Virginity

[the_bragis]

Hello,

You know what I've been wondering about?

Literotica won't post stories about people under eighteen, and I agree with that completely.

I know too they have a section of "First Time" stories, and I really enjoy those.

But honestly, how many people are still virgins when they turn eighteen?

Alex(fem).

 

[M.A.Thompson]

I was 16. It was the 4th of July, 1985. I would love to write a story about it but would not for the reasons you mentioned above.

Good question Alex. I look forward to more responses!

 

[deliciously_naughty]

::raises hand:: I was about 18 and 5 or 6 months.

I was terrified of getting pregnant. Why? My mom's first experience resulted in me...that has a profound impact on a young woman who is considering sex. Of course once I tried it and no pregnancy resulted I dove right in and haven't looked back. Although I am compelled to say that it's been so long that I may as well be a virgin again.

sigh

 

[gaigirl]

::raises hand:: I was about 18 and 5 or 6 months.

Raises hand also. I was much older than 18, and would very much like to write about it-- fom the POV of what I would have done differently. As it is, my sceme to 'just get it over with' would only fit in the satire and humor section, and only there because there isn't a section (yet?) for truly pathetic.

But aha! We write to get over things-- for the chance for 're-do' opportunities...

 

[Diane Marie]

Raises hand also. I was much older than 18, and would very much like to write about it-- fom the POV of what I would have done differently. As it is, my sceme to 'just get it over with' would only fit in the satire and humor section, and only there because there isn't a section (yet?) for truly pathetic.

I hear ya gaigirl, 17, I wanted it over with, and so so pathetic an experience it was almost over before it had begun!

 

[SlickTony]

I was 18, and it was with the man who became my first husband. If I had it to do over again I would have practiced with whatever blunt objects I had to hand before I ever had intercourse, because it was not particularly pleasant for me. It hurt.

IMO, virginity is not what it used to be, anyway.

 

[its Leslie]

Just how does a guy "lose his virginity"?

I mean whats required?

I did not actually fuck a woman till my wedding night at age of 25.
This was not due to some notion of virginity meaning anything to me though (the opportunity never arrived before hand).

Actually speaking of hands, does kneeling in a park with my pants pulled down, while my fiance empties me onto the grass count?

I don't care a whit for virginity though. It's a notion attached to religious dogma. I have zero use for it.
I don't want to screw virgins, means nothing special to me. I could care less if a female is one additionally.

I adhere to the no literature involving below 18 for one reason only, it's the rule at Lit.
I have a desire to write numerous stories involving physiologically mature (even if not yet fully mentally mature individuals). The only thing stopping me is the rules.

A lot of people are brought up to believe virginity is special. It isn't to me though. But then a lot of people are brought up to believe a lot of things. I don't believe a lot of notions have any established worth though.

The day my son discovers girls, will be the day I ensure he understands how to play safe. I won't be teaching him to save it, but I will teach him some will value it. I will teach him it's his, not mine, and his opinion counts not mine.

Some parents will be pissed off with my teachings. To bad, I don't care for theirs. If this impacts my son's life, I will have to tell him "welcome to life son, some people will insist on making your life complicated for no apaprent reason, part of growing up".

If at 15 for example, he enjoys taking his girlfriend to his room to fuck, he won't get any flack from me. If his girfriend has less tolerant parents, well that is the young ladies responsibility to handle. After all, I am not responsible for her am I.

Logic of course dictates my son won't want to have open obvious casual sex in his parent's place. He will do it some where that is on his terms I suppose. After all how many parents out there will be as easy to handle as me? He won't be expecting it.

I just hope he asks me the questions that we all know the majority of parents are commonly unwilling to confront.
I hope he takes the chance I offer him to learn from my life of experiences (something most parents don't make use of it seems). There is no reason his teen years have to be forced to be on his own with no assistance.

 

[kristydoll]

good question - but I would "fit" the rules - I was 18+ the first time.

kristy

 

[sirhugs]

which first time?

I was 21 or 22 the first time I had sex( other than masturbation), but it wasn't intercourse. That didn't happen until I was about 25.

Now, I'm so celibate I squeak.

