Using the collective "WE" ~

[Cath!]

I know that when I walked away from here yesterday, I was upset...I had to force myself to take a breather ~ or timeout as my kids say...yes, they are "only words on a screen" but those words conjur up all kinds of emotions and responses...

Do you ever feel as tho we (as a group) spend TOO much time together? Do we know each other too well? Do we know which buttons to push to incite a discussion and/or argument?

If so...is this a good thing or a bad thing?

 

[cymbidia]

After responding to a few thousand posts, Cath, after reading several thousand more that one didn't respond to, one does get how to hurt other people here, if one chooses to do that. One learns where the weak spots are in the body armor most of us don when we walk in the doors, armor that may or may not be like that we don in our everyday lives. Most of us never try to use that info to hurt others of this place, though.

And anyway - no.

No, i don't think we spend too much time together. If any of us need time away, that ON/OFF switch is right there. If the pm's are getting to us, we can shut them off for awhile, as Myst has just done. We can have as much or as little of each other as we need, as we can stand, as we ache for. Unlike our relationships with most of the people in our everyday lives, we have a great deal of control over how much time we spend with the people here.

Lately, there have been times i've needed this place and the people here. In the next hour, or the next morning, though, i couldn't stand it and needed to push back for a time. Then in again.

I've seen in myself how understanding we are of such wildly divergent needs, how supportive we are of individual requirements for comfort and fellowship and concern.

No, Cath, we don't spend too much time together. It's always just precisely as much time as we need, individually, at that moment.

 

[StondTmplPilot]

I dont feel as if I know everyone here too well, but sometimes, I do feel as if I have been here too much in one day. Like yesterday, what the hell was I thinking? I had a hell of a good time and all, but today I feel pretty hungover from it all, and I don't drink. I think some people here know each other better than others and know which buttons to push. I thinks that the familiarity with others, in most cases, is a good thing, except when used to push their buttons. I'm sorry you left upset, I hope you feel better today.

 

[alltherage]

I know that when I walked away from here yesterday, I was upset...I had to force myself to take a breather ~ or timeout as my kids say...yes, they are "only words on a screen" but those words conjur up all kinds of emotions and responses...

Do you ever feel as tho we (as a group) spend TOO much time together? Do we know each other too well? Do we know which buttons to push to incite a discussion and/or argument?

If so...is this a good thing or a bad thing?

I personally don't think so. I know a few people here but not so deeply that I could say I could push there bottons. We control our reactions to things I hope. If I see something written that I don't personally agree with I either respond or I ignore it. I do not take it personally.

I have seen some attacks here that are beyond sense. That seems a total waste of time and energy and I avoid them. I come here to have fun, meet interesting people, and explore, but never to fight. If i start to feel that I need to take all the poop seriously then its time for me to leave.

 

[Cath!]

I know that I use Lit as my escape from the "real world"...this is where I go when I need to recharge with a laugh or two.

I feel fine today. It was my problem that I didn't yesterday.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

escape from the real world.

lit is one of my contacts 'into' the real world.

I am here day in and out, yes i wish I spent less time here and actualy got out more. but I don't think i spend too much time here. If i have somthing i have to do i do that instead.... now if your at work and have something due in 10 mins and are on lit instead of working.... your here too much lol.

and I agry with cym... from reading all those posts, I know things about people here they they probly don't want me knowing

but I'm a good stalker lol. so I know lots
If i had really wanted to, I could start up some real shit, getting people in a rage, down at others trying to kill each other.

but i'm a nice guy i'd rather use this knowledge to make them laugh and smile.

 

[Wiggles]

I know that I use Lit as my escape from the "real world"...this is where I go when I need to recharge with a laugh or two.

I feel fine today. It was my problem that I didn't yesterday.

How long do you think it will take before you need somewhere else to escape from the "Lit. World"?

J/k

 

[koalabear]

* walks thru the thread humming "We all live in a yellow submarine, yellow submarine,yellow submarine"....pauses smiles, my second Christmas since the transplant, HUGE SMILE and there will be a third!

MERRY CHRISTMAS ALL.....* resumes humming and walks out of the thread>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
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>>!!!"^^" and a HappY New Year>>>>>>>>
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>>>>>>>"^^"

 

[Angel]

I hope you're feeling better, chick.

Anyway, I've been thinking about the whole "Real Life/Cyber Life" thing lately. I've come to the realization that Lit isn't my escape from reality. It's just another part of my reality.

I talk to many of you in IM's. I've talked to quite a few of you on the phone. I've met a couple of people who post here in person. I plan on meeting more. This is the way it is with other 'groups' I've interacted with online. Once I feel that connection with someone, even if only just in friendship then there isn't turning back. It makes it all the more real. I met one of my very best friends online and we've been friends ever since. That chick rocks.

I don't think we as a group spend too much time together at all. On the contrary - I think of Lit as some kind of huge family. Not everybody gets along. Some people are closer than others. Closeness grows and dies between people. We fight and scratch and bite with some, and argue with others and still are able to maintain a camaraderie with. Yep, just like a family.

The only difference is that when I get tired of it I can shut off the computer and walk away. I can only leave the room when it's family.

 

[lobito]

yes we can all walk away from Lit when we are fed up with it. Hell, I find myself sometimes walking away 2 or 3 times a day.

Some of us probably do take Lit WAY too seriously (sometimes), but so what? "WE" are still individuals, if we were all the same, this place wouldn't be here anymore, because "WE" wouldn't flock here in droves to see what all the others have to say, "WE'd" already know what was being said.

 

[Cherry]

WE here in cyberland

Very well said, Angel ... I couldn't agree with you more.

I, too, have made wonderful friends online ... from all around the world. These friendships are as 'real' as the people behind the words.

But, I also accept that some people don't understand the complexities of online communication. Everyone has their own reasons for becoming part of an online community, as the level of balance between cyber/reality reflects.

Some use their online 'persona' to converse in ways that they never would face to face ... to demean, insult, hurt ... to flirt outrageously, bedhop, tantalize ... to moralize, judge, have their voice heard.

Personally, I tend to sit back and watch the personalities evolve before giving too much of myself away. Cautious, yet willing to make new friends.

 

[Cath!]

I love lit and most of the people I have met thru here. It bothers me when I upset other people by the things I write. I find Lit to be a release...and as Angel said...it HAS become part of my reality.

I have met some people thru chat and the bb that I truly care about deeply and hope that we will stay friends for a long time. There are times when I laugh and other times when I cry about things going on in other people's lives...

I probably share more of me thru the internet than I do outside of here...but, just as in real life , one tends to be judged as well as judging.

That is something I have to work on changing in ME. I want to be able to converse without the judgements. That is why I asked if we knew each other TOO well.

*******
ps - oh master verted one...you will be around forever!
Merry Christmas to you and your cub...*kissing you on the cheek*...you are one person that I am amazed I can still get along with even after all we have said and done...thanks for being a friend.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

you now now that you say that, I think I share more of myself with people on the net then I do in real life too.

I think though it's because I know everyone is so far away to do anything to affect me.
where as someone that knows you and is close could stop you from doing somthing, or could personaly distroy you.