watching wife with another guy...

socalrider

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Has anyone let their wife play with another guy while watching, whether hidden or sitting beside the bed? More and more the thought of watching another guy in my wife drives me crazy. But I don't know if I could actually go through with it. Anyone have experience with this?

**And although I'm sure there are plenty of guys on here who would like to help out, I'm not actively looking right now!!

thanks
 
only if you're sure...

Are you completely sure that you won't get jealous? Having been the outsider brought into my friend and her husband's bedroom I can tell you that the experience can turn nasty.

Of course, I probably wouldn't have done it if I hadn't been really drunk. Problem was that they both wanted more from me and I just wasn't into her. He pursued me afterwards and I ended up having a brief fling but eventually she found out. They're divorced, and I'm no longer friends with them.

I do know people that have had no problems with bringing another person in, but very few. I just advise you to really think it through, is it worth the risk?
 
wife with another guy

i'm a female, so can't address your question directly, can only relate a somewhat similar experience. i was the 2nd woman in a 3some. i wanted to do it because i'd always wanted to experience another woman, and thought it would be fun. the first time i did it, i had been dating the man for a while, but there was no true attachment there, more of a fuck buddy. so brining in another woman was no problem. the 2nd time i did it, i was the additional person. this was a couple that i met on line locally and we hooked up in person. again, i enjoyed it alot, but i wasn't emotionally involved with either of them. the woman really seemed to like seeing me with her husband. she liked to "show him off" and he enjoyed she and i making it together. it was good all the way around. however, i'm not sure how i would feel watching a man i loved fuck another woman. i know i would like it to be ok, since i would be there with him...but i just don't know. i don't have a desire to see that, but might experience it for him, if it was something he really wanted. my pleasure came from being with the woman, not sharing my man.

good luck on your search. let us know if you ever try it out
 
I think watching another man go balls deep into the woman that I am to love and cherish all of my life would be pretty hard to do. It sounds cool and erotic but afterwards, with his cum streaming from her pussy, it would be pretty difficult to reassert myself as the husband. I am not married now, so this is all supposition. However, i don;t think my girlfriend would like to watch me empty my balls into another woman. More than just jealousy but the after feeling of "Oh fuck, this is going to change things."

Now, if she is married and wants to have a fling with me then that is a bit different. Then it is not my relationship being screwed with and I would have no obligation to make sure that everyone is cool with it unless i wanted to take that obligation upon myself.

Gipper
 
you've all made the relevant points... it can be a difficult thing to come to terms with, and can lead to disaster... but speaking as a woman who's been there so many times i've lost count, it can work out if you're both of the right mindset... my darling hubby pulls his dick of almost watching me with other men... he claims to enjoy the experience as much as shagging me himself... on the subject of the spunk dribbling out, he always insists on going last, that's one of the bits of the scenario that excites him the most, the sloppy soaking wet hole.

we've been in with swingers who've both enjoyed the lifestyle as we do, and we've been in with some who've fallen apart through the problems it can cause.

what i will say is, that if the idea makes you that hard and horny, it's 75% certain you'd cope and enjoy it.
 
I have never done something like this myself although there are times when being that other man seems pretty exciting. The crazy part is that a couple of days ago I was listening to the radio in my friend's car and the topic was living out fantasies and how that was bad. I can't remember which station it was but the DJ's were not into the whole 3some idea or any other fantasy for that matter.

Personally, I believe that having a fantasy is a fabulous idea and choosing to act on that fantasy is one of the wonderful freedoms that we have. I am unsure what I would do about my fantasy of being that other man or what I would do if my future wife wanted to be involved in a 3some but I do know it would take some careful thought and a lot of conversations about what would happen afterward. I think I agree with Lorri's words...

what i will say is, that if the idea makes you that hard and horny, it's 75% certain you'd cope and enjoy it.

Good luck and enjoy!
 
Hmmmm, I'm single so if something like that happened I'd be the other guy . ;) I've swapped hot email and pics with married women with husbands who get the benefit of the wife being turned on, afterwards.

I've flirted with the idea of getting together in RL but I've held back because usually the husband wants to get it on camera or video. If I'm gonna' do a threesome I'd prefer 2 babes. At least for the first couple of experiences. :)
 
I dont think i would be able to stand the thought of another person screwing my s/o. If it was an unattached relationship... i'm all for it. but with someone whom i love.... i dont think i can do that..
 
