of things that have started to bother me since this thread started.

The first is to do with people who are “coupled up”. I wouldn’t have a clue because when I see stuff on the boards, unless it is blatantly obvious, I assume people are just flirting with each other. However I have had a couple of messages in which the people assumed I was “coupled up” with WerdNerd. I can honestly say we are not coupled in any way. So that worries me somewhat in that does my flirting with him prevent other women from messaging him? I would hate to think that was happening.

The second thing that bothers me is the women saying something bad about a guy just to stop other women talking to him. Does that really happen? Who would do that? Well I will use WN as an example again. There are a lot of guys I see big themselves up as gentlemen and then I think their idea of a gentleman is different to mine. WN on the other hand doesn’t big himself up that way but I can hand on heart say he is one of the most respectful, caring, witty, attentive, gentlemen that I have ever chatted to on here. Totally love him in the most platonic of ways (and seriously hope he doesn’t kill me for this)

This puzzles me too.

We all meet people with partners - married or whatever - every day. And our existing relationships survive just fine.

Is it the expectation that because this is a forum where people talk about sex (among other things), absolutely all self restraint is impossible??

 

[Chillygirl]

This puzzles me too.

We all meet people with partners - married or whatever - every day. And our existing relationships survive just fine.

Is it the expectation that because this is a forum where people talk about sex (among other things), absolutely all self restraint is impossible??

No but for some women it brings out a mean streak. I posted after a guy on one of the game threads…I was flirty. Turns out he had a “lit girlfriend” who stopped talking to him after sending me a nasty PM telling me to stay away from her man. So now if it looks like a guy is “coupled up” with someone I don’t engage. Or if I see him flirting and interacting with a known crazy lady I avoid him. I just don’t need the drama.

**not all lit experiences are the same, this is just my experience

 

[SeeMeRolling]

No but for some women it brings out a mean streak. I posted after a guy on one of the game threads…I was flirty. Turns out he had a “lit girlfriend” who stopped talking to him after sending me a nasty PM telling me to stay away from her man. So now if it looks like a guy is “coupled up” with someone I don’t engage. Or if I see him flirting and interacting with a known crazy lady I avoid him. I just don’t need the drama.

**not all lit experiences are the same, this is just my experience

That sounds like someone (not you) is insecure.

 

[AmberLGreen]

Right there with ya in crazy town! I cried this morning because I couldn't remember someone's Lit id that I wanted to message back and don't have the message anymore. In my defense, I've got a lot of stress right now.

We are all a bit crazy otherwise we wouldn’t be here lol. I have spent most of the week crying at how worthless one guy can make me feel in just a few hours. Hopefully the ID will come back to you and you can get your message sent

 

[LikeableMe]

That sounds like someone (not you) is insecure.

I was just thinking that. My ex used to tell me about this woman who wouldn’t let him have friends. I always wondered why anyone would want to change someone so drastically as to stop them having a whole part of their life/personality. I always wanted to see him happy when we were together. Not sexually with others, obviously, but friendships? Why should someone stop having friendships just because they’re with someone?

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

No but for some women it brings out a mean streak. I posted after a guy on one of the game threads…I was flirty. Turns out he had a “lit girlfriend” who stopped talking to him after sending me a nasty PM telling me to stay away from her man. So now if it looks like a guy is “coupled up” with someone I don’t engage. Or if I see him flirting and interacting with a known crazy lady I avoid him. I just don’t need the drama.

**not all lit experiences are the same, this is just my experience

I've never understood this and it feels like something I only hear about ladies doing. Maybe girls just talk about it more. Territorialism annoys me.

Or when couples have to post 'as couples'. Occasionally it's fun, consistently it's obnoxious. (Please tell me if I'm obnoxious!!)

 

[AmberLGreen]

I was just thinking that. My ex used to tell me about this woman who wouldn’t let him have friends. I always wondered why anyone would want to change someone so drastically as to stop them having a whole part of their life/personality. I always wanted to see him happy when we were together. Not sexually with others, obviously, but friendships? Why should someone stop having friendships just because they’re with someone?

It is all about control. If they don’t allow you to have friends or manipulate in a way that you stop seeing friends and family, then you don’t have anybody giving you conflicting advice and you are then controlled by the person.

 

[MrZeno]

Think for yourself and it won’t be an issue.

 

[AmberLGreen]

Think for yourself and it won’t be an issue.

Wow you should put that on a t-shirt. There will be men and women all over the world in controlling relationships that will wonder why they never thought of that!

 

[hotcpu]

It is all about control. If they don’t allow you to have friends or manipulate in a way that you stop seeing friends and family, then you don’t have anybody giving you conflicting advice and you are then controlled by the person.

First sign I see of that I'm out. Can't have that in my life

 

[AmberLGreen]

First sign I see of that I'm out. Can't have that in my life

The problem is that it is a very gradual well manipulated process. Many people don’t even see it happening and never even notice it during the relationship. It is only when that person is out of their lives that they start to see how they changed since they were with that person. Sometimes even then, the control has brought about so many insecurities that the person will often still not realise how they have been controlled and will often fall into another similar relationship.

 

[Azuldrgon]

I'm nosey to find out if I'm crazy because I try to be so nice to folks. lol

 

[LikeableMe]

I'm nosey to find out if I'm crazy because I try to be so nice to folks. lol

I feel that being nice to people is driving me crazy, as I end up getting walked over.

 

[AmberLGreen]

I'm nosey to find out if I'm crazy because I try to be so nice to folks. lol

You aren’t crazy, you are amazingly, beautifully, perfect

 

[Azuldrgon]

I feel that being nice to people is driving me crazy, as I end up getting walked over.

I think it all depends.
I try to be courteous on here a bunch. I don't feel like I get walked over.
But then again, that double standard comes into play because I am a guy doing it.

 

[MrZeno]

Wow you should put that on a t-shirt. There will be men and women all over the world in controlling relationships that will wonder why they never thought of that!

I’m here to help.

 

[Azuldrgon]

You aren’t crazy, you are amazingly, beautifully, perfect

back.
I'm turning purple now because I am blushing.

 

[AmberLGreen]

I feel that being nice to people is driving me crazy, as I end up getting walked over.

And you aren’t too nice. You are you and the ones that walk over you don’t deserve to have you in their lives

 

[SassySheDevil]

I'm nosey to find out if I'm crazy because I try to be so nice to folks. lol

I feel that being nice to people is driving me crazy, as I end up getting walked over.

This. I used to be nice to everyone. That's how I was raised. Years of being walked on or taken advantage of, means I'm not always nice anymore. I'm old and cranky.

 

[Azuldrgon]

This. I used to be nice to everyone. That's how I was raised. Years of being walked on or taken advantage of, means I'm not always nice anymore. I'm old and cranky.

*hugs*
This is what I'm afraid of with folks.
You get pushed too far and you stop being open.
This is why I stay as private as I can.
And hug the ones I like and get to know.

 

[hairball18]

I feel that being nice to people is driving me crazy, as I end up getting walked over.

There are going to be people who will try and take advantage of your niceness, but that should never stop you from being nice to people.