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Faleena
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I’ve never talked dirty other than saying “fuck me” I really don’t know what to say. What do you find to be a turn on?
scorpiobabe
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Try masturbating a little bit, and then just say whatever words you might be thinking... like if i touch myself i can think about... "I'd love to feel your beautiful big cock inside me" 
something like that. If you like porn, i think it helps.
https://wolf.tylerthebadwolf.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/2/2016/08/tumblr_nawsl6vU121ry4gdjo1_500.gif
something like that. If you like porn, i think it helps.https://wolf.tylerthebadwolf.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/2/2016/08/tumblr_nawsl6vU121ry4gdjo1_500.gif
jehoram
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Tell your partner what you're feeling, and what you want to be feeling. Ask your partner what they're feeling, and what they'd like to be feeling.
"Kiss me there."
"I love to see your breasts swinging as you bend over."
"I love to see your cock getting hard."
"Did you like what I just did?"
"I love what you just did!"
...and so on.
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I think guys like to hear their women talk dirty because, in their minds, it’s evidence that the girls are thinking dirty.
So, from that, a question. Why do you want to talk dirty? Is it for yourself or to please him?
So, from that, a question. Why do you want to talk dirty? Is it for yourself or to please him?
pplwatching
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Dirty talk is a subject that doesn't get enough attention, in my opinion. It can be an act of sexual introspection and enlightenment, of consciously recognizing what's happening and what you're feeling and expressing it. It doesn't even have to be words or sentences. The best dirty talk is an expression of the hunger, heat, and desire growing inside of you. It heightens your awareness and feeds back into your senses, arousing you as much as it does your partner.
Randomly saying "fuck me" isn't as sexy as saying it to express your need to be fucked. Your body and your voice connect and express themselves together. Start by vocalizing what you're feeling. Dirty talk comes from being an active participant and expressing what you want. It creates a different kind of sexual connection between lovers. It expresses how you feel using timbre, tone, and inflection in a way that isn't found in written words.
Learn how to express what you're feeling, what you want, and how your lover makes you feel and you'll master the art of dirty talk even if you never utter a coherent word. Don't just recite a list of phrases you've learned. Learn to express your sexuality. Practice makes perfect. If you see something on lit that turns you on, recognize it and express it even when you're all alone. Then, when you're with a lover, it will be much more natural and exciting for both of you.
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To be honest, while I love dirty talk from my babygirl most times, in the moment it's a bit... off. If she can think still well enough to string coherent sentences together, then I ain't doin' something right.
However, up until we are actually engaged, pretty much anything that indicates her kitty is purring (and drooling) is going to be in the strike zone for this batter up.
The rub is, when we aren't horny, even a little bit, then what is such a hot turn on when we are sounds goofy to us as we say it. More goofy to us than the people we are saying it to.
My thing is, so is 90% of the rest of the stuff we say if we actually paid as much attention to it as we do to watching our sexy stuff.
"Did you do the dishes?" Are they done? If they are, did you do them? If not, then by process of elimination it was either me or the dog or cats.
But, I think that adding a bit of spice to your conversational gambits is a good way to let the person you are talking to know that you want them, and specifically them, to do naughty things to, with, and for you.
What are those things?
I mean, this is the person that you are wanting to do those things with. So, what are they?
Get descriptive. Get detailed. Think moment by moment exactly what you want them to do, what you want to feel them doing. What they would need to do to unleash those feelings you crave from inside of you.
Don't say "make love to me" if you want a hard, rhythmic pounding from behind with his hand wrapped in your hair, tugging your head back to make you meet his eyes in the mirror in the headboard as each mighty thrust of his pulsating shaft pierces your sugary walls deep enough that his hips collide with your ass in a loud slap-slap-slap-slap.
And don't say "fuck the hell outta me" if you want to be caressed and cuddled as he rises above you, meeting your eyes in a soul-deep gaze with each slow, gentle caress of him dragging in and out, in and out inside you.
And that, right there, is why "dirty talk" doesn't work for me in the actual moment. Because you have to think about it. The time for thinking, and talking, is past. It's time for doing. And while we are doing, anything more than "Oh, fuck yeah, do it, do it, do me, do me" is an indication that something isn't working right.
Frankly, that is something of a litmus test for me with my lover. I challenge her by asking her a question. If she can answer, then we ain't there yet. If she can't, then I keep doing what I am. If she has a panic attack, I turn the heat up on her boil to take her over the edge... unless we are practicing orgasm denial edging, in which case I stop what I'm doing and let the endorphins seep away before starting again.
Any road, I have no idea if I actually contributed anything or not.
But, if not, then hopefully someone else will come along and straighten out whatever I have fucked up.
Oh, or I dimly recall being a part of a discussion a few years back on this topic started by Mindfondler. I believe there was some good stuff in that thread you might find interesting.
However, up until we are actually engaged, pretty much anything that indicates her kitty is purring (and drooling) is going to be in the strike zone for this batter up.
The rub is, when we aren't horny, even a little bit, then what is such a hot turn on when we are sounds goofy to us as we say it. More goofy to us than the people we are saying it to.
My thing is, so is 90% of the rest of the stuff we say if we actually paid as much attention to it as we do to watching our sexy stuff.
"Did you do the dishes?" Are they done? If they are, did you do them? If not, then by process of elimination it was either me or the dog or cats.
But, I think that adding a bit of spice to your conversational gambits is a good way to let the person you are talking to know that you want them, and specifically them, to do naughty things to, with, and for you.
What are those things?
I mean, this is the person that you are wanting to do those things with. So, what are they?
Get descriptive. Get detailed. Think moment by moment exactly what you want them to do, what you want to feel them doing. What they would need to do to unleash those feelings you crave from inside of you.
