Trust

[Whispered_Promises]

I really don't care if anyone ever replies to this thread but, I feel the need to put this out there. I have been sitting here for the last few days struggling with the issue of trust. For those of you who do not know me, I am a very open and kind hearted person, I trust too easily....and that is what put me in the current situation I am dealing with. Without going into details, I had my trust shattered and my physical safety put in jeopardy. I am fine now but, am still dealing with the aftermath of it all.

I, personally, came into Lit. as a way to reaquaint myself with the whole male/female dance....( for lack of a better word)...after a long absence from the dating scene. What I found was a lot of truly wonderful, caring and glorious souls......and friends that are there for me no matter what. For that I will forver be grateful.

On the other hand, I and many others have had bad experiences where someone they opened their lives and hearts to have had their trust shattered....and made them start to doubt themselves.

To the ones who come here to play with others emotions, I beg of you to sit and think about what you are typing on this computer screen....there are real people on the otherside....with real emotions.....trust is given.....do not abuse it.

Trust is a wonderful gift given with no strings attatched....treat it respectfully....for there may come a day when you need a shoulder....an ear.....or just a hug.....and if you have destroyed that trust it is gone forever.

Well, I am sorry for the rambling thoughts but, I needed to get this off my chest.....

Here is my hoping that everyone finds joy and happiness in their darkest hours.....turn to your friends....reach out, they will be here for you. May your blessings be many and often.

My deepest regards....WP

 

[dragonhearted]

I really don't care if anyone ever replies to this thread but, I feel the need to put this out there. I have been sitting here for the last few days struggling with the issue of trust. For those of you who do not know me, I am a very open and kind hearted person, I trust too easily....and that is what put me in the current situation I am dealing with. Without going into details, I had my trust shattered and my physical safety put in jeopardy. I am fine now but, am still dealing with the aftermath of it all.

I, personally, came into Lit. as a way to reaquaint myself with the whole male/female dance....( for lack of a better word)...after a long absence from the dating scene. What I found was a lot of truly wonderful, caring and glorious souls......and friends that are there for me no matter what. For that I will forver be grateful.

On the other hand, I and many others have had bad experiences where someone they opened their lives and hearts to have had their trust shattered....and made them start to doubt themselves.

To the ones who come here to play with others emotions, I beg of you to sit and think about what you are typing on this computer screen....there are real people on the otherside....with real emotions.....trust is given.....do not abuse it.

Trust is a wonderful gift given with no strings attatched....treat it respectfully....for there may come a day when you need a shoulder....an ear.....or just a hug.....and if you have destroyed that trust it is gone forever.

Well, I am sorry for the rambling thoughts but, I needed to get this off my chest.....

Here is my hoping that everyone finds joy and happiness in their darkest hours.....turn to your friends....reach out, they will be here for you. May your blessings be many and often.

My deepest regards....WP

I feel you! I am trusting of too many people who don't deserve my trust...and the ones who DO, I do not give my complete trust to---how fucked up is THAT I ask you?

 

[Whispered_Promises]

Re: Re: Trust

I feel you! I am trusting of too many people who don't deserve my trust...and the ones who DO, I do not give my complete trust to---how fucked up is THAT I ask you?

I fully and completely relate....it is really hard to open that gate to trust once it has been broken.....sighs....and unfortunately, we tend to hold back from those who really deserve it.....why is life so fucking difficult ???

 

[Angelofsex]

I really don't care if anyone ever replies to this thread but, I feel the need to put this out there. I have been sitting here for the last few days struggling with the issue of trust. For those of you who do not know me, I am a very open and kind hearted person, I trust too easily....and that is what put me in the current situation I am dealing with. Without going into details, I had my trust shattered and my physical safety put in jeopardy. I am fine now but, am still dealing with the aftermath of it all.

I, personally, came into Lit. as a way to reaquaint myself with the whole male/female dance....( for lack of a better word)...after a long absence from the dating scene. What I found was a lot of truly wonderful, caring and glorious souls......and friends that are there for me no matter what. For that I will forver be grateful.

On the other hand, I and many others have had bad experiences where someone they opened their lives and hearts to have had their trust shattered....and made them start to doubt themselves.

To the ones who come here to play with others emotions, I beg of you to sit and think about what you are typing on this computer screen....there are real people on the otherside....with real emotions.....trust is given.....do not abuse it.

Trust is a wonderful gift given with no strings attatched....treat it respectfully....for there may come a day when you need a shoulder....an ear.....or just a hug.....and if you have destroyed that trust it is gone forever.

