virgin or non virginated >?

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[AzureAngel]

I don't think that anyone else can tell you whether or not something like that will bother you. While I don't think that it should be an issue that would have you walking away from someone you would consider marrying... that's MY values speaking... not yours.

 

[Private Vasquez]

kick the slut to the curb

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[Private Vasquez]

not in the least bit

 

[BustyTheClown]

Lol not at all, Celestial.

Yoyotwat... <sighs> Ah, I just can't.

 

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[KillerMuffin]

Does virginity make her a different person than she is now? Or does attitude toward lack of virginity only make her suffer?

 

[lovetoread]

Look deep inside and see if the fact that she has slept with another is worth losing her.

To me its not,but its you that has to live with this decision.

 

[BustyTheClown]

Sorry for taking it so lightly. I can't offer you the "desi" view you seek, but it sounds like you really do love her. I guess you just have to ask yourself some questions:

- Can you keep her past history a secret from your family if you ended up marrying her? Would you be able to live with that?
- Which is a greater loss to you: losing the woman you love who happens to have done a few things in her past that you don't agree with, or possibly sacrificing your morals for her? Choose whatever you think you would be able to live with.

It will be a struggle dealing with these issues, since they are obviously so important to you. It's hard when your heart argues with your religion. You just have to think about what would make you happiest in the long run and go with that. It sounds too good to be true -- it's a simple idea, but I know it won't be a simple matter for you to decide. Best of luck to you.

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[SexySlut2]

I think it's quite simple, if you have any doubts whatsoever you should not get married.

 

[Monazwx]

Yayati

So what if the girl isn't a virgin. You don't have to tell me how important tradition is, God knows my family tries to instill some in me enough, but it wasn't as if she was really sleeping around before. She made a commitment to someone who unfortunately didn't feel the same. Now, she likes you and you seem to like her. So what's the problem? At least she was honest and told you. She could have lied instead.

Are you upset 'cause you didn't get there first? It's admirable that you are still a virgin, but holding everyone up to your standard is a little harsh. It's the level of commitment, not the hymen that's important. Check out GreenEyedGirl's AV. Your girl still has the'box' that her virginity came in. At don't worry about what other people say. It's your relationship, only between the two of you.

 

[Guest]

thanx.

 

[Cheyenne]

Hi to all. I met this girl who I am serious about and thinking about marrying. She is indian and educated. I care for her but something bothers me. I was brought up in a traditional sense that males and females should be virgin until marriage. I kept that view and am a virgin. The girl who I am seeing is not a virgin. She has had sex multiple times with the same person. Although this was several years ago it still bothers me. Could you tell me if this will bother me even after marriage or should I leave her?

Did you think no one would remember this post of yours from a previous thread you started?

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=48510

Hahahahah I am married 3 years ago.My wife was the first women i touched & married her at the age of 20.I wish to have sex with any other lady as a trial(really i don't have guts to do so).My wife also permitted me to try sex with any other lady. I am affraid of sexually transmitted disease & dont want to be disgracefull to my wife. Before having intercourse me & my wife talk sexy matters openly. What should i do. I suggested to her that we can share ourself with another couple for a change & satisfaction. Is it right to do so ? heeeeeeeeeeeeeeee ?

 

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[Cheyenne]

Re: Re: Re: virgin or non virginated >?

that was for a joke. u could see the ha ha's. this though is serious. thanx for reading my little tidbits though.

Nice try. Game over.

 

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[Cheyenne]

but no need to feed others filth that i am a liar or something.

Well of course there is a need! That's what I do, you know. Find the lies of people like you and post them to the board for everyone to decide on their own about you. Good memory comes in handy, ya know?

 

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[YogiBare]

yayati, I'm willing to give you the benefit of the doubt because you do seem to be sincere and I would much rather relate to you as you have been on this thread than how you have presented yourself at other times. I am also willing to appear foolish if I am wrong.

I see that your problem is a difficult one. Your culture is a very strong one, as is mine (Jewish). Remember though that over time, most immigrant cultures in the US modify themselves and make compromises to adapt to the majority culture. In this case, the majority culture places very little value on virginity at the time of marriage, and so it is possible that the values of your people here in the US might also soften on this point. Just a thought.

Whatever you choose to do, both of you will live with the consequences. Best wishes to you both, and congratulations for grappling with this issue so honestly, with yourselves and with one another.

 

[Cherry]

Yogi,

That was remarkably compassionate (given the circumstances) and well said.

 

[YogiBare]

Yogi,

That was remarkably compassionate (given the circumstances) and well said.

Thanks, Cherry! I appreciate your compliment.

 

[Shaq]

You suffer from a disease called...

virgin syndrome.

Symptoms:

1.Concerns over inferiority when compared to your partners past lovers
2.Resentment of you offering virginity while your partner cannot reciprocate
3.Fear that your partner won't value your sexual experience as much as you do


All virgins feel it...and yes sometimes relationships are ended because of it. You just gotta ask yourself how much is this girl worth to you. You were raised on the principle that you should be a virgin until marriage....but marriage is supposed to be based on unconditional love...if you think she loves you then you shouldn't leave her...would you leave her because of her looks? How about her height? I'm not saying you don't have some right to feel how you do...but love doesn't come knockin everyday....you could discuss these feelings with her...but I say you be a man, confront your feelings and say fuck it and stay with her...

 

[Guest]

not so easy dad