Wanted: guy who is intelligent/in my generation/willing to be friends/single

[no_games]

Okay, I already posted this in the main Personals forum (and have actually got a few good responses!), but I was told that this might be a better place for it.

Maybe I'm overly optimistic in posting this here. I hope not.

I'm looking for a single guy for simple chat and (maybe - if I don't back out from shyness) some flirting/innuendo or discussion of fantasies. I'll say right out that I have a rich fantasy life that includes some forced submission, but not anything really 'kinky' like bestiality, incest, or anything that belongs in the toilet. I don't even like thinking about that stuff.

I want to talk to a real person. No, not in person, but someone who's not interested in the whole BS game so many people play online. I won't press for information you don't want to reveal, but what you do say would have to be the truth. (I will be honest also.) If you can handle that, keep reading.

I'm fairly intelligent and can be a good conversationalist. I want to talk to a guy who's not looking for a quick "cyberfuck." I have too much self-respect for that: I want to get to know you a little.

The reason I post all of this here is simply that I've enjoyed the stories here, and I hope the anonymity of the Internet will give me a chance to explore a little. I'm kind of shy about my sexual side, and I have a reputation for saying "no" in real life. I shudder to think how fast word would get around (I live in a small town) if just once I said "yes."

Basically, I want a friend whom I can respect (and who doesn't live in this town) who is willing to talk with me about the questions I have, and help me explore my sexual side. Part of my curiosity is how my ideas/fantasies would be received by men, so a guy near my age (between 18 and 29) who likes nonconsent fantasy would be great to talk to.

Looks don't matter, since it's not like we'll ever meet. For the same reason, the farther away the better (I have a thing for accents plus the whole smalltown gossip thing.) I just want to talk to an intelligent guy in my generation who is willing to be a friend and who isn't dating anyone (because it's just too weird to talk about sex to someone else's boyfriend/lover/husband).

Not really sure there is a guy out there like this... but maybe someone here comes close? I have yahoo, msn, and skype, but I'd rather send them to you in a private message than post them here.

Um, I guess that's it. So... send me a private message or something if you're interested. Or if you know a better place for me to post this, since I'm really not very Internet-savvy and don't post a lot.

Thanks!

 

[Moleculor]

Hm.

I'm a guy. 26. Texas, but I have no idea if that's far enough away from you. I do seem to fit many of your... 'wishes'. Single. Interested in and by kink, with fantasies ranging from simple playful stuff to outright physical takedowns/bondage/forced[whatever].

I'm also intelligent, and here's where the intelligence comes into play. While I love the idea of discussing fantasies, for me You want a guy to be single, and by implication stay single, while discussing sex with you BUT you're flat out declaring that no meeting at all will ever occur. So it seems, from my perspective, that you want them to be 'single' in perpetuity, but be a ever present source of "fantasy material" (wank fodder) for you.

Or, in essence, be a frozen-in-time boyfriend you don't have to actually date.

Not saying there's anything wrong with that. Hell, I'm not exactly in a position to date right now so it could be a fit for people. Just be very very sure that you're actually giving the right impression of what you actually want, rather than saying one thing and then when it gets right down to it you want things to go farther than you've put limits down for.

 

[no_games]

Wow. That sounded bad.

You want a guy to be single, and by implication stay single, while discussing sex with you BUT you're flat out declaring that no meeting at all will ever occur. So it seems, from my perspective, that you want them to be 'single' in perpetuity, but be a ever present source of "fantasy material" (wank fodder) for you.

Or, in essence, be a frozen-in-time boyfriend you don't have to actually date.

Not saying there's anything wrong with that. Hell, I'm not exactly in a position to date right now so it could be a fit for people. Just be very very sure that you're actually giving the right impression of what you actually want, rather than saying one thing and then when it gets right down to it you want things to go farther than you've put limits down for.

I realise now how totally off that must have sounded, especially added to the several other picky bits I specified.

I guess I'm coming at it from the opposite angle--as in, hey, if you're not dating anyone anyway, well, talk to me if you like. If/when you start seeing someone, well, that's great, but after that point for me the sexual talk has to stop.

It's really not so much that I want a "frozen-in-time-boyfriend" or that I "want things to go farther [than I've said]." It's more that I have big objections to flirting with/hitting on someone else's boyfriend/lover/spouse. It's just too weird and too complicated.

I've said before, I know that I'm asking a lot. And frankly I'll be surprised (albeit pleasantly so) if I actually do have the chance to have the free & easy, open friendship that I'm looking for.

But it's the only thing I'm looking for, and if it doesn't turn up, well, I'm still not looking for anything else.

I hope this explanation clarifies a bit what I mean. I really am a nice person and not usually picky, but I don't want any drama, and it seems that the easiest way to avoid it is to be completely up front and honest about what I'm looking for.

(Which, by the way, is not really "wank fodder." Not that there's no chance of that happening, but really I'm looking for conversation about sex, and the male perspective. I always have these questions and wish I had someone to talk to with whom I was comfortable discussing such things.)

 

[ControlandDom]

It would be helpful to put where "the farther away the better" means. Like east coast, west coast, south, or even Europe.