Trophy Wife vs. Successful Career

[lavender]

 

[Bob Peale]

Lavy,

Great post; you shouldn't limit it.

With all the strides that women have made, it's an interesting consideration. I also think it would be interesting to hear how many men would REALLY give it all up to support a successful woman.

I've always said that I could, but I've learned there is a caveat - I'd have to have an outlet. I suppose that my number of stories posted and published would quadruple - at least in the world of erotica I'd have to cement my reputation as a writer to feed my sense of accomplishment. And not that raising children/keeping house isn't an accomplishment, but that's personal. I'd need some way for the world to also say that something objective is done well.

Does that make sense?

 

[lavender]

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[Problem Child]

Do you really expect anyone to say they want to be a trophy wife? Maybe you should offer a prize of breast implants and a years supply of Miss Clairol bleached blonde to anyone who does.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

I don't care if it said wife i'm answering

If my wife were succesfull enough to suport the familys (family not just me) someone would have to take care of the kids, if she wanted me to and we coud servive that way. I'd stay at home. I'd not give up my dream, i'd still keep busy with my art and architecture, but yes I'd have no problem with being a trofie husband.
so long as their is a reason for it.
now if we didn't have a family and she said i want you to quit your job, hell no.

 

[lilminx]

Hmmm.... this is really a tough one for me. I have to be honest; right now I'm at a point in my life where I feel that I wouldn't mind not having to worry about finances. I work my ass off at my job, and sometimes get very little reward for it. (financial as well as acknowledgement or appreciation). I am so stressed and frustrated that at this moment I would pick being a trophy wife, provided that I was truly in love with my husband. Could I be a trophy mistress instead though? Marriage is too permanent.


I think, however, in the long run I would get incredibly bored being anyone's trophy. For now, I'd like to be with someone with lots of money, but I like having a career as well. I also don't plan on having kids, so I really wouldn't have to take that into consideration either way.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

If you had to choose between being a trophy wife (one who looks good on her partners arm) that didn't have a career or a woman who had quite a successful career, which would you choose?

I find it interesting to see women's analysis on this topic. I think it just reaffirms in many ways societal norms and standards for women.

I am not a woman naturally, but I am going to respond to say the last thing I want is a trophy wife. I want a happy wife, one that is independent in her own right, but wants to be with me.

It wouldn't bother me if my wife or girlfriend were more successful than me as long as she is happy and we get to spend some good quality time together.

I am not a person who goes to social events or tries to keep up with the Joneses anyway, so a trophy wife wouldn't do me any good if I did want one.

 

[lavender]

 

[Mellon Collie]

I'm also going for my PhD in Socilogy/Cultural Anthropology and I'm taking certification classes so can teach high school if the mood strikes me when I'm done with all this schooling. So successful woman sounds like a plan to me. But at the same time, I don't think I would have any problem leaving my job to focus on children or something.

 

[lillend]

I don't want to be a trophy wife, nor do I want a career. I have a career....raising my children, that is all I want. I have always wanted the oportunity to stay home with my children and up until a year ago that was just not an option to me. I have been working since I was old enough to get a job and doing other things (collecting aluminum to recylcle, babysitting, cleaning houses and yards, etc.) since I was about 10 years old. I did this because I wanted to. I liked having my own money. Now it is different though, I have children and they are my world. I want to be here for them. I cook, I clean, I take care of my kids. I am house wife and there is no harder or more rewarding career than that.

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[Cheyenne]

I've already made that choice since I'm a lot older than you. I'm the career woman you described.

If I had to do over again, I still couldn't be a trophy wife. I just don't have that in me. I like spending my OWN money and doing whatever I want way too much to ever give that up and have to rely on someone else providing for me. Also, I'd be bored to tears as a trophy wife.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

now if we didn't have a family and she said i want you to quit your job, hell no.

Give it 30 years then you may be ready to quit your job.

I like what I do, but I would prefer to have enough resources to not have to work. I don't want to sponge off a woman, if my income was needed I would work, and I have yet to have a relationship with a woman who made more than I do - although I know a few. I am not looking for a "Sugar Mommy" but if a woman was wealthy/successful enough to support me I am not going to say no to retiring.

I would prefer that we both retire and just do what we want, but I would imagine some women would want to still work, and that would be okay too.

 

[Problem Child]

Actually, yes. Many women, if given the opportunity would completely give up their career in order to have complete and total financial security. These women are the women who work in a job and really don't care about establishing a career. For women whose job is a means to an end, merely a way of bringing home a paycheck, I think they would give up the work to be a mom and wife in a heartbeat.

I think it's the women who are truly passionate about a career and their work that would be completely opposed to it.