Well, I am sorry for the rambling thoughts but, I needed to get this off my chest.....

Here is my hoping that everyone finds joy and happiness in their darkest hours.....turn to your friends....reach out, they will be here for you. May your blessings be many and often.

My deepest regards....WP

Trust is a very big thing in anything.......I do know the feeling of the the trust taking away from you, because they did something for it to leave you.......I had it happen to me.........now I don't trust that easy. The problem is that you believe in everyone like I do.

 

[cookiejar]

OMG...it is an epidemic! I trust wayyyyy to easy....to some it's just a screen, but that is a living breathing human being typing to you. And WP I know some very nice men who have been hurt here too...it cuts both ways.

 

[The Temptress]

WP....You are one of the most open and honest women I know. Although out friendship is just starting, I feel as if we will have many times of laughing and crying ahead of us. You are about the only one who knows what I am going through at this time and I thank God I have you there to lean on and listen to me.
I feel we are all given special gifts from God everyday. Sometimes we are to busy or sometimes too self-centered to even notice these special gifts. Your friendship is one of my special gifts, Thank you. Thank you for your kind words, for your shoulder, for the way you made me feel so much better. You are a treasure and one that I truly trust and respect.

Hugsssss and Kisses, Tempt

 

[Whispered_Promises]

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Trust is a very big thing in anything.......I do know the feeling of the the trust taking away from you, because they did something for it to leave you.......I had it happen to me.........now I don't trust that easy. The problem is that you believe in everyone like I do.

Trust and respect are the key elements in any realtionship....be it friends or lovers....and yes, i do trust too easily, but I am afraid if I do not trust and am too cautious I am going to be cheating myself.....so, I am just really fucked up right now......but, each dy is a bit brighter....and I have faith that it will soon pass....thank ou or your thoughts, tough.

WP

 

[Whispered_Promises]

OMG...it is an epidemic! I trust wayyyyy to easy....to some it's just a screen, but that is a living breathing human being typing to you. And WP I know some very nice men who have been hurt here too...it cuts both ways.

Oh, hon....I know that it cuts both ways.....I never meant to idicate tht it didn't. I don't think it is so much an epidemic, as the fact that we are all putting it out there instead of keeping it botled up inside ....(god, my therapist would be proud of me !!! )

The truest and brightest souls are the ones who open themselves up to the chance of pain....but, if we don't then it is a dark and lonely life we are living.....so, for now I will struggle through the darkness guided by my friends and work on opening that door to trust once again.

Thank you for your friendship Cookie, you are the greatest !

 

[tonitits]

When I was growing up I was very shy, but very open and honest and I would look,no matter how deep I had to look to find the good in everyone. I figured if God created them there had to be some good in them. After marrying and having everything I believed in shattered by this man. I lost all trust, the way I look at things, most of all I lost my innocence, not talking the sexual way. After a long time I did get over all that! I am still open/honest and even here when someone pm's me,etc... I tell them that upfront what I expect/not expect and tell them I don't want to play games and let them know that if that is what they are looking for, might want to look elsewhere. I still trust someone to some extent until they prove me wrong and that they are not worthty of it. For many years I shut down and would not let anyone in, but that was no way to live. I am so happy that I have finally put all that behind me. I have now found the love of my life, I think I have found my soulmate, we will know for sure soon. I think we all have to trust and open our hearts to love. I know it is hard at times, especially when you have had your heart broken,sometimes more than once. I do not think I could handle another heart break. This is just the way I look at it. I hope it helps you.

 

[cookiejar]

Oh, hon....I know that it cuts both ways.....I never meant to idicate tht it didn't. I don't think it is so much an epidemic, as the fact that we are all putting it out there instead of keeping it botled up inside ....(god, my therapist would be proud of me !!! )

The truest and brightest souls are the ones who open themselves up to the chance of pain....but, if we don't then it is a dark and lonely life we are living.....so, for now I will struggle through the darkness guided by my friends and work on opening that door to trust once again.

Thank you for your friendship Cookie, you are the greatest !

Hey hon...not a slam.....I think you are right . So many here have been hurt...badly. But I have also found some incredible people here I proudly call friends. Hang in there ....I'm here with you....

