Virgin 19 y o guy here; should I stay that way?

[virgin boy]

Hey everyone - just got the courage up to post here, so I hope I get some encouraging responses from people. =) First, I wanted to get the opinion of people out there about virginity and whether having sex before marriage helps you enjoy it more, and if it's really worth me giving mine up. Yes, I am a real virgin AND also a straight, hot-blooded male. I've been wondering hard about this question for a while and am not sure what to do (I want to hear both sides of the argument please!); I don't know whether it's worth holding out anymore. Second, I'd love any advice from people on getting over my fear of not having the right level of trust and also a fear of my own inexperience in having a sexual relationship. Hopefully some of you can help me out with some advice or comforting words - I guess you can respond to this thread, or e-mail me at virgin_boy@hotmail.com, and let me know what you think. Thanks a lot! and Merry X-mas!

 

[Zidane]

I say, unless you have someone who is special and close to you, stay a virgin. Don't give it up to the first hot blooded girl that comes along. Make sure your first time is with someone you want to be with and care about. Regardless if you stay with them in the end, at least at the moment you lose your virginity, it would be special to you.

 

[Blackthorn]

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I'd have to agree w/ Zidane,

I have thought about what if I had saved my self for my fiance (the only reason...being would be that her and I would have experianced something viewed special in a physical way for the first time together).

At the same time I think why save yourself? If you were to save yourself for someone special and in the end that person broke your heart, they've taken something away from you and YOU will never forget them. What if you had saved yourself and they hadn't? Would it feel the same knowing that you had waited and they'd been getting off before you?

On the flip side what if you just go out and get laid, will you try to make a relationship out of it? What will you think about something you thought would be special was just a simple one night stand? But what if you were both virgins? A one night stand that you both would remember and have a special place in your heart for?

In the end the choice is yours, I don't have any regrets in life...simply because regrets are a waste of time that make you think of how it could be different instead of making it better in the end. Find what is right for you and do that, I can't tell you what would be better for you...only you can AND I think you know the answer you are looking for, you just want to see others agree with that so you can make that choice.

Goodluck in making the choices you will have to live with...

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

there`re right.
i want my first time to be special.
it should be special and romantic.
you should care about each other.

 

[virgin boy]

Thanks guys, appreciate it - I think I'll do a bit more thinking on the subject until I figure it out, but you brought up some good points. Who knows what the future holds?

 

[Zidane]

I see both sides of the issue here, esp. on the point about losing it to someone you love only to have someone break your heart afterwards.....well my arguement for that is basically, you WILL have enjoyed the time you lost it, because AT THAT TIME, you were with someone you loved and someone you WANTED to lose it to, at that time. That's the main thing. Its not the overall scheme of things that's important, its the small little things which are worth cherishing and living for.

 

[virgin boy]

I guess that's what I'm afraid of . . . not being able to share my first with my "true love" when she comes (if ever =P). Living for the moment, like Zidane said, might get me what feels right now - and I think second-guessing myself all the time probably won't help out that much, in which case I should get over my fears. Hmmm - so much to consider!

 

[Zidane]

well, its up to you anyways, if you want to just waste it for a 'quick fix' and get the feelings out of the way, then that's your call. But personally, I'd rather my first time be something special, than something 'wham, wham, slam' whew...done.
Not like that.

 

[Ventoso]

I really do not understand why you want to suffer and stay virgin ... . Then you will lack experience when the moment will come ... to satisfy your first love!

The life is short ...!

 

[Guest]

Fuck a duck and screw a guinea........

Kid---I lost my virginity down on the farm in the pussy of a young calf. That was the best fuck i've ever had so far......



~~~Mystic's Troll~~~

 

[Zidane]

Riiiiight.....
look, you'd have to be in my position, have to be raised that way I was raised, have the same morals and background that I have to even come close to understanding why I want to remain a virgin until my first love.

 

[Guest]

I remember losing my virginity...well sort of add alchol a picnic table some jerk who I thought I loved and of course being 16 didn't help, and I will always regret they experience. I can't remember most of it after all. I think it is commendable and uplifting to hear of people saving themselves. And I think that in the end whether you stay with the person or not afterwards at least your first experience will be out of love not because of hormones and alcohol.

 

[LoveAdvocate]

I have not many virgins at your age and I must say it's nice. Most people that I know haven't controlled their sexual urges and gave it up to someone they realized later on that they wish they wouldn't have, myself included. My advice to you is simply this, since you have waiting this long, look inside yourself and ask yourself why. Is it a moral issue for you, have you not done it out of fear, the right opportunity hasn't arrisen? The reason you have waited this long should give you the answer. If you feel it's wrong, but you want to anyway just make sure you can deal with the consequenses before preceding. I wish you luck in you search for your answers. And about being inexperienced, we all were at one time. I suggest you read, read and read some more. You'd be suprized how much you can learn by just the written word, whether it is instructional or just erotica. Best wishes.

 

[virgin boy]

Umm, a young calf - sorry Mystic Troll, but I think I'll leave that experience alone . . . Anyway, I guess after reading all of the posts, my big hang-up is whether or not I should be a bit more eager to have sex now so that I do have more experience when I'm older and when I do find real love, to make that experience more special. Do you think I can really become ready by reading up? I've always questioned that approach, but now that someone mentioned it, I guess you could stand to learn a lot by just reading about it instructionally and through erotica like the stuff on this site. Again, any thoughts on this? I'm relieved to see that I'm not the only one who's had to consider this situation.

 

[Astro]

to hold on or not to hold on

Hi Virgin Boy,

I lost my virginity to a lass I cared for alot, it was also her first time. I have not meet 'The One' yet but I personaly would like to be able to ensure that I can am a good lover for her.

You have to balance this out:
1) will you 'True Love' value your virginity as a sign of your love for her
2) or would she prefere you to give her a fantastic night of passion ?

Astro