Wedding with a BDSM Flare

[Kirabeth]

I need a bit of help if anyone has a copy of the Ceremony of the Roses or a link to it I would really appreciate it.

Or any Ideas on other ceremonies of this type or just any idea in general on how to incorparate a BDSM theme into a wedding Ceremony so the meaning is there for the couple but not thrown full force into all of those in attendance. There will be no children at the ceremony and all of those in attendace will be aware that it is set to a BDSM theme so thats not really a major concern.
But it has to be tasteful and romantic if possiable.

Any ideas would really be appreciated Thank you.
Hugs
KB

 

[CorruptedInnocence]

I need a bit of help if anyone has a copy of the Ceremony of the Roses or a link to it I would really appreciate it.

Or any Ideas on other ceremonies of this type or just any idea in general on how to incorparate a BDSM theme into a wedding Ceremony so the meaning is there for the couple but not thrown full force into all of those in attendance. There will be no children at the ceremony and all of those in attendace will be aware that it is set to a BDSM theme so thats not really a major concern.
But it has to be tasteful and romantic if possiable.

Any ideas would really be appreciated Thank you.
Hugs
KB

Mmm, I know of some really outrageous Bdsm weddings but the simplest way to incorporate it for your situation that i can think of is what some of my friends did for their wedding, Instead of getting his fiance a ring, He got her a collar, a really pretty handcrafted leather one with satin lining with writing inside of it, with her diamond on a small chain attached to the collar, And she put his ring on his hand using her mouth (Shes a puppy slave, very good one at that), but i thought it incorporated a nice element to the wedding.
Im sure other people will have some idea's if you dont like this one though c:

Quick google search for your request turned up this
http://www.seekers.org.uk/The Ceremony of the Roses.htm
Considering the contents it looked right lol. The facts about it are not quite correct but, its hardly worth debating for your purposes.
Also, it seems like the ceremony of the roses wouldnt be quite appropriate for a normal wedding, While symbolically it is much more beautiful then a modern christian wedding, The whole part with the chain might weird out some people, I would suggest a normal wedding for your families sake, And then do the ceremony of the roses afterwards privately.
Congratz i presume a wedding is coming soon c:

 

[Kurokami]

First off, I think I can safely assume enough about this situation to offer congratulations.

My wife and I added a number of stealthy little touches to our wedding ceremony (it's only been a month!) that had special significance to us, but still allowed our parents to attend. She wore a nice looking choker, for example, which was enough like a collar for us, without bringing out the unfortunate "is that a collar?" question.

If you write your own vows (something I suggest you do anyway, because it's damn romantic) you can allude to certain aspects of your D/s relationship as subtly as you wish, although the actual content of the vows is so highly personal that I hesitate to offer advice there.

Even simple things, like having the dominant party lead things through the entirety of the ceremony, can add that special significance your after. And after the ceremony generally comes the honeymoon, where you can have tons of uninhibited fun, just the way you like it

 

[cfuhrer]

I read thru the link that CI posted above and I love that ceremony. It sounds very intimate and somber but in a good way.

I like the symbolism of the chain and I seem to remember a wedding tradition, maybe in Spain, with a binding of wrists. (I saw it in the Charlton Heston movie El Cid) so one could do a smaller length of chain in a similar fashion. You could also purify rings instead of the collar.

But as KB indicated all in attendance know what the score is so the rose ceremony in its entirety shouldn't be too off putting.

 

[CorruptedInnocence]

Oh no it would make a very eloquent wedding but, I honestly feel that the Ceremony of the Roses feels like a much more private kinda thing, the modern wedding is more for the family and friends sake it seems. Still its up to the couple to determine of course.

 

[Kirabeth]

Thank you all so much for the ideas.

My husband and I have been married for 23 years and together for even longer, We have in someway or another been part of the BDSM, D/s, S &M B &D communtieis for for 15 years. He is very much a Dominate, I am for the most part submissive but do enjoy switching from time to time. We do have our set of problems and ups and downs. In all the years we have been together we have always managed to work through them as I am sure any couple who has been together for as long as we have does. The wedding ideas I asked about was actually for a friend of mine and I will pass onyour congratulations to her. But on another note my husband and I are considering renewing our vows as well and the ideas here are very good ones and I do think we will use a few of them. Thank you all again so much.

 

[the captians wench]

I keep being told I'll be naked for our wedding.

But damn it if I'm getting married again I'm going to have a poofy white dress this time around! *pout*


No proposals yet mind you.

 

[FurryFury]

Some version of hand fasting, that was the first thing that came to my mind when I saw the thread title.

 

[ShyVixen]

First off, I think I can safely assume enough about this situation to offer congratulations.

My wife and I added a number of stealthy little touches to our wedding ceremony (it's only been a month!) that had special significance to us, but still allowed our parents to attend. She wore a nice looking choker, for example, which was enough like a collar for us, without bringing out the unfortunate "is that a collar?" question.

That's a very interesting, subtle touch to a wedding ceremony

If it's a renewal of vows then I think a hand fasting of some kind (maybe with chains) would be a very good idea of encorporating BDSM.

And can I just offer my congratulations!

 

[goddamhippy]

Writing your own vows affords plenty of opportunity for linguistic BDSM, if you will. Especially as traditional vows include such phrases as 'love, honour and OBEY'.

'To have and to hold' could be changed to 'to own and to bind'

the possibilities are limitless, Although I would possibly try to be a bit more subtle. It depends how much you the BDSM to be included.