Two sucking cock questions.

[Jada59]

Last time I was with my BF, I was trying to suck him but he kept fingering and using a toy on me. He was making me cum fast and furious! This is not a bad thing but... I had to stop sucking him because I lose my concentration when I cum. How can I get over this?

And... He has never cum in my mouth. He always stops me and wants to fuck me. Usually I start out sucking him, we fuck, I suck him again, then we fuck again. He doesn't cum in me. He pulls out, catches it in his hand, then runs to the bathroom and cleans up.

Just now he was complaining that I didn't suck his balls last time. I told him that I did but he pulled me back onto his cock. True. Then he didn't let me suck him for very long. He just stood by the edge of the bed and said, "pussy" so I knew to get into position for him. He's Latino and English is not his native language.

He also complained that he never cums in my mouth and I never lick his ass. Thing is... When we have sex, he goes all Alpha on me and keeps taking control. If I try to lick his ass. he resists getting into a position where I can. And he keeps pulling me off of his cock so I can't suck him for very long.

What he said was that he wanted me to suck his cock and balls for hours, and I would LOVE to do that but I reminded him that he always stops me. And... When I am giving him head, he stops me from doing things that might slow him down from cumming, like edging him. He wants his cock fully in my mouth with me sucking pretty hard. So... He cums!

I realize that a cock ring might keep him harder for longer. We haven't discussed this, and not sure he'd be comfortable with it. His cock is very thick.

He did promise me that he would not try to stop me next time but... I know how things get with sex. He'll probably forget and try to fuck me.

Help! What else can I do? Not sure he would let me tie him down. Hehehe. But that would work!

 

[honestWithWifie]

Is he a complainer? Will he ever be satisfied?

It sounds like he's having a good time, yet he complains. It sounds like you are having a good time, but the good time is lessened because of his complaining which contradicts with his actions.

You try to act based on his requests, yet his alpha control, you cannot comply.

Maybe communication doesn't work actually work with this particular situation? Just let him fuck the shit out of you ...

 

[bailadora]

Jada, what was his response when you pointed out that he always stops you? It’s hardly your fault if you’re trying to fulfill a sexual request but he insists on moving to coitus (sorry, channeling Amy Farrah Fowler ).

The only advice I have to offer you is that next time you go to do something sexual for him, tell him what you’re trying to do. If he still insists on stopping you, he’s got no room to complain, and I’d personally tell him to stop being a pendejo. But that’s what I would do in my relationship. Your mileage may vary.

Thread hijack: did you ever figure out the issue with your ballet slippers?

 

[Saintdragonslayer]

Last time I was with my BF, I was trying to suck him but he kept fingering and using a toy on me. He was making me cum fast and furious! This is not a bad thing but... I had to stop sucking him because I lose my concentration when I cum. How can I get over this?

And... He has never cum in my mouth. He always stops me and wants to fuck me. Usually I start out sucking him, we fuck, I suck him again, then we fuck again. He doesn't cum in me. He pulls out, catches it in his hand, then runs to the bathroom and cleans up.

Just now he was complaining that I didn't suck his balls last time. I told him that I did but he pulled me back onto his cock. True. Then he didn't let me suck him for very long. He just stood by the edge of the bed and said, "pussy" so I knew to get into position for him. He's Latino and English is not his native language.

He also complained that he never cums in my mouth and I never lick his ass. Thing is... When we have sex, he goes all Alpha on me and keeps taking control. If I try to lick his ass. he resists getting into a position where I can. And he keeps pulling me off of his cock so I can't suck him for very long.

What he said was that he wanted me to suck his cock and balls for hours, and I would LOVE to do that but I reminded him that he always stops me. And... When I am giving him head, he stops me from doing things that might slow him down from cumming, like edging him. He wants his cock fully in my mouth with me sucking pretty hard. So... He cums!

I realize that a cock ring might keep him harder for longer. We haven't discussed this, and not sure he'd be comfortable with it. His cock is very thick.

He did promise me that he would not try to stop me next time but... I know how things get with sex. He'll probably forget and try to fuck me.

Help! What else can I do? Not sure he would let me tie him down. Hehehe. But that would work!

I'm not sure what the problem is here. You say that he's an Alpha and you pretty much comply with most of his demands during sex, so that should be ticking all the boxes for him!

Just an idea, but you could try to learn a few simple Spanish phrases like, "Quiero chuparte las bolas!" (I want to suck your balls!) or anything else you want to do for him. I only speak the most basic Spanish and got that phrase from an online translator but computers sometimes lose something in the translation process and it would be better if you could ask someone who speaks the language fluently. I'm sure that someone on this site could help you out with that if you ask the question.

As for the cock rings, the experience is different for everyone. Whenever I use one, I usually take it off after a few minutes because they usually make me very sensitive and more likely to come quickly. My wife will often wrap the belt from one of her little silk dressing gowns around my cock and balls when giving me a blowjob and I prefer this, as the pressure can be adjusted.

The fact that you are on here asking the questions shows how much you want to satisfy him and I think you are a wonderful woman for that! Maybe the problem is his wanting certain things, but not having enough control over his sexual responses to allow you the time to carry them out for him. If that is the case then perhaps you will have to tie him down so that you can really get to work on him!