I meant here, on this board. I'll mail you a dollar for every woman that says here, in this thread, she wants nothing more than to be a trinket for her rich husband. In other words, shut up, look good, throw great parties, and don't have an opinion. That's what a trophy wife is. Women who stay home and raise kids are not trophy wives.

 

[FlamingoBlue]

I have both....

It doesn't get any better than dr. blue and me.


blue

 

[sexy-girl]

i am a trophy wife of sorts


lisa has enough money in her bank to support us both in theory and shes also making great steps to having a very succesful career which would also make a lot of money


im in a job that im not truely interested in i dont make very much money the prospects to be promoted arent exactly what i'd want either


i hardly take any money from lisa though ... if theres something i wish to buy i save for it


after christmas im going to figure out exactly what i want to do ... i wont be happy to be a trophy wife and stay at home and do nothing i am lucky though that i would have security to aim for something that might take a long while to reach and might not make very much money


so yes im a trophy wife at moment but i wont remain so

 

[Never]

lavender:
"A trophy wife would indicate that your husband was immensely succesful, made a lot of money, and you just had to go to all the social events and spend his money.

A successful career means that you aren't immensely rich, but you are comfortable. You are happy in your career and people admire you for your work ethic, drive and ability to succeed in your job environment. On many occasions a successful career for women means you can't have children, or if you do, you don't have as much quality time to spend with them."

So, let me get this clear.
Trophy Wife = financial security and my only obligation is to go to social events?
Successful Career = financial security and my obligation is to work but if I have children I'd have less time to spend with them.

I'll go with Trophy Wife.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

STG actualy no in 30 years i still don't see myself wanting to quit my job without cause. getting paid to draw, there is nothing bad with that, except for the presure at a dead line, but i get a ruse from that preasure
If i didn't want to work i'd be on disability right now and not fighting dead odds to get a job.

 

[u2slow13]

want my address, could use those dollars to buy me a trophy

 

[Problem Child]

Re: Re: Trophy Wife vs. Successful Career

lavender:
"A trophy wife would indicate that your husband was immensely succesful, made a lot of money, and you just had to go to all the social events and spend his money.

A successful career means that you aren't immensely rich, but you are comfortable. You are happy in your career and people admire you for your work ethic, drive and ability to succeed in your job environment. On many occasions a successful career for women means you can't have children, or if you do, you don't have as much quality time to spend with them."

So, let me get this clear.
Trophy Wife = financial security and my only obligation is to go to social events?
Successful Career = financial security and my obligation is to work but if I have children I'd have less time to spend with them.

I'll go with Trophy Wife.

You have to give up Lit. Trophy wives aren't smart enough to run websites. Plus, I just don't see you with implants.

 

[PacificBlue]

Hmm...

I would be quite happy staying at home and raising children but it doesn't look like it's going to happen so I'm becoming more comfortable with being a career woman and going after that.

Being a trophy though...no thanks. I have a brain and I know how to use it. I've been to several company parties in past careers where I've seen this and it makes me sad to know that the only reason those women were chosen was for looks alone. Some know it and are happy to use what they were blessed with...more power to them. Others I don't think have a clue.

 

[Never]

Re: Re: Re: Trophy Wife vs. Successful Career

Problem Child:
"You have to give up Lit. Trophy wives aren't smart enough to run websites. Plus, I just don't see you with implants."

I don't run the website.. and I wouldn't need implants.
If being a trophy wife means losing half your brain I don't want it but that's not what lavender's post stated so, yep, I'd be a trophy wife.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

STG actualy no in 30 years i still don't see myself wanting to quit my job without cause. getting paid to draw, there is nothing bad with that

Well, maybe after 30 years you will want to be drawing just for the pure pleasure of it instead of for pay also.

I enjoy what I do sometimes to the point that I wouldn't want to quit right then, but I have a lot of other stuff that after 30 years of going to work day in and day out, I would rather relax and pursue other interests. You may still want to draw in 30 years, but you may want to not be doing it for a living anymore. Hopefully by then you won't have to - you will be sucessful and thrifty enough to retire.

I haven't done a lick of coding since I was laid off in the spring. Normally I really enjoy it, but after 4 years of working to a deadline I was burnt out and decided to take a break. I am glad I did and now I want to go back to work if I can find anything - but if my stock was suddenly worth enough to retire, I would tomorrow.

 

[Problem Child]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Trophy Wife vs. Successful Career

Problem Child:
"You have to give up Lit. Trophy wives aren't smart enough to run websites. Plus, I just don't see you with implants."

I don't run the website.. and I wouldn't need implants.
If being a trophy wife means losing half your brain I don't want it but that's not what lavender's post stated so, yep, I'd be a trophy wife.

You're being difficult...again.