Trust.

Could be worse. You could have traded your virginity for a ride on a skateboard.
 
Fool.

Trust people, but trust them to be themselves.
If you know a person well enough, it's good enough.

For example, the bodybuilding toyboy with the huge cock© can be trusted 99.9% not to cheat, but only 70% to be honest about how much he spent on Warhammer this week. Understanding this means that i can save energy and conflict by only attempting to torture the truth out of him when the probability is that he's fibbing.

In the past i have dated men who I knew I could only trust 10% not to sleep around, so I kept the relationship short term and casual, and felt no guilt about their tears when we parted.

My mother can be trusted, by anyone, literally anyone, 100% on money and property. But i know to only credit her with 30% when it comes to other people's emotional well being, and remembering that means I can still have a relatively pleasant relationship with her.

Everyone is various shades of grey. If you want someone in your life, figure out their shading, then trust them to be themselves.
 
Assume good intent, I always say. If you do that trust comes easy. Sometimes you get hurt, but more often people take good care of each other.
 
And carry a big stick.


Or something more effective than a stick. Unless you know how to wield a stick you might be better off with a weapon invented since the 1600s.
 
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