I notice that you are a prolific poster on here, so I hope that you will give us an update on how things are progressing.

Good luck!

 

[NightL]

I think you should produce a length of rope while commanding "You and I are going to have a discussion" while tying him up. Followed by "You will be given a chance of reply when I release you" then gag him.

as always good communication is about listening, you need to make sure he listens.

If currently communication is talking at each other it needs to change to incorporate listening.

I have a feeling you will work it out Jada.

 

[SissySalina]

Instead of tying him down just tie his hands behind him, that might be enough to get the fun dun.

 

[Jada59]

It sounds like he's having a good time, yet he complains. It sounds like you are having a good time, but the good time is lessened because of his complaining which contradicts with his actions.

You try to act based on his requests, yet his alpha control, you cannot comply.

Maybe communication doesn't work actually work with this particular situation? Just let him fuck the shit out of you ...

Hahaha! Maybe. The sex is good. I can't complain about that!

 

[Jada59]

Jada, what was his response when you pointed out that he always stops you? It’s hardly your fault if you’re trying to fulfill a sexual request but he insists on moving to coitus (sorry, channeling Amy Farrah Fowler ).

The only advice I have to offer you is that next time you go to do something sexual for him, tell him what you’re trying to do. If he still insists on stopping you, he’s got no room to complain, and I’d personally tell him to stop being a pendejo. But that’s what I would do in my relationship. Your mileage may vary.

Thread hijack: did you ever figure out the issue with your ballet slippers?

He did act rather sheepish when I said I tried to suck his balls. And when I pointed out that he kept stopping me. He said he's try not to top me.

As for the ballet slippers... No. I thought I had. I switched to the Leo's brand. Bought three pairs in pink and one in white. This after trying one pair of pink that fit perfectly.

The white ones are so much too wide, it's a joke. One pink pair were perfect but another does not fit well on the left foot. It keeps slipping to the outside. Have not tried the last pair yet.

My solution? More belly dancing and hip hop. Don't need the ballet shoes for those.

 

[Jada59]

I'm not sure what the problem is here. You say that he's an Alpha and you pretty much comply with most of his demands during sex, so that should be ticking all the boxes for him!

Just an idea, but you could try to learn a few simple Spanish phrases like, "Quiero chuparte las bolas!" (I want to suck your balls!) or anything else you want to do for him. I only speak the most basic Spanish and got that phrase from an online translator but computers sometimes lose something in the translation process and it would be better if you could ask someone who speaks the language fluently. I'm sure that someone on this site could help you out with that if you ask the question.

As for the cock rings, the experience is different for everyone. Whenever I use one, I usually take it off after a few minutes because they usually make me very sensitive and more likely to come quickly. My wife will often wrap the belt from one of her little silk dressing gowns around my cock and balls when giving me a blowjob and I prefer this, as the pressure can be adjusted.

The fact that you are on here asking the questions shows how much you want to satisfy him and I think you are a wonderful woman for that! Maybe the problem is his wanting certain things, but not having enough control over his sexual responses to allow you the time to carry them out for him. If that is the case then perhaps you will have to tie him down so that you can really get to work on him!

I notice that you are a prolific poster on here, so I hope that you will give us an update on how things are progressing.

Good luck!

Thanks! Our conversation started out with him asking me if I contacted the other BF to tell him what good sex we had. And by other... I was kind of bad. Was with H (who I am with now) before the pandemic. He lives in another county that was still on lockdown when I got out of it. I had been talking to J (no not the gardener J) since April. Nothing sexual at first. He wanted to better his English and I wanted to better my Spanish.

But then things changed. We met about 6 hours after we got off lockdown. We had sex on three different occasions and now he has vanished. Told me things that were not true. I was his GF, he loved me, etc. I have not seen him since June 28. He did contact me twice but the last time was over a week ago.

Meanwhile, H has been in contact with me every few days. I do feel bad for how I handled this but... We've had two long talks about it. In a nutshell, I felt that H only wanted sex. J sounded more well rounded and he was more romantic but... I guess he's actually just a player.

So... H admitted that the sex was good! I just think when he was thinking about it later, he realized that things didn't go as planned. But... It was super hot in here and we were both eager to get to some place cooler. So there's that.

I tried a cock ring once and it didn't go well. The guy freaked and lost his erection. Worse still, we were at my parent's house and he screamed and yelled so much, they came running to see what was going on. Hehehe.

I will consider the tying down. But first, I will remind him that I want him to cum in my mouth.

Oh! He asked me to get some beer. J seemed to last a lot longer when he had beer. Does beer keep a guy hard for longer?

 

[Jada59]

I think you should produce a length of rope while commanding "You and I are going to have a discussion" while tying him up. Followed by "You will be given a chance of reply when I release you" then gag him.

as always good communication is about listening, you need to make sure he listens.

If currently communication is talking at each other it needs to change to incorporate listening.

I have a feeling you will work it out Jada.

Hehehe.

