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[Pleasure Fox]

OK I have been married for the past 8 years. I am recently divorced. I had not slept with my ex for well over a year. There is someone I am intrested in and I really care for him and him for me too.. He has done EVERYTHING in his power to make me feel like I have no bones as a white heat surrounds me when we make love. I want to do something perfect for him.. Being that my ex was the only person I had ever had any sexual contact with I am not worldly. I want to give my lover a perfect blow job.. a lovers kiss. He has never asked for it but has hinted. I want to make this the MOST memorable event ever for him with me.

Could I please get some feedback from guys on what you like and how you would like it done?

 

[Guest]

I'm no guy, but I'll tell you what I do. Unless they are all lieing I give pretty good head.

Every man is different, so the most important thing is to learn to pay attention to how he is reacting. I've learned a little trick that helps me monitor that.

I first make sure they are in the most comfortable position for them. Some like it laying down, some like it standing up, or kneeling on the edge of a bed. I have long hair, so I make sure it is tied up behind me so it doesn't get in the way. There are extras you can use your hair for, but for the most part, it gets in the way.

I usually begin by fondling him while kissing his mouth. As I feel some pre-cum, I will take the inititive to move down towards his penis. I take my right hand and wrap it around the base of his cock, and squeeze slightly. This usually gets a nice reaction. I will use my tongue, then, to lick the head, starting from the top, and swirl all around it. I do not take the head into my mouth.....yet.

To help build up the pressure, I will lick up and down the sides. This is usually a very brief tease, as by now he is usually wanting to thrust into something soft and wet. I can tell by the pulsing of his dick through my hand. You see, what makes him hard it the blood pulsing through his veins, and you can feel the pulsation with your hand. It's just like checking your pulse in your wrist.

Without warning, I will then move up to the head and engulf with my mouth, squeezing the base at the same time with my hand. If they are vocal, I usually hear a moan at that point.

I then make my mouth create as much saliva as I can, letting it run down the side of his shaft. I will loosen my grip, and move my hand up his shaft to moisten my fingers with my own saliva. This usually takes several *strokes* to make sure there is plenty of moisture, on his cock and around my fingers. You don't want to pump him with your dry hand, as dry friction could be very painful. You could use some oils if they are for taste as well, but I found saliva to be the best lubricant.

Once his cock and my hand is suffiently lubricated, I then begin a slow rhythm, paying attention to the pace he responds to. My hand and mouth work together, giving him the illusion I am taking more into my mouth than I actually am. I have deep throated a few times, and though stories include them heavily, it is not an easy thing to do. My method works quite well, and probably more successful than most *deep throats* actually are.

If I can, I try to cup his balls with my other hand, but this is not always possible. Sometimes you need that hand to keep your balance, depending on whether he begins to buck against you, or if they stay immovable.

And back to your hand around his member. There are usually certain places a littl more sensitive than others, and you need to find them, and hone your hand to them. They will help you bring him to his orgasm.

Learning to give head at first is not always a pleasurable experience. But once you learn how to detect what is turning him on, giving head becomes a pleasure. I'm sure most experienced gals will agree.

Good luck in your conquest. I guarantee if you don't get it down just right the first time, he will still appreciate your effort.

- Moon

 

[Jester]

Technique isn't everything, Fox. Admittedly, there is something to be said for it, but you shouldn't worry yourself over it more than is necessary. If you really care about him, that will come out (no pun intended) in your actions. I'm sure that he will be more satisfied than you realize just because you're willing to do this for him.

Definitely listen to everyone's advice, but remember this, too: communication is always a good technique (for anything).

Try whatever you feel like trying. I can say that a woman who is enjoying herself is a definite turn-on. Also, eye contact from time to time really works well. We men tend to be visual creatures and seeing a woman going down on you and meeting her gaze during, WHEW! that is one of the most erotic things!

Oh, and do be gentle until you learn how sensitive he is. All guys are different (there's that communication thing again!). Have fun!

 

[Mr_Neb]

Also....

Since this will be your first time pleasing him like that and it seems he is a considerate guy, he may have misgivings about the process. He may feel uncomfortable about "having you do that to him." Before, and certainly during the act, give him the feeling that you too are enjoying it. Tell him how you are feeling about it all and that this is enjoyable for you as well. How hot and graphic you get just depends on the kind of relationship you have. Make sure it is a loving act and not one of obligation.

I sounds to me that you are in the right place emotionally with this. Good luck. (Let us know how it turns out!)

Neb

 

[Pleasure Fox]

date tonight and a sleep over..

I havent seen him in 3 days because he is an attorney for a law firm that does a lot of over seas work. He will be home tonight and we have discussed staying at my play. I think this will be more comfortable for me. I am going to try some "new" things. I will let you know how it goes. Thank you.

 

[Nicole]

Moon Wolf ... WOW.

That is the best discription I have seen on this board in a very long time.

Good Luck and I hope that your man enjoys

 

[dancinvixen]

Ok, as Jester so eloquently put it, technique isn't always everything but it does help. Also, as Mr. Neb put it, he might feel bad. Eye contact really helps, so does making little noises in your throat. I know with my husband, since I am unable to deep throat, the noises turn him on. It lets him know that he doesn't have to feel bad about what I am giving him, since I am enjoying it as well. One thing to watch out for, since this is your first time, TAKE IT SLOW. <g> Don't over do it as gagging on his cock may be a bit of a turn off. So take it slowly and learn your own limitations. And listen to him and his breathing. If he makes more noise than other guys, listen to his moans <or whatever he does> The guys do a really good job of letting the woman know they enjoy it. My husband likes to hold my hair, and rub my head when he is enjoying it <smile>

 

[Pleasure Fox]

Last night was a total success.. Things were perfect he was and he told me i was too.. No one has ever said i was perfect. It made me feel special. So I gave him something special because I care very much about him. He really enjoyed it. I wont go into details just yet because it was all very basic. But pratice makes perfect. And I plan on pratcing VERY much in the near future. We are both going to London for a 2 week vacation.

 

[Mr_Neb]

I just love happy endings!

 

[goddess_euphoria]

Reguardless of how experienced you are, may I suggest Lou Paget's book, "How to be a Great Lover." It covers all sorts of fun things! Enjoy!

 

[Pleasure Fox]

Well We are back from London. It was an amazing trip and lasted a lot longer than I expected. We made love at least twice a day (for our age that is a lot) went out to eat at the most romantic places and I perfected my blow job on him while he sat back and enjoyed. I like giving him oral sex so much more than I had ever dreamed! Thank you everyone here for giving me the courage to try different things.

 

[Vikingen]

don't forget

hey girls don't forget the tounge, that's the most important thing. THe spot on the penis that actually gives the most pleasure is the little string that connects the forskin and the head. Exactly where it's connected to the foreskin is the most sensitive. SO while you suck on the head keep your tounge licking that spot. if you do this, I guarantee you that he will cum harder then ever.

But ask your man to help guide you when you try to find it. I have talked to many friends and the thing is that they didn't even know about the spot on themselves. ( until the made their girls find it. )

Good luck!

 

[Samuari]

For me, sex is comunication. It is about showing, telling, feeling, all the little ways and BIG ones, too of expressing your relationship. There are times when having a favorite dish (one that she doesn't particularly like) is more an expression of love than even Moon's blow job. Or the sacrifice of skipping lunchs so that I could afford a string of pearls that she has had her eye on, is as great a statment as any orgasim. But it all begins with comunication.

By the way, Moon are you giving out samples, are do we have to be content with the demo?