vaginal bleeding after sex from a non virgin

[BlueSugar]

I have the honor of being anyone who knows me sex advisor of all things good and bad, it is nice and what I'm starting a business in, studied alot for and have dedicated alot of my life to, but sometimes I have no idea what to tell them, so I come here AND tell them to consult a doctor.

Her question to me, and now my question to you IS

bleeding ..alot.. after sex with her boyfriend for a day or two after.

toys are fine.
latex lubricated trojan condoms.
seperate lube provided by Wet brand lube is used.
she says shes built small (i've never slept with her, and she has been to a gyno who said she is normal) so she knows better then I do, and I'll take her word on it.

said it isn't much of a repeating problem from past boyfriends, but, past boyfriends were in her words a little below average penis size.
Her current isn't anything to write home about, but is at least average, maybe slightly better but still nothing out of the ordinary.

She said there isn't much pain, and what pain there is, is ok ... so I described that uncomfortable but sometimes welcomed pain when a penis hits a cervix during sex and told her to be mindful of that.

It happens every time they have sex, she is on the pill so it isn't a day before her period and he is just helping things loosen up.

My other suggestion was with the "built small" and him being "average but a little better" is stretching and a tear that hasn't been repaired, keeps opening, or she just ends up tearing.
But she doesn't bleed during sex, and everything is well lubricated.

Then I suggested maybe an allergy to the products she was using - and she has been using them for as long as she has been having sex (about 4 years on and off) so that isn't the problem either.

other then a rip, allergies, and a sensative cervix ... I don't know what else to tell her. She wants to wait till what leads I get come back, and then by friday she is going to make an appointment with her doctor/gyno whatever.


anyone?

 

[FastFastr]

Call your doctor/OB-GYN. Make sure it is not medical.... I know it might be uncomfortable to talk about, but it is your health.

I have the honor of being anyone who knows me sex advisor of all things good and bad, it is nice and what I'm starting a business in, studied alot for and have dedicated alot of my life to, but sometimes I have no idea what to tell them, so I come here AND tell them to consult a doctor.

Her question to me, and now my question to you IS

bleeding ..alot.. after sex with her boyfriend for a day or two after.

toys are fine.
latex lubricated trojan condoms.
seperate lube provided by Wet brand lube is used.
she says shes built small (i've never slept with her, and she has been to a gyno who said she is normal) so she knows better then I do, and I'll take her word on it.

said it isn't much of a repeating problem from past boyfriends, but, past boyfriends were in her words a little below average penis size.
Her current isn't anything to write home about, but is at least average, maybe slightly better but still nothing out of the ordinary.

She said there isn't much pain, and what pain there is, is ok ... so I described that uncomfortable but sometimes welcomed pain when a penis hits a cervix during sex and told her to be mindful of that.

It happens every time they have sex, she is on the pill so it isn't a day before her period and he is just helping things loosen up.

My other suggestion was with the "built small" and him being "average but a little better" is stretching and a tear that hasn't been repaired, keeps opening, or she just ends up tearing.
But she doesn't bleed during sex, and everything is well lubricated.

Then I suggested maybe an allergy to the products she was using - and she has been using them for as long as she has been having sex (about 4 years on and off) so that isn't the problem either.

other then a rip, allergies, and a sensative cervix ... I don't know what else to tell her. She wants to wait till what leads I get come back, and then by friday she is going to make an appointment with her doctor/gyno whatever.


anyone?

 

[SweetErika]

Blue, a Google of 'sex vaginal bleeding' yielded this and a bunch of other good info. The bottom line is that it could be one or more of a litany of relatively minor to extremely serious medical conditions, and she MUST see a doctor (and perhaps some specialists) ASAP. This is just far beyond the scope of what any of us can/should be advising on (apart from researching and telling her to seek medical help).

Tell her to go ahead and make the appointment (for this week or next) today, and she can read up on some of the possibilities so she understands what the doctor's testing for and any possible diagnoses.
http://womenshealth.about.com/cs/menstruation/a/bleedaftersex.htm :

Top 10 Causes of Vaginal Bleeding After Sex
From Tracee Cornforth,
Your Guide to Women's Health.
What Causes Post-Coital Bleeding?
You've just finished making love, and you're in that pleasant dream-like state when you go to the bathroom and discover that you are bleeding. Nothing can bring you back to reality faster than vaginal bleeding after sex. Post-coital bleeding can occur for a number of reasons, and is nothing to take lightly. Here's a look at the top 10 causes of vaginal bleeding after sex:

1. Cervical dysplasia:
Cervical dysplasia is precancerous changes of the epithelial cells that line the cervix. Risk increases with multiple sexual partners, sex before age 18, childbirth before age 16, or a past history of STDs. Treatment is usually cryosurgery or conisation.

2. Chlamydia:
A bacterial infection that is usually transmitted through sexual activity or contact with semen, vaginal fluid, or blood.

3. Gonorrhea:
A usually sexually transmitted disease caused by a bacteria. Several pharmaceutical treatments are available.

4. Vaginitis or Cervicitis:
Inflammation or swelling and infection of the vagina or cervix. Treatment depends on the cause.

5. Cervical polyps:
Cervical polyps are smooth, red or purple, finger-like growths that grow out of the mucuos layer of the cervix or the cervical canal. Cervical polyps are extremely fragile, extending out of the cervix, and easily and painlessly removed.

6. Trichomoniasis:
A usually sexually transmitted disease caused by protozoan. Can also be passed to newborns during vaginal birth by infected mothers. Although rare, transmission is also possible in tap water, hot tubs, urine, on toilet seats, and in swimming pools. May cause vaginitis.

