Violence and sex

[Guest]

What is your opinion of why humans (especially women) combine these themes in our sexual fantasies?

 

[Guest]

 

[Guest]

Well, like many different fantasies out there, rough sex is more or less still considered a Taboo. Many people out there are attracted to the Taboos. It gives them a chance to let their inhibitions go and just have fun!

~Dr Tiggs~
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[Edited by Tiggs on 09-30-2000 at 01:01 PM]

 

[Curious Guy]

Because... isn't that enough? Well, if you were a woman, would you rather go up to the man you are looking forward to having sex with and say, "Hello, would you make kind, tender love to me?" or would you rather , " Hey, stud! Come over here and fuck me like the beast I know you are!!!"

As I,ve seen in someones signature :
Damn, just Damn

 

[lala]

i think some of it has to do with our primitive instincts- sex is one of those, so is violence, and i think embracing the dangerous, the forbidden, makes it less so.

i also always thought there may have been a chemical connection,... have you ever been turned on while watching a violent scene in a movie? i mean just a normal action flick- it happens,...

i don't know anything for sure, but i think it's because it's about excitement- adrenaline all that- intensity,...

either that or all we're all sick and we're going to hell, but at least we'll have fun on the way down!!

 

[TN_Vixen]

I honestly don't know from where the connection stems, but I enjoy rough sex.. okok, I LOVE rough sex. Something about having a man pull my hair, position me any way he wants, face-fuck my mouth with his cock is just a turn on. I love to be dominated and albeit, I don't love a LOT of pain, I do enjoy some.. it is a threshold thing.

 

[Whispersecret]

Could it be an instinctual thing? Could females be "programmed" to want the male to dominate her, like in much of the animal world?

 

[Guest]

Good question Whisper, but I think if it were the same for humans as it is in the rest of the animal kingdom, more women would be inclined to submit. For us, botom line, I think it's purely sexual. There are many women out there who enjoy being the dominate one. Likewise, there are men wanting to submit. Back to the origional question about violence, though, anyone who has an understanding about D/s and BDSM can understand the attraction a sub has towards rough sex.

~Tiggs~
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[Miranda Reigns]

It's all about .... guilt

Women want you to take them to relieve themselves from any guilt they might feel from consentual sex. Perhaps they are married ... perhaps they are Catholic ... perhaps they have hangups ... violence ... (not too violent, mind you) ... more like aggression ... keeps the woman from uttering the word yes ... therefore relieving her of any guilt associated with the pleasure she may feel ... Now ... not all women are like this, so you can't assume that just because one woman likes it rough, the next one does. As always ...the feminie mystique will continue to plague mankind throughout eternity ...
xxxooo
Miranda

 

[Guest]

Re: It's all about .... guilt

Women want you to take them to relieve themselves from any guilt they might feel from consentual sex.

Thank you Miranda:
This is how I've always felt.

- Moon

 

[Guest]

Re: It's all about .... guilt

Women want you to take them to relieve themselves from any guilt they might feel from consentual sex.

I have to disagree, Miranda. The statement you made was in general, sigh, and I know sex (or ANY sexual activity for that matter) does not make me feel guilty...in any way, shape, or form! Some women are very open sexually, and I am one of them. I am not inhibited at all, and I know what I like. I don't feel guilty to say "yes, I want it".

~Tiggs~
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[FlamingoBlue]

I don't know.....

What do you think, Moon wolf???

blue

 

[TN_Vixen]

From Tiggs:

"Good question Whisper, but I think if it were the same for humans as it is in the rest of the animal kingdom, more women would be inclined to submit"

-Do you think so? Or could it be that our culture and environmental influences cause women to supress such an instinct for fear of being perceived as "weak", "subordinate to men", or "whorish"?

And Miranda was right when she said that guilt plays a factor... as young girls we are conditioned through television, movies, church, peers and family, etc. to be "good" girls and to like sex and want sex makes you a "bad" girl.. having the inability to do anything about it obliterates the responsibility and frees women to enjoy it simply because they can do nothing else. This relates more to being dominated than it does to violence, though. You can be dominated without any violent acts at all. I like a little bit of danger and fear in sex, not real fear... just having the man exhibit his strength... me twisting to get away and him pulling me back, him pulling my hair... little slaps and bites and pinches that borders on real pain, but not fully... that has little to do with guilt I think and has more to do with a person's association of sex and pain and how it affects them.

 

[angie girl]

This is an interesting question to me. Mostly because I have always found being a sub and even physically dominated exciting.

So I am a believer in "auras" and I see them around people. Ok fuck you, I don't ask you to believe it. But recently I met a fem who has an aura that is not possible. The fucking sun is coming up behind her head at all times.

But I know she has some kind of violent history. But I don't know what. But I also know she is totally open to violent fantasies. So figure that out?