I've been the 2nd male in a 3-some, the couple were married, so I guess this kind of applies to your query. As it turned out, I wasn't into it at all; all I wanted to do was fuck the woman on my own, the sight of hubby slowly stroking his boner while I tried it on, really put me off! It was my first and, so far, only experience in a 3-some. I think I need to try it FMF to really decide if this kind of stuff is for me :)
 
LorriLove said:
you've all made the relevant points... it can be a difficult thing to come to terms with, and can lead to disaster... but speaking as a woman who's been there so many times i've lost count, it can work out if you're both of the right mindset... my darling hubby pulls his dick of almost watching me with other men... he claims to enjoy the experience as much as shagging me himself... on the subject of the spunk dribbling out, he always insists on going last, that's one of the bits of the scenario that excites him the most, the sloppy soaking wet hole.

we've been in with swingers who've both enjoyed the lifestyle as we do, and we've been in with some who've fallen apart through the problems it can cause.

what i will say is, that if the idea makes you that hard and horny, it's 75% certain you'd cope and enjoy it.

Hi. Lorri.
Its been a long time since we talked.
I think there is one other consideration. I am in the last category. The idea of seeing another man, thrusting between my wife's legs, makes me very hard and horny. I'm thinking about it now, and the evidence is unmistakable right in front of me.
Neverthless, I am convinced it would not work, for one simple reason.
My wife is very uncomfortable with the idea of anything kinky or unusual. She really finds it offensive. Yet I love her the way she is. But, if we did it, I think it would change her feelings about me. I guess what I"m saying is that, for it to work, both partners have to be into the idea. It would be dangerious to try it if one partner was being dragged into it reluctantly.
 
I've tried many times to talk my wife into bring with another man. She has gone so far as to dress very sexy (braless) and let other men see her breasts., unfortunately she won't go any further. I'm sure i would have no problem watching another man take her, as a matter of fact it would be a huge turn on. The thought of watching her while having an orgasm fucking another man would be a huge turn on.
 
Adding another man to your wife's pleasure (and your own)

To all the guys who aren't sure

As a husband who often watched his wife being with anothr man sexually, I loved it. One thing must be clear from the first however. It requires a lot of discussion between the two of you before you start down that road. It's important to find out how she REALLY feels about the idea, because most married women won't admit to their husband that they would love to have another man fuck them. We started off with a mutual male friend who danced, cuddled and kissed her often. It was obvious that she would have loved having him fuck her. I told her that it was fine with me, that I think she should out of friendship, if nothing else. To make a long story short, she did, often. After the first few times, she learned the difference between love and sex, just like most people in the swinging lifestyle must. There are a lot more things to bring up in a discussion with your wife or significant other, some of which I've included in the stories I've written for Literotica. Check them out under the name I use in the list of authors - oldfogey. Those about "Linda" are true accounts of our experiences until the day of her death after some 15 years of great times together.;)
 
Re: Adding another man to your wife's pleasure (and your own)

oldfogey said:
To all the guys who aren't sure

As a husband who often watched his wife being with anothr man sexually, I loved it. One thing must be clear from the first however. It requires a lot of discussion between the two of you before you start down that road. It's important to find out how she REALLY feels about the idea, because most married women won't admit to their husband that they would love to have another man fuck them. We started off with a mutual male friend who danced, cuddled and kissed her often. It was obvious that she would have loved having him fuck her. I told her that it was fine with me, that I think she should out of friendship, if nothing else. To make a long story short, she did, often. After the first few times, she learned the difference between love and sex, just like most people in the swinging lifestyle must. There are a lot more things to bring up in a discussion with your wife or significant other, some of which I've included in the stories I've written for Literotica. Check them out under the name I use in the list of authors - oldfogey. Those about "Linda" are true accounts of our experiences until the day of her death after some 15 years of great times together.;)

hiya oldfogey darling, you have it so right in the terms... "the difference between love and sex"... that's what successful swing is all about with married couples, you love your life partner, play with your swing partner... the instant you lapse into real love with a swing partner, you have problems, unless you can control it, which luckily i can... i love my husband, he makes love to me and gives me the emotional fix i need in normal times... all of the outsiders, swing / orgy, partners just fuck me for the hell of it.

don't even consider coercing a woman, or man, into this lifestyle... seduce them into it if you can, but no heavy coercion, it will only lead to disaster if either is only partly willing and just doing it for the other.

hey ukniceguy, you wuss, afraid of a camera:devil: :D
 
I love the fantasy, more and more. I'm pretty sure that I'm at the point where it wouldn't have negative repercussions on my part if I were to participate / watch my wife with another man.



