Weird problem I have

[Arrow2891]

Does anyone else have this problem? Or know someone who does? Who can anyone give me any opinions?

All my life, I've been too embarrassed to talk about girls in front of my parents, especially my mom. The past few years, I'm even embarrassed to talk about girls in front of my friends or other family members, where in the past, there was no problem. It's worse with my mom. I rarely say anything about the good looks of girls, or other stuff, to her, or if she brings anything up. I've been a little weary they all think I'm gay. It's like I look at it like this super strickly private thing or something.

Comments/opinions? Thanks.

 

[EJFan]

i really don't have anything to offer you other than to say that if i were in your shoes the last thing i'd worry about is what someone thought based on what a talked or didn't talk about with them.

in my case, i generally don't talk about women to people in my family. i don't know if that's unusual or not but i just never have for one reason or another. there have been times when i've mentioned being in a relationship with someone but that's about it.

as far as not talking about women with your friends, i have absolutely no clue what to suggest. for me, i never discuss intimate details with friends (well, very, VERY rarely at least) but i talk about women with both my male and female friends. the fact that you don't isn't particularly unusual and i wouldn't go around trying to anayze it... otherwise you might as well ponder why you don't discuss the market price of truffles with them as well. i'd chalk it up to being something you just aren't in the state of mind to talk about with them. no big deal IMO.

 

[FurryFury]

Does anyone else have this problem? Or know someone who does? Who can anyone give me any opinions?

All my life, I've been too embarrassed to talk about girls in front of my parents, especially my mom. The past few years, I'm even embarrassed to talk about girls in front of my friends or other family members, where in the past, there was no problem. It's worse with my mom. I rarely say anything about the good looks of girls, or other stuff, to her, or if she brings anything up. I've been a little weary they all think I'm gay. It's like I look at it like this super strickly private thing or something.

Comments/opinions? Thanks.

I know guys like this. I married one in fact. His mom was super critical of any girl he saw so he learned to never talk about them. I thought he might be gay. Boy was I wrong. He is the best man I know period. Luckily I was open to finding that out at the right time.

Fury

 

[TheGhost505]

Me Too

I've always felt that way too. Kind of like it was weird for me to talk to them about certain aspects of romantic life like that.

 

[ShinigamiSama]

I always had that problem
then one day it all snaped
and I stoped caring what people though
then I became known as an asshole; and proudly take it as a compliment.

one thing I found make it easier to talk about it was the fact I know 99.999% of the people out there have had the same problem or are just teasing you.
I suck at explaining though so I cant help much more than this

 

[Kuuroinochou]

Wow I had the exact opposite issue with my family. Namely my dad, I could bring up anything with him short of sex of course but never really had an uncomfortable moment.

Still I don't think anything is wrong with it. Just look at the details in your life. Has your mother said something to you that upset you? It might have triggered a reason not to discuss these topics with her. Regardless of what your family thinks its none of their business.

I know my family wonders why I don't date regularly, or why I shun men and generally dont' like talking about them outside of moments with my pops but yeah... I know I'm not lesibian just not in the mood to be broadcasting stuff about my sex life or any kind of life dealing with men. Its no one's business really. And if they think I'm "sexually challenge" so to speak, they said it not me.

Heh... yeah you're alright. Nothing wrong with that really.

 

[Cathleen]

Arrow, you are who you are. When or if you want to share your thoughts on any topic you will, as you wish. Relax, all in due time.

If someone presses you about it try to deflect it or just quietly say you're not comfortable discussing it (whether at this time or ever).

 

[Arrow2891]

Thanks everyone for the comments.