Don't say "make love to me" if you want a hard, rhythmic pounding from behind with his hand wrapped in your hair, tugging your head back to make you meet his eyes in the mirror in the headboard as each mighty thrust of his pulsating shaft pierces your sugary walls deep enough that his hips collide with your ass in a loud slap-slap-slap-slap.
And don't say "fuck the hell outta me" if you want to be caressed and cuddled as he rises above you, meeting your eyes in a soul-deep gaze with each slow, gentle caress of him dragging in and out, in and out inside you.
And that, right there, is why "dirty talk" doesn't work for me in the actual moment. Because you have to think about it. The time for thinking, and talking, is past. It's time for doing. And while we are doing, anything more than "Oh, fuck yeah, do it, do it, do me, do me" is an indication that something isn't working right.
Frankly, that is something of a litmus test for me with my lover. I challenge her by asking her a question. If she can answer, then we ain't there yet. If she can't, then I keep doing what I am. If she has a panic attack, I turn the heat up on her boil to take her over the edge... unless we are practicing orgasm denial edging, in which case I stop what I'm doing and let the endorphins seep away before starting again.
Any road, I have no idea if I actually contributed anything or not.
But, if not, then hopefully someone else will come along and straighten out whatever I have fucked up.
Oh, or I dimly recall being a part of a discussion a few years back on this topic started by Mindfondler. I believe there was some good stuff in that thread you might find interesting.
twister947
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I guess I'm a contrarian, but for me, if talking dirty doesn't come easily and instinctively to you, it will sound contrived and be a distraction.
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Imagine what you consider great sex, then describe it...
ElizaBennet33
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Hmmm
Talking dirty has to be instinctive, not like you're reading a script. As a few people have said already, it's about how you feel. Can you articulate to your man how he makes you feel? What you want him to do or what you want to do to him?
I don't think talking dirty even has to be dirty words although if you felt it in the moment, then it might be hot to hear. Even saying things like, "You feel so good." Or "You turn me on so much" can be sexy.
If it's going to sound awkward and stilted, then best to not talk and just moan a lot!
Talking dirty has to be instinctive, not like you're reading a script. As a few people have said already, it's about how you feel. Can you articulate to your man how he makes you feel? What you want him to do or what you want to do to him?
I don't think talking dirty even has to be dirty words although if you felt it in the moment, then it might be hot to hear. Even saying things like, "You feel so good." Or "You turn me on so much" can be sexy.
If it's going to sound awkward and stilted, then best to not talk and just moan a lot!
davion2308
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It takes practice
People try talking dirty in bed and they immediately feel silly or goofy or dumb. As you said, they don't know what to say or how to say it or how their partner will react.
Here's what I suggest. It worked for me and my wife and we have fun with it.
1. Try talking dirty sober and out of bed first. You should be able to talk about sex with your partner and be descriptive. Know what nouns are good for body parts and what make you cringe or feel weird. My wife telling me her nipples need attention from my mouth later (while walking around Costco) is hot. My wife telling me to get on these tiddies is ... not as much fun.
Talk about sex and what you want to do or have done to you when you're not having sex. That makes things feel more comfortable and gives you practice without rejection or laughter later when you're actually having sex.
2. We started purposely making more noise, playing a verbal hot-and-cold with each other when we wanted something done to us. Pick a spot, your left hip, for example, and when your partner starts kissing your body, be louder with moans as they get closer. Take turns doing this and you'll get used to purposely making noise and engaging with what your partner is doing.
Once those two are comfortable and you've had practice, you'll be surprised how easy it can be to transition to talking to each other.
Please, please, please don't go the route of the cam girl, shrieking about fucking your pussy HARDER HARDER HARDERHARDERHARDER. Dirty talk isn't organic for most people but it should be realistic to work successfully.
Have fun and good luck!
People try talking dirty in bed and they immediately feel silly or goofy or dumb. As you said, they don't know what to say or how to say it or how their partner will react.
Here's what I suggest. It worked for me and my wife and we have fun with it.
1. Try talking dirty sober and out of bed first. You should be able to talk about sex with your partner and be descriptive. Know what nouns are good for body parts and what make you cringe or feel weird. My wife telling me her nipples need attention from my mouth later (while walking around Costco) is hot. My wife telling me to get on these tiddies is ... not as much fun.
Talk about sex and what you want to do or have done to you when you're not having sex. That makes things feel more comfortable and gives you practice without rejection or laughter later when you're actually having sex.
2. We started purposely making more noise, playing a verbal hot-and-cold with each other when we wanted something done to us. Pick a spot, your left hip, for example, and when your partner starts kissing your body, be louder with moans as they get closer. Take turns doing this and you'll get used to purposely making noise and engaging with what your partner is doing.
Once those two are comfortable and you've had practice, you'll be surprised how easy it can be to transition to talking to each other.
Please, please, please don't go the route of the cam girl, shrieking about fucking your pussy HARDER HARDER HARDERHARDERHARDER. Dirty talk isn't organic for most people but it should be realistic to work successfully.
Have fun and good luck!
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Try masturbating a little bit, and then just say whatever words you might be thinking... like if i touch myself i can think about... "I'd love to feel your beautiful big cock inside me"
https://wolf.tylerthebadwolf.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/2/2016/08/tumblr_nawsl6vU121ry4gdjo1_500.gif
Oh my god. That video shot is so fucking hot.
Jasminelit
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If you're unsure, you can always start by snuggling in close, running your hand up and down your partner, kissing their ear, and say "good morning baby". That's a good start.
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Ohh
My baby cucumber
My Chi is making me tingle
My baby cucumber
My Chi is making me tingle