Our communication has already gotten a lot better. At first, I think he pulled that thing about not having very good English. Only after I went out with the other guy did his English get a lot better!

Then one night, we talked pretty much solid from 10 pm to 5 am. I said, "You know? If we had talked like this before, I think things would have gone very differently!" I probably never would have sought out anyone else. But me being the yappy type, I need conversation. Not just really good sex. Ha!

I will ask him to help me with my Spanish. I was doing quite well with it but then I just quit and started doing other things.

Thanks!

 

[Jada59]

Instead of tying him down just tie his hands behind him, that might be enough to get the fun dun.

Thanks!

 

[NightL]

you are on an adventure - I think it is heading in the right direction

as long as the smiles and orgasms continue you will work out the rest

but just keep negotiating away so he knows there is an equal standing in front of him or on top of him

You have got this situation Jada, now whip him :caning:

 

[Saintdragonslayer]

Beer question?

One or two beers gives a guy a nice, relaxed buzz for sex. 6+? Have to say no from my own experience!

 

[davion2308]

Control issues

It sounds like it's fun but he's nit-picking. You can't really read his mind and know what he wants and the same goes the other way.

You can try one of two things:

1. Set the expectation. Tell him, "You are going to cum in mouth no matter what this time." Then suck his dick. Communicate before hand what's happening and then go for it.

2. Hold him down and really fight him to cum in your mouth. Don't let him go anywhere. Make it a game, and push him back down, get physical, and don't let him go anywhere. That might be a fun change.

And if you lose rhythm or focus when you're having an orgasm, and I'm speaking for almost 100% of all guys here, "It's okay." That's no issue. get back to what you were doing and have fun.

 

[Zeb_Carter]

Sounds like my wife when she went out somewhere and left me to clean the house and get the kids in bed. She'd get home and complain, even though the house was perfect. After about three time, I left somethings undone. She didn't complain and just looked at me disgusted and went and finished the cleaning. I don't think she liked that I could survive without her.

I hope everything turns out how you want it, Jada. Good luck.

 

[Jasminelit]

I wouldn't worry a darn bit about losing concentration when you orgasm. Enjoy it. You can always switch to using your hand. It takes less coordination.

When he says "pussy", look him in the eyes while you hold his cock firmly and tell him very sternly "No. I'm not done yet." And then pull out one of your best moves.

Sounds like you already discussed what you want to do in bed. Maybe he just needs a little push. Or pull. Or.. well, whatever.

 

[NightL]

I have to admit I have been around here so long that I read this post as "Two people sucking cock questions" - and instantly thought "way to to go Jada! Bringing in a third."

 

[Jada59]

One or two beers gives a guy a nice, relaxed buzz for sex. 6+? Have to say no from my own experience!

Thanks!

 

[Jada59]

I have to admit I have been around here so long that I read this post as "Two people sucking cock questions" - and instantly thought "way to to go Jada! Bringing in a third."

Hahaha. My prior guy did want to do that.

 

[Jada59]

I wouldn't worry a darn bit about losing concentration when you orgasm. Enjoy it. You can always switch to using your hand. It takes less coordination.

When he says "pussy", look him in the eyes while you hold his cock firmly and tell him very sternly "No. I'm not done yet." And then pull out one of your best moves.

Sounds like you already discussed what you want to do in bed. Maybe he just needs a little push. Or pull. Or.. well, whatever.

Thanks!

 

[Jada59]

Sounds like my wife when she went out somewhere and left me to clean the house and get the kids in bed. She'd get home and complain, even though the house was perfect. After about three time, I left somethings undone. She didn't complain and just looked at me disgusted and went and finished the cleaning. I don't think she liked that I could survive without her.

I hope everything turns out how you want it, Jada. Good luck.

Thanks!

 

[Jada59]

It sounds like it's fun but he's nit-picking. You can't really read his mind and know what he wants and the same goes the other way.

You can try one of two things:

1. Set the expectation. Tell him, "You are going to cum in mouth no matter what this time." Then suck his dick. Communicate before hand what's happening and then go for it.

2. Hold him down and really fight him to cum in your mouth. Don't let him go anywhere. Make it a game, and push him back down, get physical, and don't let him go anywhere. That might be a fun change.

And if you lose rhythm or focus when you're having an orgasm, and I'm speaking for almost 100% of all guys here, "It's okay." That's no issue. get back to what you were doing and have fun.

Thanks! I'll try that!

 

[Jada59]

Update on this!

We got together but for various reasons, we had very limited time.

At first I refused to get undressed. He insisted that I get undressed. I reminded him that he was going to cum in my mouth.

I did (get undressed), then let the sucking begin. Cock. balls, ass... All going well. Until he hopped out of bed and said he wanted pussy.

Once again, I reminded him that he was going to cum in my mouth. He said he would, but pussy first.

He entered me and then? After a short period of time, he came. Yes, I came too. Many times. Sucking cock will make me cum.

He ran into the bathroom and quickly cleaned up. When he came back, I said, "We failed!" We both laughed. I said I was blaming him this time. He said it was true. He wanted the pussy sooo much!

It's all good. One day when we have plenty of time and it's not so hot, it will happen.