What are the differences between the way men and women love?

[weed]

While there are many traits men and women share I believe there are ways we are intrinsically different. There may be degrees of masculine and feminine traits in all of us but there is something in each of us that marks as the gender we are and affects the way we love our lovers. I think this is probably true regardless of our sexual orientation. Folks who believe they are of mistaken gender may fall outside of this but I think there are exceptions to every rule.

How, in your experience, do men and women love (in the emotional sense not sexual sense) their partners differently?

 

[weed]

I think generally women tend to express their feelings more. Not that men don't have the feelings there but perhaps they don't feel the need to express them as much.

 

[juicylips]

How, in your experience, do men and women love (in the emotional sense not sexual sense) their partners differently?

I adore flowers. It's not the fact that I get to look at the flowers, but the fact that someone thought of me to send them. Men just see flowers. I see the time and thought behind it.

Women send hidden messages in things they do for men. They often show love that way. Men, in general, don't do that as much.

I'm not sure if I answered your question or not..lol.

 

[Kitte]

The one thing I have noticed is women seem to think it is worth something and men find it disposable. They move on much quicker. But I think that goes back to the fact that women correlate sex with love and many men correlate sex with their ego.

 

[weed]

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I adore flowers. It's not the fact that I get to look at the flowers, but the fact that someone thought of me to send them. Men just see flowers. I see the time and thought behind it.

Women send hidden messages in things they do for men. They often show love that way. Men, in general, don't do that as much.

I'm not sure if I answered your question or not..lol.

That's true. I think when they do send flowers it's just to make us happy or to court us (not bad reasons). Often they would be just as happy letting the flowers stay in their beds which makes the gesture all the more meaningful.

I think women are more indirect in alot of ways also. While we express ourselves emotionally more often we often do it covertly. You got that right on, chickee.

Sometimes I think we express ourselves so often because we're looking for that reciprocation, a little reassurance that the man feels the same way he did the day before.

Men don't seem to need that reassurance as much. Perhaps because we volunteer our feelings about them so readily.

 

[weed]

The one thing I have noticed is women seem to think it is worth something and men find it disposable. They move on much quicker. But I think that goes back to the fact that women correlate sex with love and many men correlate sex with their ego.

Ego? Or maybe just sexual gratification.

I know my heart follows my lust, and vice versa. It's much more difficult to get that sexual gratification without that love in my heart. Do other women find this? Do men ever experience this?

 

[Soblue]

I don't know. I think I'm soured on love for awhile.

I'm positive I could still get sexual satisfaction without it, at least right now at this point in my life.

 

[juicylips]

I know my heart follows my lust, and vice versa. It's much more difficult to get that sexual gratification without that love in my heart. Do other women find this? Do men ever experience this?

Sexual gratification for me stems from lust. Love isn't a factor. Love doesn't guarantee me a massive orgasm. Lust lets me give in and just feel and experience.

I bet I'll regret posting this.

 

[cutie pie]

In my observations, women need to have reassurance that the relationship is healthy - hence the desire for romantic evenings, "quality time" etc. - while men tend to go with the flow. If men feel that the relationship is OK then there isn't a need to put forth any extra effort.

DISCLAIMER: Yes, this is a generalized statement. Not ALL men are like this. . .just most.

 

[MissTaken]

Women enjoy talking about love in the philosopical sense, daydreaming about love and are very open about love as a goal.

I believe that men usually see love as a very private issue.

 

[Eumenides]

Ironic that no men have posted yet? Or are they all asleep?

 

[DéjàNu]

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Women send hidden messages in things they do for men. They often show love that way. Men, in general, don't do that as much.

Yes we are good in hidden messages/insinuation, what I wondering is, are they really catching them?

Dont think so

They are not really good at guessing and pondering why she do or did that...

 

[juicylips]

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Yes we are good in hidden messages/insinuation, what I wondering is, are they really catching them?

Dont think so

They are not really good at guessing and pondering why she do or did that...

No. Most men don't catch on. Which is unfair for us to be upset when they don't get what we really mean. Even after years of marriage, a man still might not be able to read all the "signs".

No wonder god gave women more compassion and patience.

 

[intrigued]

Good morning, lovely lady.

Well, I am very blessed by being loved by a man and loving a man that values communication every bit as much as I do, and feels it is key. We are at a point in our lives in which extending the journey of loving is extremely important to us, and we seek to go deeper and deeper into our love. I have yet to find any differences in the way we love eachother....except that for the first time in my life, I have met a man that refuses to let me shut down or pull away from him. He seems to be on a mission of meeting every single need and desire I have, and and has a very rare ability to share with me just exactly what he needs from me. He never holds back, he never tries to hide his emotions, he just gives...because we've both matured enough and lived enough to realize just how important this love thing is, and just don't take it for granted.
He is also the first man that seems to want to give me the world...I've never known anyone that wanted to give so selflessly and generously. He speaks often of all the nice and finer things that he wants to shower me with, things i've never known and that really just don't matter to me. I just want his love.
God, how I love him. He is honest, sensitive, romantic, giving, open minded and just plain beautiful.

I probably didn't answer the topic "on topic", but this is nothing new, huh?

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

For myself, love is an unspoken thing. The telling is in the deeds. It's easy to say you love someone, but difficult to show it.

Women I think like to be shown they are loved in romantic ways. Gifts, thoughtful gestures, a kiss goodbye in the morning, screaming the right name.

I learned a long time ago people tend to think of others in terms of themselves. When shopping for a gift it's easy to buy something you want rather than what the person you're shopping for wants.

So men express themselves in a way they want love to be shown them. We value things differently. Some of us want to be left alone to watch the game so we tend to leave you alone. Others would like nothing more than to have you crawl up into our laps, throw your arms around our necks and gaze lustily into our eyes and ask if it's halftime.

