What a stereotype this is...

[Lil-Brandi]

This thread is kinda long...sorry! But I have to get this off my chest!

I just wanted to voice my opinion about a subject I have encountered so many times recently and it slightly offends me and hurts. What do you all think?

I have time and time again heard comments about my age, my looks (from the headshot in my bio), my height and weight, and even had someone say to me in an email that I must be "fat and ugly" and "have no life" to always be here!

As a young lady, that is very disturbing. Believe me, I am one of the happiest people you will ever see in here. I spend my life with a permanent smile on my face and constant laughter in my heart, but this stereotyping is very upsetting to me!

Why do people out there have the vision that a person must be fat, ugly, old, and/or have no life to enjoy either a BB or chat room, and any indication of otherwise is a lie or deceipt. I happen to love both! What does weight, age, or looks have to do with it? Why shouldn't a young, (yes 18 year old), attractive, petite, college student be here without hearing all the ugly comments and assumptions.

I feel that as far as my looks go, I have been extremely blessed. Please don't take this as conceit, but as a point I am trying to show. I thank my parents for mixing everything just right. As for my body, I work extremely hard at keeping it as perfect as I can. I could have put a photogragh in my bio, of me in a tiny bikini or less, showing off all my tanned and firm assets. Instead I chose a conservative headshot, one that I had scanned for the purpose of letting people know who they are corresponding with. I love to put a face with the "type" I am reading. Yet I have had so many people email me with comments such as "that can't be you" or "is that really you in that shot" and "you ain't for real", etc. That hurts me to read words like that. It makes you feel like you are lying, which really upsets me. If I had any intentions on decieving anyone, I sure as hell wouldn'y do it with a plain jane headshot!

As for life: My life could not be more complete. I have a HUGE LIFE!! I go to school full time, and when not there and/or studying, my life is as normal as any other teenagers! I love to shop, go to movies with friends, and yes date, date, and date. Also in my life's daily routine and silly addictions is the internet. I love being on the BB and chat rooms are incredible. It has given me the opportunity to meet a whole world of different people. I can have conversations on here, that in real life I could never do. Try, as a young lady, having a conversation about sex with a guy, without it automatically turning around that "you want to fuck", being groped, and ending the conversation abruptly. I feel very safe in here, and feel secure discussing anything while mingling with everyone!

So...again sorry I have written a novel, but I am glad I got this out! I wonder how many other, cute lil' hotties out there have gone through the same thing?

 

[Ambrosious]

I have, it's ridiculous I tell ya'.

And I AM a hottie, for a 33 year old, balding, overweight white guy.

 

[TonyG]

Originally posted by Lil-Brandi
...Why do people out there have the vision that a person must be fat, ugly, old, and/or have no life to enjoy either a BB or chat room, and any indication of otherwise is a lie or deceipt. I happen to love both! What does weight, age, or looks have to do with it? Why shouldn't a young, (yes 18 year old), attractive, petite, college student be here without hearing all the ugly comments and assumptions.

Because there is a perception to some people that a person who is not fat, ugly or old does not need a BB or chat room for fun. It is a belief that only sad, dumb and not pretty women would go to a site like Lit. Which is very wrong as you have found out. (I believe the Lit ladies are some of the prettiest in mind and body anywhere.) Some on-line people tend to be insecure and for you to be young and pretty can add to that insecurity.

I'm sorry that people are being hurtful but you have had to notice that a lot of people here like you (even Ambrosious). Focus on us and not them.

Now, about those bikini pictures.

 

[Lil-Brandi]

Thank you Tony...

That was a very well said answer! One thing I have come to expect is, if we have any serious issues on here, you definitely have some very rewarding replies, I thank you for that! Your sense of humor is an asset, your sense of intelligence is even greater!

The same goes for Ambrosious, I think he has made me smile more than anyone, and laugh just the same at some of his incredible posts!

 

[Merelan]

But I want to believe you are all sad, fat and lonely, oh, and patheic. It makes me look better.

Maybe that's why.

 

[livin_simple]

I think Tony_Gam hit the nail on the head.

There is a lot of opportunity on the Internet for anonymity and a lot of people take advantage of it. They also typically assume other people are doing likewise.

Those are the people you don't want in your life anyway. Stick with the straight-shooters, you're life will be far less complicated and have fewer unpleasant surprises.

OK - now back to what you were saying about bikini photos!!

 

[Ian1]

You know, people are idiots. There will always be people who feel that they must know everything, and must put others down to prove it. Don't worry about it, you know who you are, and nothing anyone tells you will change that.

Oh, by the way, I didn't see your pic until I read this thread. Bradi, you're hot ;-)

 

[Lil-Brandi]

Thank you all...

I like the fact that there are so many serious posts to a serious thread. lan, thank you!!!

 

[Ian1]

You are so very welcome.

 

[Ambrosious]

Serious thread?

Where? I'll kill it. I swear.

And I AM a little hottie. Am too.

 

[Lil-Brandi]

Ambrosious...

I bet you are!

AND I'm not talking about the fever you had today!!!

 

[Xander]

yeah Tony hit it right on the head. Good show Man, two thumps up.
And Brandi......one thing. If anyone says that to you. They're fools.