7. Vaginal Yeast Infection:
An overgrowth of the normal fungi that inhabits the vaginal area. Common symptoms include itching, burning, and an odorless, white, cheese-like discharge.

8. Endometritis or adenomyosis:
Endometritis is defined by Dorland's Medical Dictionary, 27th Edition as an inflammation of the endometrium (the innermost layer of the uterus). Both conditions are associated with endometriosis. Adenomysis is when endometrial tissue attaches itself to the uterus, or another organ such as the ovaries, and grows outside of the uterus.

9. Uterine polyps:
Uterine polyps occur when the endometrium overgrows causing these protrusions into the uterus. It is extremely rare for these growths to grow in a way that is either benign or malignant. Women with uterine polyps frequently experience bleeding between periods (metrorrhagia), other symptoms includes vaginal bleeding after sex, spotting, menorrhagia, bleeding after menopause, and breakthrough bleeding during hormone therapy. Hysteroscopic-guided curettage is the prefered treatment, since the normal D&C is basically an unguided procedure that may miss many of the uterine polyps.

10. Fibroid tumors:
Uterine fibroid tumors are usually benign tumors. They are solid masses made of fibrous tissue. Fibroid tumors are rarely malignant. Symptoms of fibroid tumors vary among women, with some women never experiencing any symptoms at all. Women who can wait until menopause will see their fibroids shrink and disappear once their bodies stop producing estrogen. It's important that women with fibroids make sure they never take estrogen, in any form including birth control pills, since estrogen increases fibroid growth. Several treatments are currently available for uterine fibroid tumors from myomectomy and uterine artery embolization to the traditional hysterectomy.

Diagnosing vaginal bleeding after sex is usually a matter of exclusion. Anytime you experience post-coital bleeding or vaginal bleeding after sex call your doctor immediately!

 

[BlueSugar]

she gets tested between boyfriends and her last scan over the summer came up blank and healthy.
she assures me its a size issue, apparently she can't use tampons, and all of this was confirmed by her gyno. and has a visit scheduled for next week.

apparently he is much larger then those in the past and its likely a rip since she truely does have a size issue.

i told her of course go to the gyno... but to stop doing kegals, get a small toy, buy a better lube and learn how to relax since part of it is mental bc she knows it could hurt but it just might not so the reflexive tightening happens.

ty for the google SE, I told her all that too of course, she knew she had to go to the gyno, and was using me as an "what could the gyno possibly tell me" pep talk

 

[Weird Harold]

she gets tested between boyfriends and her last scan over the summer came up blank and healthy.
she assures me its a size issue, apparently she can't use tampons, and all of this was confirmed by her gyno. and has a visit scheduled for next week.

...I told her all that too of course, she knew she had to go to the gyno, and was using me as an "what could the gyno possibly tell me" pep talk

Getting tested last summer and not having STDs from her last boyfriend doesn't preclude THIS boyfriend from having given her something.

The answer to "What could the Gyn tell me?" is always "If I could answer that, I'd BE a gynocologis and charging you for the answer."

The worst thing a GYNO (or any doctor) can say is "You should have come in sooner; I could have done something to save you if you had."

 

[BlueSugar]

Getting tested last summer and not having STDs from her last boyfriend doesn't preclude THIS boyfriend from having given her something.

The answer to "What could the Gyn tell me?" is always "If I could answer that, I'd BE a gynocologis and charging you for the answer."

The worst thing a GYNO (or any doctor) can say is "You should have come in sooner; I could have done something to save you if you had."

agreed on all accounts, and being intelligent researching protective people, she just wanted to prepair herself for better or worse and I set out my feelers out here incase she, and I missed anything it "could" be, she knew she had to set up an appointment and did so
she just wanted to see it in all different lights before she went for the dive ... gaining emotional momentum.

 

[SweetErika]

she gets tested between boyfriends and her last scan over the summer came up blank and healthy.
she assures me its a size issue, apparently she can't use tampons, and all of this was confirmed by her gyno. and has a visit scheduled for next week.

apparently he is much larger then those in the past and its likely a rip since she truely does have a size issue.

i told her of course go to the gyno... but to stop doing kegals, get a small toy, buy a better lube and learn how to relax since part of it is mental bc she knows it could hurt but it just might not so the reflexive tightening happens.

ty for the google SE, I told her all that too of course, she knew she had to go to the gyno, and was using me as an "what could the gyno possibly tell me" pep talk

Good. I would still tell her to read up on the many possibilities, and insist on further testing if the doctor doesn't find a tear. In your first post you said her gyno said she was normal...if that's the case, a "maybe slightly above average" (what's her idea of 'average' and his size, BTW?) penis shouldn't be causing bleeding every time, not with this one partner who isn't vastly different than the others. Physical and/or psychological, there's definitely something going on here, and she needs to investigate it thoroughly because even the best doctors can be dismissive and make mistakes. This isn't the time to accept, "Well, I don't see anything, but it's probably just a tear or irritation," as easy as that might be.

 

[BiBunny]

I think I saw in your first post that you mentioned your friend was on the pill. The pill may have something to do with her bleeding. I've been on Depo-Provera for nearly two years, and I sometimes still have trouble with bleeding after sex. I've talked to my gynocologist about it, and I've been reassured that hormones of any kind (pill, shot, etc.) can cause breakthrough bleeding and bleeding (without pain) after sex. This could, in fact, be some of the problem. If it's heavy, however, that may not be the case. Hope I helped.