Ways to make doggystyle more intimate?

[goud21]

My wife and I have what I consider to be a fairly good sex life for have 18 month old twins running around all day and both working full time jobs with some long hours some days. My only problem with our sex life is it seems relatively vanilla. Mostly variations of missionary while every once in a while she'll get on top. I'd love some more adventurous positions. Before my wife, I was with partners who absolutely loved doggystyle and it was one of my favorites as well.

For my wife, she finds it to be less intimate. Basically saying that if she can't see my eyes and look me in the face, it's not as enjoyable for her and she really has no interest in it. One suggestion I had was we position ourselves in front of a large mirror in our bedroom (it's really in the perfect location where she could look up and look right in the mirror and see my face). She wasn't a big fan of that idea because she's a little self-conscious about her body ever since our twins were born (even though she's always been a small woman...5'1", 120 lbs). She actually weighs less than before being pregnant, but I understand the female body changes with child birth. She doesn't want to see herself in the mirror.

Does anyone have any suggestions? I've thought about spooning so our heads would be closer to each other, but I feel like that's a different sensation that holding her hips and really getting into it from behind. Is there any way to make a traditional doggystyle position (on all fours or even with her head down) more intimate?

 

[Primalex]

My only problem with our sex life is it seems relatively vanilla.
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Does anyone have any suggestions?

Yes. Appreciate what you have for now. Come back in a year, if situation did not automatically get better.

 

[may_I_please]

Intimacy is not the only way to enjoy sex though ..doggy style is more about being taken and is delicious for that but the touches and kisses and soft words in your ear can increase the intimacy

Have you ever played with blindfolds? And teasing touches and kisses, perhaps that small exercise in trust,but designed to give her pleasure could loosen the barricades? Just a thought

 

[Kelleebabes]

My wife and I have what I consider to be a fairly good sex life for have 18 month old twins running around all day and both working full time jobs with some long hours some days. My only problem with our sex life is it seems relatively vanilla. Mostly variations of missionary while every once in a while she'll get on top. I'd love some more adventurous positions. Before my wife, I was with partners who absolutely loved doggystyle and it was one of my favorites as well.

For my wife, she finds it to be less intimate. Basically saying that if she can't see my eyes and look me in the face, it's not as enjoyable for her and she really has no interest in it. One suggestion I had was we position ourselves in front of a large mirror in our bedroom (it's really in the perfect location where she could look up and look right in the mirror and see my face). She wasn't a big fan of that idea because she's a little self-conscious about her body ever since our twins were born (even though she's always been a small woman...5'1", 120 lbs). She actually weighs less than before being pregnant, but I understand the female body changes with child birth. She doesn't want to see herself in the mirror.

Does anyone have any suggestions? I've thought about spooning so our heads would be closer to each other, but I feel like that's a different sensation that holding her hips and really getting into it from behind. Is there any way to make a traditional doggystyle position (on all fours or even with her head down) more intimate?

I believe doggy is my favourite position...something about two bodies slamming together ...where the pussy and the cock and the cheeks and ass hole. hotdogging the pussy lips and the crack of your ass... and reach around tits and biting of the neck, shoulders. back...pulling of the hair...snapping back the head and growling nasty...dirty details of what you want to do into your submissive partner's ear...ooooh my gosh I almost forgot why I was here...the mirror was a wonderful idea...I have several in my bedroom...but if she is not comfort about in front of a full length mirror...how about her using a nice larger size hand mirror, large enough for her to see your face...and you can see all her sexy facial expressions and reactions...I have a beautiful old vintage hand mirror next to my bed ways...I love to watch my gentlemen lick and eat my pussy...it wouldn’t hurt to try...and remember to tell her how hot she's looks when she's cumming...woman love to hear sexy comments like that...woof !Kelleebabes

 

[lovecraft68]

If she is not into it, don't push it. This is real life, not am erotic story.

In erotic stories the wife suddenly becomes your whore in the bedroom because of course she...is one!

In real life pushing for things-especially if self esteem and body issues factor in-is going to make things worse.

The OP mentions she doesn't want to see herself at that angle, maybe...she doesn't want you to see her at that angle and does not want to say it.

 

[dutchrain]

I can't think of a way to make a doggy more intimate (I think having sex in any position is quite an intimate thing to do, but I do get the meaning behind your wife's words, don't worry), to me doggy is about pounding, slapping and being taken.

But a doggy also can be slow and sensual. Not quite the same as more intimate, but running your hands over her back and thighs instead of gripping her hips; bending over her instead of staying upright; bending over her with your head close to hers and your hands (or one) beside her hand(s) are possibilities to make it a more sensual experience.

You also could ask her if she would like to lie on her stomach, with a pillow or two under her hips. That would mean there would be a lot of body contact, which might give her a bigger feeling of intimacy. Not a doggy, but ...