I doubt it will happen though, because I think my wife won't reach the point where it would be ok with her. It is definitely a thing with lots of potential to go wrong, esp. if the third party is a good mutual friend. It is pretty much guanateed to go wrong if all partioes aren't sure they want ot, and aren't sure of what the othjer people want.



My other thought is that I think there are plenty of fantasies better as fantasies, or at least which retain their potency without acting them out. I think it is important to be able to luxuriate in a fantasy without getting hung up on trying to make it occur in real life. Maybe thats just being chicken, but I don't think so.
 
Mac_Flecknoe said:
I love the fantasy, more and more. I'm pretty sure that I'm at the point where it wouldn't have negative repercussions on my part if I were to participate / watch my wife with another man.



I doubt it will happen though, because I think my wife won't reach the point where it would be ok with her. It is definitely a thing with lots of potential to go wrong, esp. if the third party is a good mutual friend. It is pretty much guanateed to go wrong if all partioes aren't sure they want ot, and aren't sure of what the othjer people want.



My other thought is that I think there are plenty of fantasies better as fantasies, or at least which retain their potency without acting them out. I think it is important to be able to luxuriate in a fantasy without getting hung up on trying to make it occur in real life. Maybe thats just being chicken, but I don't think so.

it's best not to live out all of your fantasies love, life would become boring... in 24 yrs of swinging hubby and i have used up so many fantasies it's hell trying to relace them... but by heck do they get wilder as you do:devil:
 
I just wanted to throw my hat into the ring if any married women want to bring me into their bedroom with or without hubby. :D Now I would only be doing this in the interest of science so I can report the results back to the forum. Be like doing some field research. lol.
 
watching wife with other guy

Been there done that! Its a real turn on for me to watch my wife being pleased by another guy. Hell I'd rather do that then a threesome with another female. Being secure in your relationship is the key. There is no place for jealously. First time was somewhat awkward but once it commences it only gets better. Our relationship now is more like a girlfriend/boyfriend and she will do anything to please me. Love it!
 
Re: watching wife with other guy

dukecitysal said:
Been there done that! Its a real turn on for me to watch my wife being pleased by another guy. Hell I'd rather do that then a threesome with another female. Being secure in your relationship is the key. There is no place for jealously. First time was somewhat awkward but once it commences it only gets better. Our relationship now is more like a girlfriend/boyfriend and she will do anything to please me. Love it!

know where you're coming from duke honey, when we first started many, many years ago, it was nervous, it was nerve wracking, it was clumsey, it was all done to save our crazy ill conceived marriage, (we married for all the wrong reasons)... we're more deeply in love now than we were on our wedding night... we married then fell in love:D and all due to sharing ourselves with others and giving each other the ultimate buzz.
 
socalguy,
if you do decide to, I'm 46 clean, 6ft, brown hair, green eyes, love to givemustache rides... d/d free, and gentle, kind, and respectful...you'll never have as hard a cock as when you watch her suck another mans cock.
Jay
 
We've had over 2 dozen mfm's. Never had a problem and we both really enjoy them. We've swung with couples and attended parties, never a problem there, either.

It's like Lori says, a secure relationship. We've been married for almost 34 years, so I guess we're doing something right :p
 
Watching wife with another guy

I to have tried to convince my wife to have another man, mfm session but she has always said no. My wife has now suggested she might be up for a session with another man or men watching
(Dogging) I will keep you informed.
 
This happened to my wifes sister and she lost respect for her man and ultimately they split, she now despises the guy.

I'm not saying definately dont do it, because with the right couple it may work.

for me, its a definate no no.
 
my wife and I have been doing soemthing similar...

for about five years.

I've always felt emotional fidelity was far more important than physical fidelity. We discussed things for almost two years before actually doing anything.

The biggest hurdle was that she didn't believe that it would only be she that would be having physical relations with other guys. The second thing was that, as she was turning fifty, she worried that no one would be interested.

There are several things we do to ensure the relationships do not become serious emotional problems.

1. Ginny only gives blowjobs. Later, we use her actions to arouse and satisfy ourselves.

2. She only meets with much younger men, usually in their early twenties.

3. She does not meet often, no more than three of four times per year.

I am not present while she is sucking these guys off, so there is no need for them to get tensed up because of the presense of another man.

And, sorry guys, Ginny is not interested in new partners at this time.
 
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