 

[dancinvixen]

Brandi, I can somewhat see where you are coming from. When I am working <topless dancer for a club here where I live>, and sitting down with a customer, the inevitable question comes up. <put it in conversation form, for a better feel of the situation>
"So what are your hobbies?"
"The normal things, I like to walk, see the sun, go horseback riding, and spend as much time on my computer as possible when I'm not learning how to go about getting my degree."
"You spend time on the computer?? Why would such a lovely 'little thing' such as you, need to do that for?"
"Because it's something I enjoy."
"ohh."
End of that conversation until the next drunk. My biggest pet peeve is when people find out that I actually do have a goal in life, but at this moment am not pursuing it. So my question is, why do people put such stereotypes on blonde women?? And why is it such a bad thing to have a goal in life, but not want to go after it right at this moment??

 

[Closet Desire]

It never even...

...crossed my mind that you are anything but charming.

It's the people who write such nasty things who really havn't got anything to do with their lives. Don't waste the words on them...the rest of us don't even need an explanation.

 

[teresafannin]

Sterotypes will always be a part of life. When I used to be General Manager for a small chain of restaurants, salesmen would come in, wink & say hello honey/baby/etc, where is your boss? I am 5'2", blonde, so they just assumed I wasn't the boss. I looked them in the eye, said I AM the boss & you aren't making a presentation to me. I have met people who think the only people on the net are perverts & pedophiles. Brandi, you are a beautiful girl, those morons aren't worth your time. I do kind of understand where they are coming from, however. Lots of people do post pictures that aren't themselves.

 

[Jake2001]

Ain't nothin like a Lil Brandi after dinner

It is a shame that some people seem to get their gratification out of pulling other people down. A good example here, is that some people will vote a "1" just to pull the top stories down. Be aware that the closer you get to the top of the mountain, the more people are going to try to bring you down.

Brandi, your beauty is only exceeded by your talent. You are wise beyond your years and, although it is irksome, you are easily capable of graduating past this seamy side of human nature. The way you conduct yourself here on literotica leaves many of us in awe. Your stories are full of life, wonderfully creative, and to say they are well written would be a vast understatement. To get where you are in your life you have to have had a lot going for you.

Don't sweat the small stuff (or small people). Keep moving ahead and don't look back. I expect to see your name in lights some day. In addition, I'm one who's going to say, "I knew her when she used to write erotica on the Internet. Ain't she somethin!"

 

[Lil-Brandi]

...Thank you all!

I don't really know where to start...but a big thank you to everyone, definitely needs to be said first! I never intended, when I started this thread, to hear all the beautiful things I have heard from all of you! Dancinvixen, closetdesire, and teresafanin,in an unfortunate kind of way, you all gave me the comfort of knowing I am certainly not alone. I am sorry all of you have experienced the same sort of things in your lives. Jake, your words were incredible and inspire me to continue writing. You are a perfect example of why this young lady is here so often and could spend many evenings in here and thoroughly enjoy her stay! Again thank you all!!

 

[Endlessly]

OT be perfectly honest Brandi, I don't think it's just the kockouts who have to deal with that kind of thing-- if you're average or above, people wonder what the hell you're doing online. I could stand to lose 30 pouncs, but at least the weight's all proportionate, and now that I have an more attractive (and less distinct) hairstyle I'd say I look like just about anyone you'd pass on the street.. And I hear the same thing. Someone once told me that the reason I spend so much time online is because with all the ugly chicks that about, average girls like me are worshipped by the ugly men with no lives. *wry smile* And yeah-- the same stereotype goes for guys too.

I met my male online, and we've been together on and off for about two years. We see each other every couple of months, and besides loving each other very much, he's my best friend in the world. I'm transferring to Alabama next school year to be with him.

And you know what the ironic icing on the cake is? He is probably the most beautiful man I've ever seen in my life. I never get tired of looking at his body, and he has the face of an angel with the sparkling eyes of a five-year-old boy. If I had met him in real life, I would have hid while staring silently slack-jawed as opposed to striking up a conversation with him and finding out all of the things that are even better than his shoulders. *Drools in thought of said shoulders*

Anyhoo, that was my two bits. *snorts* No attractive people on the internet.. heh.

 

[Dillinger]

Lil-Brandi - you are nothing but totally delightful!

 

[ShyGuy68]

I have to admit that I wish I were as well articulate as some of the many members here on the board are. It always amazes me when I read something as well written as the posts by Lil-Brandi and Endlessly on this thread. They sounds like they have been writing for so many year, and yet they are still both in their late teens, wow!

Now to get to the subject, or at least try to. My guess is that the people that come with statements like that have never experienced how intense friendships you can get with people on the Internet. I have made several great friends on-line, and some of them are dearer to me than some of my few real life friends are. I guess a reason I like the friends I connect with on-line much more than people in real life is that they don’t judge a person by their appearance, but by how they act on-line. But yes unfortunately there are persons on-line that give a false impression as to who they are, and tell the one lie after the other, but fortunately, in my opinion, the majority of the people on-line are genuine, and they don’t try to be anybody else than they are.

I don’t know how the members of this board sees me at all, but I have met some very special friends here, and I do try to be the same person when I chat with them and post here, that I am in real life. It’s probably because I would have a hard time in real life pretending to be somebody else than I really am, and I want people to like me because I am who I am.