well at least I don't feel so weird now

[luvpats4unme]

Hello to all well I am glad that some posters, both men and women, agree with me that you can share intimacy without being completely intimate right away. I also do not have anything against intercourse and would love to experience it with an individual who cares about me and respects my needs and feelings, just not right away. As a male who has not had intercourse for a year and a half and my last experience I felt used and was rejected afterwards, it was just not worth it to experience hurt and rejection after giving myself to an individual who didn't care about me or my feelings, all she wanted to do was. . .well. . .fuck. I guess my feelings have changed as I have gotten older.

I am not suprised that more people haven't responded.
I received a private email from a woman that thought I was nuts and she was adamant that she would not bed any man without intercourse occurring. She also questioned my "manhood" and wondered if there was something wrong with me physically.

However I wish I could find someone with the same beliefs and feelings. I am sure those in the same boat as I am get tired of sleeping by ourselves every night. There just seems to be so much "expectations" and "performance" issues that it is just sometimes seems to be not worth the time and effort. . .best wishes to all from Richard

 

[cuddlybear1970]

Unfortunately, I have to agree. I have been in the same place as you describe, and been through the same thing. I have already had a woman leave during a date because I offered a massage before going to bed. Her statement was that if I had to offer all of that, then I probably wasn't that great in bed, and out the door she went. At first it hurt, then I realized that she had never had a gentleman treat her nicely before. Keep looking, I am sure that there are some ladies out there that want passion, as well as sex. And when we find them, we will feel all the more blessed for having someone special in our lives. Talk to me anytime you feel like,

John

 

[jazey_43]

Unfortunately, I have to agree. I have been in the same place as you describe, and been through the same thing. I have already had a woman leave during a date because I offered a massage before going to bed. Her statement was that if I had to offer all of that, then I probably wasn't that great in bed, and out the door she went. At first it hurt, then I realized that she had never had a gentleman treat her nicely before. Keep looking, I am sure that there are some ladies out there that want passion, as well as sex. And when we find them, we will feel all the more blessed for having someone special in our lives. Talk to me anytime you feel like,

John

Where have all you desirable, passionwanting men been all my life??

I must have been looking in all the wrong places!!!..*grins*

btw...don't listen to her John...she has NO clue!!