Vagina too tight?

[pharmtekbobby]

I started having sex with my new girlfriend last night. She's 22, bout 5'3" tall and hadn't had any sex since she was about 17. When I tried to push my dick into here it wouldn't budge. I am 6"1' and my dick about 7" and kinda thick. Anyone ever experience this sorta thing? Will it just some more time to "open her up"? Lemme know what can be done!

 

[je404ucd]

Was it the right hole?

Joking aside, that is weird... Perhaps you could try orally stimulating her first? I know one of the rules of giving good head (to women) is to stimulate the surrounding areas before "diving in" (like the thighs). This general principal of rubbing and petting is also a major component of making love to a woman in a wheelchair.

Lack of sex shouldn't do that... I mean, ever is a virgin for a part of their life and if a lack of sex made a vigina "seal" like that... how did it get "unsealed" in the first place?

 

[SweetErika]

I've been enjoying frequent sex for quite some time, but nothing's going to penetrate me (easily or comfortably) without three things. The first is A LOT of lubrication. It can be natural or artificial, but it's got to be there. The second is being aroused. When I'm turned on sufficiently, I relax and open up. Sometimes it hardly takes anything, but others it takes a ton of kissing, touching, and oral. The third is being there mentally. If I'm worried or stressed about anything, the arousal, lubrication, and penetration just isn't going to happen. If it hurts or I think it's going to hurt, same story.

Make sure she's relaxed, very aroused, and well lubed, go very, very slow, and see what happens.

 

[Tara S]

Use Lube!!!!

 

[wildwesty]

Get on your knees and eat her out!

Sorry for being blunt but foreplay will probably help you out...or if she just isn't ready for you then you really do need to take it slow.

 

[flyindolphine]

Get on your knees and eat her out!

Sorry for being blunt but foreplay will probably help you out...or if she just isn't ready for you then you really do need to take it slow.

i agree, finger her a bit, make her mad with our tongue and it will probably magically unseal for you

 

[Weird Harold]

When I tried to push my dick into here it wouldn't budge. ... Will it just some more time to "open her up"? Lemme know what can be done!

I don't think there is such a thing as a "too tight vagina" -- just bad lovers.

With the very rare exception of a medical condition -- like lesions or scar tissue -- a woman who is aroused and relaxed shouldn't have any problems accepting a male penis that dosn't belong in a freak show.

If she's not aroused and relaxed, that's her lover's fault, period.

 

[pharmtekbobby]

i've gone down on her for for a long time. and our forplay sessions last from 2-4 hours. i can get it inside of her...but i can't get it all in.

 

[CuriouslilQT]

Well, Keep doing it...it just takes time for her to get use to ur dick and once she does she will let u in without any problems

 

[SweetErika]

i've gone down on her for for a long time. and our forplay sessions last from 2-4 hours. i can get it inside of her...but i can't get it all in.

A few questions...

Is this more of a problem for you or her? Has had a pap smear lately?
Which position(s) have you been trying?
How does she feel about this?
Have other guys been able to "fit it all in"? *bites tongue*

 

[pharmtekbobby]

It's sorta prob for both of us...it's hard to have sex when you can't get it all in. granted when we have sex after a few tries we can get more progress. so far since she hasn't been sexually active for a few years it's been missionary. i didn't want to impale her or hurt her in any way. she feels fine about this and she wants to find out if we keep trying will it all go in. the other guys weren't as big as I am. <grin>

 

[wildwesty]

If that is true then she may have to get her mind ready to take you so that the rest of her will follow suit. Try toys starting with something simple that she can easily take and then move up gradually till you get to something about the same size as you. Then replace the toy with you and maybe that will do the trick. You should know that this will mostly be about her and less for you but it will probably work out to your benefit later on. I am pretty sure this will help you out though, and toys are fun to use anyway. This gradual increase is a slow process but it is effective and will do the trick. Human sexuality is the greatest class I ever took and the book taught me this piece of info. Hope it helps!

 

[SweetErika]

Ok, so when did she last have a pelvic exam and physical, and what positions have you tried?

It's possible, though unlikely, she is just extremely small or has a medical condition. A good gynecologist can determine that. If you haven't done so already, try adding more lube and having her on top so she can control the degree of penetration and you can play with her (tits and clit, namely). Partial penetration can be wonderful. If you're stuck after all of that, refer to Weird Harold's excellent advice, which from what I've seen, is always on target.

 

[SweetErika]

If that is true then she may have to get her mind ready to take you so that the rest of her will follow suit. Try toys starting with something simple that she can easily take and then move up gradually till you get to something about the same size as you. Then replace the toy with you and maybe that will do the trick. You should know that this will mostly be about her and less for you but it will probably work out to your benefit later on. I am pretty sure this will help you out though, and toys are fun to use anyway. This gradual increase is a slow process but it is effective and will do the trick. Human sexuality is the greatest class I ever took and the book taught me this piece of info. Hope it helps!

Yeah, what he said too!

 

[wildwesty]

Thanks erika for the back up!

 

[SweetSnaffle]

Here i am.

I'll admit it. I'm a VERY tight fit.

It was so bad i actually went to the doctor to make sure there was nothing wrong.

She said "if you can fit a baby out of it, you can surely fit a penis into it".... I havent ever had a baby, but i think i get her point.

What she suggested was progressive stretching. That gets you used to the idea and actually stretches the skin (i ALWAYS tear, every time, i'm just very un-stretchy down there) so when it comes time, the body is more prepared.


get her a slim vibrator/dildo and get her used to using that.


there is a medical condition which causes the vagina to clamp down and seize up, its possible she has this to some degree??

 

[wildwesty]

tis true..there is a medical condition which can be quite painful for the man you are with should your vagina clamp down on his penis while inserted. Gradual size increases and going very slow working with your mind can help though, a lot.

 

[Celtia]

I'm very very very tight...and the two lovers I've had in my life have both been on the large side.

It just takes a LOT of foreplay...I've never had to use artificial lube though (I seem to have more than enough of my own). Just use your fingers to gradually open her up. It's always easier after a lot of fingering (and use two or three fingers to make it easier).

Also, her being on top will help. But DON'T push up (this is a problem with my boyfriend--it's like an automatic reaction when I'm sliding down him), as this will hurt her. Let her do the work until she is ready for you to take the lead.