Quick, who's got some oil before the trap door on my armour rusts shut permanently?

 

[Pookie]

I was not a virgin when I turned 18.

 

[karmadog]

I was nearly 19, but I lost it in an all-girls dorm in a bunkbed (topshelf), while her roommate was in the bottom bunk. Fortunately, we didn't keep her awake that long. Four months of foreplay tends to shorten the act. Come to think of it, she's lucky I didn't blast her off the bed on a jet of sperm.

 

[Quasimodem]

There is no point in my learning how to write 1st Person POV stories. My autobiographical 'First Time' will never make it on Literotica.

Due to the vagaries of the calendar, my sixteenth birthday arrived before my chance to pass the test for my driver's license. I never truly forgave the DMV, but a girl whom I had overlooked in the gang with which I hung out, tried to make it up to me.

Guess what? She did!

 

[SlickTony]

I have a desire to write numerous stories involving physiologically mature (even if not yet fully mentally mature individuals). The only thing stopping me is the rules.

Yeah, doesn't that suck? With the exception of Survival I and II, the stories I've been writing for here plus a few more I have in development, take place in this particular milieu with these characters, except that there's one I can't ever submit here because the character was only 17, even though she was one of these "parentified" young women who had essentially been running things in her household, and had lost her virginity at the age of 12. Oh, well, I guess I'm just going to have to get the novel written.

 

[jon.hayworth]

OMG I feel out of place. I must have been a delinquent!

I would be 5 years too young if I wrote a story about my first fuck. It was Xmas 1961 - I was 13 so was the girl and she knew what she was doing - I think.

We had gone out Carol Singing and were on our way home - a knee trembler in a passageway under some steps going up to the entrance of Saint John's Hall, Penzance, (this info is only of interest to Cornish readers), and it was cold.

A few days later we used a barn - a lot warmer.

jon

 

[Guest]

Don't actually want to identify myself, so keeping this anonymous. I am a current Lit writer and have got good feedback from several of the people on this bored, but I am still a virgin at the age of 19.

 

[SlickTony]

That tends to bear out my theory that (1) virginity isn't what it used to be, and (2) that it has always been harder to define than what people have thought.

 

[Ms.M]

My first post had to be about something, so why not about my first time. I was 15, babysitting if I remember right...

I must admit I am a bit surprised that I seem to be in the minority!

 

[the_bragis]

I was 18, and it was with the man who became my first husband. - Slick Tony

You know that reminded me of something I read in a biography on Elizabeth Taylor. She is quoted as saying, "I"ve only ever slept with the men I've been married to. How many woman can say that?"

And she does have a good point.

Alex(fem).

 

[green_rook]

Just how does a guy "lose his virginity"?

One would assume in much the same way a woman would: by engaging in sexual contact of some sort (where one decides sexual contact has extended to the point of "ruining virtue" is an individual demarcation). That men have no physical proof of virginity shouldn't be a problem as it's not uncommon for women to break their hymen without sexual contact rendering that "proof" invalid.

For myself, I was under eighteen, but I always considered the realization that sex wasn't the mindnumbingly pleasureful act that I'd come to be believe it was as the innocence that I lost.

I don't care a whit for virginity though. It's a notion attached to religious dogma.

Strange, I'd always assumed that the value of virginity stemmed from the same source as chastity belts: the desire to ensure heirs would be of the same bloodline. I'd assume that religion latched onto it pretty quickly, but that the origin had to do with inheritance.

 

[Diane Marie]

I was nearly 19, but I lost it in an all-girls dorm in a bunkbed (topshelf), while her roommate was in the bottom bunk. Fortunately, we didn't keep her awake that long. Four months of foreplay tends to shorten the act. Come to think of it, she's lucky I didn't blast her off the bed on a jet of sperm.

I don’t imagine she felt so lucky.

 

[English Lady]

I was 19 when i lost my virginity to the man who is now my husband,he is the only man I have had real time sex with!


Its leslie...I really do admire your view...I hope when my daughter grows up and starts wanting to find out about boys I will be able to be as open. I think it really makes a difference treating a teenager like they can make their own decisions.....I think that encourages them to be responsible!

