Uuuuu.... huuuh....

[Aphrodisiac]

Okay here is the thing, I have been chatting with some guy now for almost 4 yrs ... give or take... and he is really nice and we get along really well ..etc... blah ... blah ...

Anyways, we never exchanged pictures because we just thought it would be nice to get to know each other with out all that " picture" thing.

Regardless, today I decided to send him my picture, I don't know why, I was just feeling silly I guess... Well he replies back that he really liked my picture and could he call me and he would love to meet me.

How come he did not want to call me back then or meet me back then .. was it because he thought I was a big ole Sasquatch !!!!


Is it always about the looks ?!?!?

 

[ZIP CODE]

I wouldn't say it's always about the looks, especially if you've been corresponding for 4 years, but just because he didn't mention it before he saw the picture doesn't neccessarily mean anything either.

I really don't have any good advice for you, except to say I'd be wary of meeting anyone in person that you've met online, regardless of a 4 year correspondence. I've had a few friends who tried it and it took a turn for the worst. Yet at the same time, I also have two friends that met their current spouses online.

Sometimes it works, sometimes not. Be wary and good luck.

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[dreamer]

Maybe, some guys are like that. I'd be lying if I said different. BUT, it could be he was waiting for you to show an interest in advancing this beyond a 'cyber' relationship. You took a RL step and maybe that opened a door of what is in bounds for him.

I assume over 4 years you've developed some decent communication skills with this guy. Talk to him, and mention your concerns...

Good luck.

 

[tswyk]

I'm with dreamer - he took that as a sign that you wanted to move forward - whether that's what you meant or not.

Online relationships are like some weird dance...I'm still not very comfortable not being able to look someone in the face as I get to know them. I miss the visual clues available face to face - does he "get" me? Is he really interested or just making small talk? And what if we're both sorta' shy? Will we ever get past the chit chat????? And how am I supposed to figure all this out???

WHERE'S THE DAMED RULE BOOK????

Sorry...off on my own little rant here....

Anyway, you've spent alot of time getting to know this person - give him the benefit of the doubt! Talk - you've been talking for 4 years, you should be able to bring this subject up, and if you can't - why are you still chatting?

And take a chance....NEVER pass up the opportunity to take a chance!

Good Luck!

 

[InnocentAngel81]

aww are you going to meet him? or are you going to ask him why is he so anxious to see you?

 

[Aphrodisiac]

OK!

I'm with dreamer - he took that as a sign that you wanted to move forward - whether that's what you meant or not.

Online relationships are like some weird dance...I'm still not very comfortable not being able to look someone in the face as I get to know them. I miss the visual clues available face to face - does he "get" me? Is he really interested or just making small talk? And what if we're both sorta' shy? Will we ever get past the chit chat????? And how am I supposed to figure all this out???

WHERE'S THE DAMED RULE BOOK????

Sorry...off on my own little rant here....

Anyway, you've spent alot of time getting to know this person - give him the benefit of the doubt! Talk - you've been talking for 4 years, you should be able to bring this subject up, and if you can't - why are you still chatting?

And take a chance....NEVER pass up the opportunity to take a chance!

Good Luck!

Rant away ... its okay.

I know what you mean , there is no such rule book on the ifs ands and whats ....

We do talk and he simply said he thought I was pretty and would like to meet me.

I guess , I was just surprised after all the time we had been talking he never mentioned it before ... and then I email him my picture and now he is eager to meet.


Your reply made me smile !

 

[Aphrodisiac]

aww are you going to meet him? or are you going to ask him why is he so anxious to see you?

IA,


No, I don't think I will be meeting him any time soon.



If I ever do , I will tell ya'.

 

[tswyk]

Re: OK!

I guess , I was just surprised after all the time we had been talking he never mentioned it before ... and then I email him my picture and now he is eager to meet.

Hey, maybe he thought YOU weren't interested...DON'T give up here - after 4 years - what could a lunch hurt?

Keep us posted - this is very interesting!

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Re: Re: OK!

Hey, maybe he thought YOU weren't interested...DON'T give up here - after 4 years - what could a lunch hurt?

Keep us posted - this is very interesting!

But, he knows I am not interested , I am seeing some one.

But maybe ... some where down the line ..... way down the line... I could meet him for lunch, I think it would be rather interesting.


Back at ya'

 

[cybergirly]

Maybe because you sent him the pic, he thinks your ready to move to the "next step" and met him r/l. If you've been talking for that long, you should know him well enough to tell him how you feel, without offending him.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Maybe because you sent him the pic, he thinks your ready to move to the "next step" and met him r/l. If you've been talking for that long, you should know him well enough to tell him how you feel, without offending him.

You know we are good friends and like I said, he is a nice guy.

But, truly even though I have know him for a while, I am not a big fan of meeting people off the internet, I am always leery about that ... don't know why...

I have only met 2 people off the net' and one of them I sort of knew already because we went to the same grade school , so I guess he does not count ... okay 1 person off the net'.