There are those of us who recognize the need to learn to communicate with our partners in a way that's meaningful to them and others who are just plain selfish and others still that just don't know any better.

I think no matter how differently men and women love emotionally, as long as they communicate it can blossom and thrive.

 

[nawtyleanni]

Men and women might sometimes chose different ways to express their love, but I think that's mostly because of "nurture," and not "nature." I think the actual emotion of love is the probably indentical in both sexes.

 

[sufisaint]

Once you, male or female, learn to truly love, give all of yourself to someone else... surrender yourself to someone totally who gives you themselves totally and accepts you for just who you are, your way of loving is unique as you are...

 

[Trail48]

Good morning, lovely lady.

Well, I am very blessed by being loved by a man and loving a man that values communication every bit as much as I do, and feels it is key. We are at a point in our lives in which extending the journey of loving is extremely important to us, and we seek to go deeper and deeper into our love. I have yet to find any differences in the way we love eachother....except that for the first time in my life, I have met a man that refuses to let me shut down or pull away from him. He seems to be on a mission of meeting every single need and desire I have, and and has a very rare ability to share with me just exactly what he needs from me. He never holds back, he never tries to hide his emotions, he just gives...because we've both matured enough and lived enough to realize just how important this love thing is, and just don't take it for granted.
He is also the first man that seems to want to give me the world...I've never known anyone that wanted to give so selflessly and generously. He speaks often of all the nice and finer things that he wants to shower me with, things i've never known and that really just don't matter to me. I just want his love.
God, how I love him. He is honest, sensitive, romantic, giving, open minded and just plain beautiful.

I probably didn't answer the topic "on topic", but this is nothing new, huh?

Wow..this is a HUGE compliment....thank you Connie, as usual your words are way too kind

Men are very goal oriented, we're taught that from the very first breath we take. The trick is to be sure of what the "goal" is. If I please you it is because your words and guidance tell me what your needs are. Knowing that , it's a short step to making the goal to meet those needs. The communication allows constant adjustments. It's important to know also that only by giving will you truly recieve, and that makes the giving so much richer.

I know I'm not the only person here who has had material things stripped away from them. Having little to give in the material sense also makes it easy to see what really matters and helps to focus on the most important thing.....

YOU

 

[calypso_21]

How, in your experience, do men and women love (in the emotional sense not sexual sense) their partners differently?

Interesting question. I think it fully depends on the individual in question. I've been with men who find it EXTREMELY difficult to open up and share emotions other than sexually oriented. It is more superficial than anything else. However I've also known the complete opposite where, for me, they share far too much of their emotions and smother me in the long run. I've yet to meet someone in the middle of that. One thing that I do find is that with communicaiton comes a deep connection an emotional one. That I've had...only at the wrong time. However I'm not in love so I'm not sure I'm answering this question correctly. C'est la vie.

 

[weed]

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No. Most men don't catch on. Which is unfair for us to be upset when they don't get what we really mean. Even after years of marriage, a man still might not be able to read all the "signs".

No wonder god gave women more compassion and patience.

How wise your words are, JL. I often have to remind myself that just because a thought or emotion is behind my actions or words it's not going to be evident by my actions or words alone. That even though it makes me feel more blunt than I like to be sometimes it is better to be frank even if it is not easy.

With the men in my life I also have to remind myself that just because I their actions and words may have double meaning they most likely are intended just the way they are meant.

It is often when men are joking that I get confused because I do try to take what they say literally.

 

[weed]

For myself, love is an unspoken thing. The telling is in the deeds. It's easy to say you love someone, but difficult to show it.

Women I think like to be shown they are loved in romantic ways. Gifts, thoughtful gestures, a kiss goodbye in the morning, screaming the right name.

I learned a long time ago people tend to think of others in terms of themselves. When shopping for a gift it's easy to buy something you want rather than what the person you're shopping for wants.

So men express themselves in a way they want love to be shown them. We value things differently. Some of us want to be left alone to watch the game so we tend to leave you alone. Others would like nothing more than to have you crawl up into our laps, throw your arms around our necks and gaze lustily into our eyes and ask if it's halftime.

There are those of us who recognize the need to learn to communicate with our partners in a way that's meaningful to them and others who are just plain selfish and others still that just don't know any better.

I think no matter how differently men and women love emotionally, as long as they communicate it can blossom and thrive.

Oh, I think it is those differences that make the relationship so special when they are overcome.

Nice thoughts.

 

[weed]

Men and women might sometimes chose different ways to express their love, but I think that's mostly because of "nurture," and not "nature." I think the actual emotion of love is the probably indentical in both sexes.

I have to agree. I certainly think that both men and women have great capacity to love but their expressions are different.


That's part of the mystery and allure for me.

 

[weed]

Once you, male or female, learn to truly love, give all of yourself to someone else... surrender yourself to someone totally who gives you themselves totally and accepts you for just who you are, your way of loving is unique as you are...

I like this.

It's about what makes those everlasting couples special.

 

[intrigued]

Wow..this is a HUGE compliment....thank you Connie, as usual your words are way too kind

Men are very goal oriented, we're taught that from the very first breath we take. The trick is to be sure of what the "goal" is. If I please you it is because your words and guidance tell me what your needs are. Knowing that , it's a short step to making the goal to meet those needs. The communication allows constant adjustments. It's important to know also that only by giving will you truly recieve, and that makes the giving so much richer.

I know I'm not the only person here who has had material things stripped away from them. Having little to give in the material sense also makes it easy to see what really matters and helps to focus on the most important thing.....

YOU

What you give is everlasting...you give your all, and that is all that will ever matter to me.



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