 

[Diane Marie]

You know that reminded me of something I read in a biography on Elizabeth Taylor. She is quoted as saying, "I"ve only ever slept with the men I've been married to. How many woman can say that?"

And she does have a good point.

Alex(fem).

Your point being?

 

[Diane Marie]

Just how does a guy "lose his virginity"?
If at 15 for example, he enjoys taking his girlfriend to his room to fuck, he won't get any flack from me. If his girfriend has less tolerant parents, well that is the young ladies responsibility to handle. After all, I am not responsible for her am I.

Let me get this straight, your saying your not responsible for teaching your son responsibility. Are you sure he’s going to be ready to be a father at 15? Is he ready to pay for the child’s support? Maybe he doesn’t have to be, a few of the courts have ruled the boys parents do until he’s of legal age.

Wonderful thing to teach your son, he’s not responsible for her or to her! It’s just sex son, it doesn’t mean anything.

 

[SlickTony]

I was 15, babysitting if I remember right...

In this situation, it's usually with the boyfriend you weren't supposed to have over on the job, or the kids' father...which was it?

 

[its Leslie]

Diane read more slowly, the young lady is merely responsible for dealing with her own parents where her own parents might not be so interested in letting her be responsible for herself.

As for the courts fuck the courts, look at all the wonderful laws they have given us. No I live in the world and have to deal with that fact, but I am not obligated to like it nor support it willingly.

As for my son getting his girl friend knocked up, no that won't be a problem, because after 16 years of marriage, am a shitload more skilled at playing with a woman that a 15 year old boy.

No I will be quite bold, I will explain to the young lady that a hand job done properly can likely send the love of her life into orbit as he shoots his cum into the air to land harmlessly on his stomache, and she can even get the giggle potential out of it if she is playful and makes him squirm like hell while doing it.
She might use the option to suck him off, you can't get pregnant swalloing sperm last I checked.

If he is unwilling to risk getting out of control, I will offer him Playboy magazines. I advocate all parents to send their sons out on dates AFTER their son shows them his cum sprayed onto a towel, BEFORE he leaves on his date. This sounds dumb only until you remember, it is easier to keep a cool head around a girl with recently emptied balls.

You clearly opted to ignore my comment I intend to ensure my son knows how to play safe. And trust me, playing safe is more than just giving him a goddamned condom or two.
Think about it, a few beers, a few dances, several buds alone with several girls, at a home that has no parents currently. It's not all that unique a scenario.
Couples begin to relax due to alcolhol. Next stage is boys do what boys do and girls do what girls do at this age, they get excited. Clothes disappear, and tits do what tits do they give boys erections, erections being fascinating to girls I suppose. It is just a recipe for a bad idea, and during the passion of the moment condoms are rarely thought of.

THAT is where unwanted pregnancy comes from. Not parents that have thought the matter out. I intend to berate and generally hassle my son constantly that if he doesn't use his cock safely I will kick his ass for him.
Personally stds don't rate the same undesirable fate of a slow death as you see all your hopes and dreams die slowly. As you miss out on higher education, a loss of personal freedom, an unwanted mate, children you didn't plan, an income deviod of a future. And all because you parents didn't teach you strategies to cope wih your urges that were new to you.

I have a LOT more brains than most where sex is concerned. You can keep you dogma, your usual way of parenting. And your offspring left to figure out life with zero assistance.

It IS just sex. But how you learn about it DOES count. And a stupid ill prepared boyfriend is no girl's bonus opportunity. By my son being responsible to himself, he IS being responsible to her. By her being responsible to herself, she is doing HIM a great service. And by me giving him access to all my experiences, he is not treading the minefield of his youth alone.

I find it funny that some people assume that because I encourage my son to have open sex, it implies I want him to do it without thinking of it.

By not teaching him fuck all about it, that is precisely what I would be doing.
If your daughter asked you how to give a boy a blowjob, could you handle it?
If your son asked you how to put on a condum, could you do it?

I remember my teen years clearly in one respect, I was clueless, I didn't understand anything my body was doing to me.
My dad once explained what happens when I masturbate. He was a few years late on it though.