 

[Que]

A mirror. Seriously.

 

[bogusguy]

Standing by the bed with her in front of you, kiss her neck, shoulders and tilt her face towards you and give her a deep sensual kiss. Your hands caressing her body all over...not just her tits. Let her feel your hard on against her ass. Slowly undress her. Keep your hands moving over her body as you do this. Kiss down her spine, lower body and ass as you remove her pants and panties. Kiss your way back up. Slip your finger inside her, your other hands still caressing her body. Let her feel your hardness touching her. When she is wet and ready, slowly bend her over and ease your cock inside her. Keep it slow and sensual

 

[RISsey]

If she likes her taste (kissing after you have gone down on her, sucking you clean after sex...) You could reach down and gather some of her flavor and reach froward and have her suck it off your fingers? This would also in a way be DP and she may enjoy that feeling as well.

 

[CWatson]

Typically when we do it from behind, my girlfriend has her ass up in the air, her shoulders down on the bed, and her face in a pillow. I honestly can't understand how she breathes like that, but I think doggie is her favorite position, so I think she'd reposition herself if she wanted to. The last time we tried doggie, however, she did something different that really changed everything.

First off, she asked for a reach-around. I was happy to oblige, but she has a prominent belly (to the point that she sometimes shops maternity, simply because that's how she's shaped), so with her shoulders down, I couldn't actually reach. So instead she went up on her hands and knees. And to make reaching easier, I bent over and supported myself on one arm while the other did its business.

The end result was essentially vertical spooning. We were pressed together with a lot of body contact, I could have easily grabbed her breast, I was touching her clit, and we still had the very deep penetration and freedom of movement, for both of us, associated with doggie-style. I actually think it was the best sex we ever had.

So, try that on for size, see how it suits the two of you. =)

 

[wicked woman]

Gee, I thought relationships were supposed to be about 2 people's needs, desires and wants. So doggie isn't intimate enough for her but she knows you love it. It boggles my mind why she couldn't have sex the way you would like every once in a while instead of having sex the way she likes all the time. You didn't say she had a major issue with doggie style other than she prefers face to face. Sounds inconsiderate to me.

If you can't reason with her that sometimes sex is about pleasuring the other person...try mixing it up. Start missionary then pull out, turn her over, and finish in doggy style. You both get what you want.

 

[suckonsimon]

Some thoughts:

Give her oodles of compliments about her body and her breasts and her belly and tell her everything you love about the look of her and the shape of her, restoring in her a sense of the sexiness and beauty of her as a woman who has borne children and has a man who loves to make love to her.

How about the mirror side on so that she can see the whole of you and be caught up in the look of your action and your attention to her, in profile, as much as the look of herself.

Ask her about where exactly and how exactly you can pleasure her with your hands while you go doggy: her breasts, her neck and hair, her sucking your thumb, playing along her backbone, squeezing her ass cheeks, rubbing her thighs, circling her clit. Ask her when the time is right and make her some promises about what you will do and how you want to make it exquisite for her.

When she is willing for some doggie, don't go at it for too long before you get into some front to front with her and make that extra special in terms of the intimacy of it, connecting the one with the other with stuff like "let me see those wonderful breasts I've been squeezing".

 

[snoopydaddy59]

I think you should do is turn doggie style into what I call scissors!
Lay her on her side, spread her legs like scissors, and then straddle her bottom leg and enter her that way. First, i find I can be deeper that way, which is never a bad thing. Second, she can see your eyes and you see hers. Third, you can do whatever you want with her upper leg, by putting it over your shoulder or any position that's comfortable for both. Fourth, you can still have access to her breasts, nipples, clit and any other erogenous zone, she may have!!
Personally I like both positions but it depends on what mood I'm in, as to which I prefer. If I want to give a strong pounding to her, then doggie is what a use as her beautiful supple ass acts as a buffer to my hard deep pounding and it may provide her a different sensation that takes her breath away. If I choose to be a deep in her as I can possibly be, then scissors is a way to accomplish that and not give up and intimacy and eye contact as she races towards her own pleasures! (Just a suggestion)

 

[suckonsimon]

^^^
I'm seconding snoopy's suggestion! Another delicious aspect of scissors is the pleasure for a guy is watching his woman curl around and swoon, in profile; delightful!

 

[Steffi200051]

First of all, it is quite imperative that you get her off first as it gives you more latitude for the next move. Hopefully, you gradually offer some naughty suggestions, even if you have no intentions of following through. Things like: "I want to cum in your tits!" It stimulates the situation. Do not always have her get on "all fours." After getting heated up, it can be pleasing to get out of bed and have her lean over the footboard as you step in from behind. Trust me the feeling can be incredible!