 

[Whispered_Promises]

WP....You are one of the most open and honest women I know. Although out friendship is just starting, I feel as if we will have many times of laughing and crying ahead of us. You are about the only one who knows what I am going through at this time and I thank God I have you there to lean on and listen to me.
I feel we are all given special gifts from God everyday. Sometimes we are to busy or sometimes too self-centered to even notice these special gifts. Your friendship is one of my special gifts, Thank you. Thank you for your kind words, for your shoulder, for the way you made me feel so much better. You are a treasure and one that I truly trust and respect.

Hugsssss and Kisses, Tempt

Tempy....what can I say....you are a bright shining star in my darkest hours. You are one of the greatest blessings bestowed upon me in my time of need. When I needed to talk you listened...thank you for the wonderous gift of your friendship. I will cherish it always.

I will be there for you ....when you need a shoulder to cry on....an ear to vent in ....and warm arms to hug when you need comfort. We will share in each others joys and pains, for that is what true friends do.

You brightened my night, thank you....and I am so happy that I was there when you needed me.

I trust and espect you implicitly....and KNOW you will always be a very special part of my life. Thank you for being you.

Hugs, kisses and respect.... WP

 

[omahaman2]

This upsets me like you wouldnt believe.Like has been said before,its not just a computer screen in front of you,but a living
human being with feelings you are communicating with.Keep in mind,how much hurt mistrust can cause. Even though you are communicating by pc,it is still real life.Rather than play games here,get to know some of these people,there are some wonderful people here,some of the best have even posted in this thread.If you are completely honest,some wonderful things can
happen. They did for me,meeting my soulmate,wonderful friends,it can for you.

 

[Whispered_Promises]

This upsets me like you wouldnt believe.Like has been said before,its not just a computer screen in front of you,but a living
human being with feelings you are communicating with.Keep in mind,how much hurt mistrust can cause. Even though you are communicating by pc,it is still real life.Rather than play games here,get to know some of these people,there are some wonderful people here,some of the best have even posted in this thread.If you are completely honest,some wonderful things can
happen. They did for me,meeting my soulmate,wonderful friends,it can for you.

I know....the people who have posted here, I am so blessed to call my friends....they are such a glorious gift. They held me when I needed it, they reassured me and just gave me the ear to vent in.

I am not closing myself off....believe me. I am just getting out the things that are trying to eat me up.....I have faith.

Thank you for your words,

WP

 

[barn888]

I really don't care if anyone ever replies to this thread but, I feel the need to put this out there. I have been sitting here for the last few days struggling with the issue of trust. For those of you who do not know me, I am a very open and kind hearted person, I trust too easily....and that is what put me in the current situation I am dealing with. Without going into details, I had my trust shattered and my physical safety put in jeopardy. I am fine now but, am still dealing with the aftermath of it all.

I, personally, came into Lit. as a way to reaquaint myself with the whole male/female dance....( for lack of a better word)...after a long absence from the dating scene. What I found was a lot of truly wonderful, caring and glorious souls......and friends that are there for me no matter what. For that I will forver be grateful.

On the other hand, I and many others have had bad experiences where someone they opened their lives and hearts to have had their trust shattered....and made them start to doubt themselves.

To the ones who come here to play with others emotions, I beg of you to sit and think about what you are typing on this computer screen....there are real people on the otherside....with real emotions.....trust is given.....do not abuse it.

Trust is a wonderful gift given with no strings attatched....treat it respectfully....for there may come a day when you need a shoulder....an ear.....or just a hug.....and if you have destroyed that trust it is gone forever.

Well, I am sorry for the rambling thoughts but, I needed to get this off my chest.....

Here is my hoping that everyone finds joy and happiness in their darkest hours.....turn to your friends....reach out, they will be here for you. May your blessings be many and often.

My deepest regards....WP

Very well said, sweetie!

 

[Whispered_Promises]

Re: Re: Trust

Very well said, sweetie!

Thank you honey

Just the venting of a crazy woman.....laughing.....

 

[barn888]

Re: Re: Re: Trust

Thank you honey

Just the venting of a crazy woman.....laughing.....

You aint crazy, you wonderful!

 

[The Temptress]

Oh Barn ...you are just trying to make her feel good !!!! She IS crazy as HELL !!!!!


Live Love Laugh Be Happy

 

[Whispered_Promises]

Oh Barn ...you are just trying to make her feel good !!!! She IS crazy as HELL !!!!!


Live Love Laugh Be Happy

Well, Tempy.....if I am crazy....that makes YOU crazy, my soul sister ! LMAO

 

[The Temptress]

Hell Yes I am CRAZY !!!! Look where I spend sooooo much time !!!!


