want to be with a guy but am unsure.

[madmanmike]

my problem is that i want to try it once. just to "get it out of my system". i want to try oral and anal both ways but dont know how to go about it. my gf doesnt know i want to try this but i dont think she would mind as long as she got to watch(or join in) but i'm not sure. i want someone who knows what to do but also isnt huge enough to hurt me. can someone give me advice?

 

[1MOA]

I'm in the same place you are. I've fanticised about being with another guy for it seems like along time and am looking for someone who could help me out and see if I would like it or not

 

[madmanmike]

im more worried about what to say to my gf than the actual event. if she doesnt want me to i wont. but i dont klnow how to talk to her about or how she would respond.

its funny how in our culture a girl can be bisexual and everyone is fine with it but if a guy is they look at you like you released a wet fart at a funeral.

 

[Queersetti]

Being gay, not bi, I don't have any relevant experience that might be helpful, but if I might suggest, perhaps you could start by engaging in a conversation with her about fantasies in general, maybe confess to one that is a little less shocking, see if she has any she would like to admit to, and build up to the subject that way.

 

[Pookie]

im more worried about what to say to my gf than the actual event. if she doesnt want me to i wont. but i dont klnow how to talk to her about or how she would respond.

its funny how in our culture a girl can be bisexual and everyone is fine with it but if a guy is they look at you like you released a wet fart at a funeral.

I hope things work out like you want.

One thing though about "a girl can be bisexual and everyone is fine with it". It's not as true as many might think. Some guys really freak out over their gf wanting to be with another girl. It's cool to watch two chicks, but if one of those chicks is his gf, it can create jealousy with a number of guys. I think some guys see it as something they can't compete with, something they can't provide so they see it as a threat to them they can't control. You may see some of the same thing from your gf, especially if she is sorta the jealous type.

 

[Tom Bishop]

being with a guy

I was 52 the first time I was with a guy
Have been with four since always with first guy Being there
I enjoy this new thing very much it is the complete opposite of every thing about me With Boss I am Very Submissive
In real life I have been a boss at work for over 27yrs
With Boss I am his servamt and want to please him
When I am with a women my wife or a girl I meet I am very
demanding and pushey
I wear panties and stockings and fem sexy cloths for boss not to pretend to be women but to be sexy and soft for him
The fact only Boss and I and a small group of his friends know this side of me makes it very exciting and gives me great piece
The only thing I am sorry about is I was so old when I found these thing out
Bishop

 

[Tom Bishop]

being with a guy

I was 52 the first time I was with a guy
Have been with four since always with first guy Being there
I enjoy this new thing very much it is the complete opposite of every thing about me With Boss I am Very Submissive
In real life I have been a boss at work for over 27yrs
With Boss I am his servamt and want to please him
When I am with a women my wife or a girl I meet I am very
demanding and pushey
I wear panties and stockings and fem sexy cloths for boss not to pretend to be women but to be sexy and soft for him
The fact only Boss and I and a small group of his friends know this side of me makes it very exciting and gives me great piece
The only thing I am sorry about is I was so old when I found these thing out
Bishop

 

[thickspear]

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[TUCSON RED]

trying bi great

the first time i tryed bi was after i turned 58 wife had died 2 years earlier and new g/f was a real oral freek. i figured if she liked it so much i would like to try it. as i am rather old and quite large it took a while but found someone to try it with what a rush he was about the same size in cock size so i got a real feeling of what the g/f was doing it was great. have done it 2 more times sence and hope to get chance to do more.

 

[obutg]

Well..... I'm close to 60 myself. Discovered about 10 years ago that I am a 'natural' at giving oral sex to men! Very SELECT MEN ....In fact I fantasize about it almost constantly! I just worship really big and responsive ones!! I like to 'dress' them up in Barbie Doll clothes, and paint little smiles on them with lipstick and whisper little naughty words while I work my magic.....
...but I digress
kinda off topic of: 'I want to be with a guy but am unsure' ......
My answer would be: 'You have to make your own decision!' But let me warn you that you might like it...... you might get 'hooked' so to speak!

 

[Angelofsex]

my problem is that i want to try it once. just to "get it out of my system". i want to try oral and anal both ways but dont know how to go about it. my gf doesnt know i want to try this but i dont think she would mind as long as she got to watch(or join in) but i'm not sure. i want someone who knows what to do but also isnt huge enough to hurt me. can someone give me advice?

Nothing is wrong in thinking this way......try with a bicouple......maybe gf might like it too........I had my first bi, i know I am a woman and it is diff for us......but still if you never did it before it is very hard.......the first time I couldn't do her.......but now years later I enjoy both........just be yourself.

 

[Queersetti]

Re: Re: want to be with a guy but am unsure.

just be yourself.

Sometimes, the simplest advice is the best advice.

 

[Angelofsex]

Re: Re: Re: want to be with a guy but am unsure.

Sometimes, the simplest advice is the best advice.

Thank you....if they don't accept you...then they are not friends or call friends.

 

[TUCSON RED]

THANKS FOR ALL THE ADVICE GUYS. HAVE CONTACTED A COUPLE PEOPLE TO WORK WITH BUT THEY LIVE TO FAR. IF ANYONE IS IN PHOENIX AREA INTERESTED IN M/M ACTION LMK

 

[Etoile]

i want someone who knows what to do but also isnt huge enough to hurt me. can someone give me advice?

I'm afraid my experience with this is - well, none - but one thing I can say is that prior experience and dick size are totally unrelated.

 

[Northcountryguy]

my gf doesnt know i want to try this but i dont think she would mind as long as she got to watch(or join in) but i'm not sure.

Sharing my own experience, I would have to say that telling her takes a lot courage, but the benefits could ( i repeat) could be immeasurable. After years of trying to repress my feelings and having them resurface repeatedly, I finally fessed up and told my wife that I had been having bi desires and wanted to do something about them. She was completely understanding and (not trying to oversimplify the situation, or what it took to get to the point of trusting her with my inner most secret) now she says that she would love to be there to see me lost in the ecstacy of it all. Go figure - I think she most of all appreciated me trusting her with this.
So I guess you have to ask yourself how much you trust her with your feelings and if you feel that she would be understanding. Good luck to you.