Venturing into my first sub relationship..

[DirtyCurvyLittleHousewife85]

Hello everyone!

I am 30 years old and have ALWAYS been submissive by nature. My husband is a switch, and I have adapted to that quite well. We have discussed on many occasions me becoming his sub, and although it truly will be my first sub/dom relationship, how do I convince him that I am mentally, emotionally & physically ready?

Thanks so much!

 

[Primalex]

I am 30 years old and have ALWAYS been submissive by nature. My husband is a switch, and I have adapted to that quite well. We have discussed on many occasions me becoming his sub, and although it truly will be my first sub/dom relationship, how do I convince him that I am mentally, emotionally & physically ready?

You think we know more about your husband and your relationship than you do?

Oh well.



Why do you feel that you are not his submissive?

 

[SpunThings]

Hello everyone!

I am 30 years old and have ALWAYS been submissive by nature. My husband is a switch, and I have adapted to that quite well. We have discussed on many occasions me becoming his sub, and although it truly will be my first sub/dom relationship, how do I convince him that I am mentally, emotionally & physically ready?

Thanks so much!

You talk to him and ask him what you need to do or say to show him you're ready. Then you ask if he's ready, and really listen to his answer.

 

[J_R_Ashunwhy]

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[Chickenchowmein]

You make him a sandwich and tell him you're ready. It's pretty much as simple as that.

 

[bicurnow]

greetings

You could try laying out his favorite new "equipment"; ties, blindfold, nipple clamps, etc.

Then call him into the bed room wearing a thong and a smile with your eyes lowered. When he enters say Hello Master.

It may work.

 

[DD6969]

All of the above comments will work..Although the theme to all of them is communication. You can set the stage as simply or detailed as you want. Using some of the examples given already...it can be as simple as a starting a conversation or opening a bottle of wine to ease into things or dressing up and presenting yourself to him..All of it needs to lead to a detailed conversation about both of your desires. Otherwise someone is going to be disappointed because their needs wasn't being met.

 

[Kumar10]

Hi there, My wife is very sub but I have and will remain a DOM. It may be difficult to bring a switch-hitter around to your desires. Try wrapping the "love" message into your call.

 

[Primalex]

Posted: 02-16-2016, 09:17 AM
Last Activity: 02-16-2016 09:22 AM

There is really no point in adding more "advice".

 

[amofiga]

Always remember communication, if it is to work, has to go both ways. It's fine to tell him what YOU want but you also have to learn what HE wants. You both need to make sure that there are no sudden walls to pop up and make sure you're ready to accept and listen to what each other says. All of the communication in the world doesn't work if there are negative comments volleyed back in ways that are hurtful or personal. I've only had a handful of cases where "communication and compromise" worked because things can degenerate to attacks at personality and sexuality. I've found that things work best when each person is just naturally who they are and they are just naturally what the other person wants. Everybody loves to talk about compromise, but compromise can often be defined as neither party getting everything they want and frustrations still exist. Good luck. It's always good when things work out.