Live Love Laugh Be Happy

 

[Whispered_Promises]

Hell Yes I am CRAZY !!!! Look where I spend sooooo much time !!!!


Live Love Laugh Be Happy

God, now I KNOW we are soul sisters !! I am so happy we have become friends honey, thank you !!

Besides, a bit of insanity is good for the soul !! ( and libido )

 

[biggbear8]

I really don't care if anyone ever replies to this thread but, I feel the need to put this out there. I have been sitting here for the last few days struggling with the issue of trust. For those of you who do not know me, I am a very open and kind hearted person, I trust too easily....and that is what put me in the current situation I am dealing with. Without going into details, I had my trust shattered and my physical safety put in jeopardy. I am fine now but, am still dealing with the aftermath of it all.

I, personally, came into Lit. as a way to reaquaint myself with the whole male/female dance....( for lack of a better word)...after a long absence from the dating scene. What I found was a lot of truly wonderful, caring and glorious souls......and friends that are there for me no matter what. For that I will forver be grateful.

On the other hand, I and many others have had bad experiences where someone they opened their lives and hearts to have had their trust shattered....and made them start to doubt themselves.

To the ones who come here to play with others emotions, I beg of you to sit and think about what you are typing on this computer screen....there are real people on the otherside....with real emotions.....trust is given.....do not abuse it.

Trust is a wonderful gift given with no strings attatched....treat it respectfully....for there may come a day when you need a shoulder....an ear.....or just a hug.....and if you have destroyed that trust it is gone forever.

Well, I am sorry for the rambling thoughts but, I needed to get this off my chest.....

Here is my hoping that everyone finds joy and happiness in their darkest hours.....turn to your friends....reach out, they will be here for you. May your blessings be many and often.

My deepest regards....WP

whispered promises i understand what your saying i have been hurt here in lit also very badly yet i open up to easily and trust to much in the hopes that one i make a good friend and in somecases i look for someone to come into my life i have met some very wonderful people good people and have become friends with them and i have even given them my trust and ask for nothing in return if be become frinds that makes me happy if something more just happens to happen i well forever be with justthat one person and give them my fullest trust and i hope that they give me the same .

to me trust is very important part of any type or relationship whether it be a friendship or a romance

bear

 

[The_Dragon_Tamer]

It is to weep...

I hath read thy post and hath been moved. I did'st think'eth long and hard before I decide'th to respond. I am a Tamer and a Man, but I fear ther are few of us left. I doth not wish to just impinge my own gender, for many of the opposite sex has triffled with men's hearts and trust all too often.

I fear that the age of Romance is almost dead. Too many boys are playing at being men and fall way short. I am a Man who has lived his life by strict codes and values. The problem is that I am considered "behind the times", "out of touch with reality" etc. I doth wish that more would adopt these values, our world would'st be a better place to live. I speak of Honor, Duty, Loyalty, Fidelity, Truth, Justice, Respect, Dignity, Love and Romance.

I thought that I was doomed to spend a lonely life. I came to Lit, not searching for anyone but to relieve some stress. I found instead a likely soulmate. My codes are valued. Romance is not dead yet. There is still a place in this world for Men like me. Take heart, there are still some "Men" left in the world. Men who place a person's Trust, Faith and Love above their life. We may be few, but we still remain. Thou just must searchest diligently. Beware of "boys" pretending at being "Men".

I apologize to all, I rambled on. Please do not judge us all.

 

[Whispered_Promises]

thank you....

You made me smile. Please never change, you give me hope and faith. The qualities you listed are the most precious in the world.
You and yours are very lucky to have found one another....hold on fiercely to it.

Sincerely,
WP

 

[Sort_Of_My_Art]

Well said.

Always good to have a clear head around here.

S|O|M|A

edited because I may have said too much

 

[Whispered_Promises]

Re: Re: Trust

Well said.

Always good to have a clear head around here.

S|O|M|A

edited because I may have said too much

Hi hon....I am sorry I did not respond to your earlier comments that you felt you needed to edit.....they wer wonderful thoughs and good questions.......

There are many sorts of trust.....but, underlying they all come from the heart. You were right in what you did, never hold back your true feelings from someone, even if it is going to hurt them. Iwould rather have my feelings bruised a little by the truth than to have someone play me and string me along.....because that is when you not only are hurt but, the trust is shattered, and you begin to doubt yourself.

The only thing I can say is .....stay true to yourself, and it will all work out.

Sincerley....WP