Transitions... nerves... plans... oh My

[MasterPhoenix]

As you know, My rose and I are currently in a long distance relationship. Well, we are in the progress in transitioning out of the long distance phase of our relationship and will be getting together permanently. In a few short months, she will be flying out here and we will be driving back together with as much as I can fit into My little Mustang LX.

I am a California native, and have lived here in Northern California almost all My life, with the exception of a two year span where I lived in Sin City. This time I will be moving 2202 miles away from My family and about the only life I have known. Yes, I absolutely love My rose, and I know that her and I are meant to be, but I am a bit nervous about this whole transition.

I know that I will not have a problem making friends there, as I have ha habit of making friends fairly easily no matter where I am. Its just that, and this is going to sound stupid I am afraid, I have never been in a serious enough relationship where everything is together as her and I's ill be. I am nervous about whether I am going to be able to get a good enough job to be the provider I need to be. I do hope and pray that I can be everything she needs and wants as a partner/Master, but there are times when I am not always as sure of Myself as I should be.

I am nervous about how this transition will affect her children, and whilst they do like Me so far, will they be able to respect Me as a stepdad figure? I had a good rolemodel as I have an awesome step-dad, but will I be able to adequately do the job at hand, or will I fuck this up big time?

Hell, I have already been stressing out as I was mapquesting the rout, and trying to figure out where to stop for the night. Of course, I found a secondary rout thats only a few miles more that will allow us to stop and I can see My dad for the first time in many years, as well as a very close friend of ours. (13 extra miles is not a big deal when you are dealing with 2000+)

I have a tonne of things that I have to do here to get ready for the big trip and move, and I am just stressed and nervous about everything except her and I's love for one another.

I don't fear change, as I welcome it. I welcome this change as it is what I have been dreaming about for over three years, but it is a big one. Everything about My life will be changing. I will be on the other side of the country, I will know no one outside of My rose & her family & a couple of her friends. I will be becoming a Father figure.

I know I will be bale to handle it, but it is just a lot to bear.

If you got this far, thank you for reading...
MP

 

[skittles_lm]

As you know, My rose and I are currently in a long distance relationship. Well, we are in the progress in transitioning out of the long distance phase of our relationship and will be getting together permanently. In a few short months, she will be flying out here and we will be driving back together with as much as I can fit into My little Mustang LX.

I am a California native, and have lived here in Northern California almost all My life, with the exception of a two year span where I lived in Sin City. This time I will be moving 2202 miles away from My family and about the only life I have known. Yes, I absolutely love My rose, and I know that her and I are meant to be, but I am a bit nervous about this whole transition.

I know that I will not have a problem making friends there, as I have ha habit of making friends fairly easily no matter where I am. Its just that, and this is going to sound stupid I am afraid, I have never been in a serious enough relationship where everything is together as her and I's ill be. I am nervous about whether I am going to be able to get a good enough job to be the provider I need to be. I do hope and pray that I can be everything she needs and wants as a partner/Master, but there are times when I am not always as sure of Myself as I should be.

I am nervous about how this transition will affect her children, and whilst they do like Me so far, will they be able to respect Me as a stepdad figure? I had a good rolemodel as I have an awesome step-dad, but will I be able to adequately do the job at hand, or will I fuck this up big time?

Hell, I have already been stressing out as I was mapquesting the rout, and trying to figure out where to stop for the night. Of course, I found a secondary rout thats only a few miles more that will allow us to stop and I can see My dad for the first time in many years, as well as a very close friend of ours. (13 extra miles is not a big deal when you are dealing with 2000+)

I have a tonne of things that I have to do here to get ready for the big trip and move, and I am just stressed and nervous about everything except her and I's love for one another.

I don't fear change, as I welcome it. I welcome this change as it is what I have been dreaming about for over three years, but it is a big one. Everything about My life will be changing. I will be on the other side of the country, I will know no one outside of My rose & her family & a couple of her friends. I will be becoming a Father figure.

I know I will be bale to handle it, but it is just a lot to bear.

If you got this far, thank you for reading...
MP

You're gonna be just fine luv. Deep breaths. And remember: screwing up is inevitable. Fixing it? Not so easy and a test you will find yourself passing again and again. Good luck, you have my best wishes and a little of my jealousy!

 

[MasterPhoenix]

You're gonna be just fine luv. Deep breaths. And remember: screwing up is inevitable. Fixing it? Not so easy and a test you will find yourself passing again and again. Good luck, you have my best wishes and a little of my jealousy!

Thanks for the vote of confidence

 

[skittles_lm]

Thanks for the vote of confidence

Anytime! Everybody needs one now and again, even you domly types.

 

[chris9]

It's natural to be nervous about life changes. I'd say everybody is. And you know this. It will be a difficult time for you, but also for everybody else, for your friends and family who you leave, for Rose and her family who have to integrate yoiu into their life.
You seem to share the love with Rose to make this possible, you seem to know what you're about to do, to be confident in your being. You'll do fine, even with some mistakes and problems that will arise.
Good luck

 

[Bandit58]

I moved from a small rural area in New Zealand to the city of Sydney Australia to live with Master Gil 3 years ago. I knew no one here at all apart from Him. I left behind an ex husband, my two kids (at the time they were 20 and almost 16), and my elderly parents and brother and his family.

It was a big culture shock for me. Learning to cope with the traffic and all the people, finding my way around, and making new friends was hard. I could not find part time work which suited Master's health concerns (apart from a 6 week stint as a receptionist in a brothel ). We applied for me to be His full time carer and I now get a pension from the Australian government equal to His disability pension.

I didn't bring too much stuff over - apart from clothes (a lot of which I got rid of), my books and music and my computer, ended up 10 boxes worth which I got sent over through an international moving firm. Most of my furniture and appliances I gave to my children for when they went out on their own, apart from a fridge and a single bed which I gave to friends.

It took about 6 weeks to arrange my move, with Christmas and New Year in the middle (NZ shuts down for 2 weeks then lol). It was a very long 6 weeks, but we made it through!

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Master, i know You are nervous but worrying about whether You will be what i want/need is not something You need to worry about. You already are everything that i want/need. that isn't going to change. as for the jobs well there's not many around here but You will find something and we will be just fine. things will fall into place. as for my kids, well i can't promise anything there, as you know, they've been through alot in their short lives but i know that as of now, they like you and i know they will push you just to see how far they can push, but we've talked about this before and You know how you have to come into it. no worries we will be fine, the thing i'm worried about is that friggin long ass drive back from Cali in that lil bitty car of your's all kidding aside i will say one more time ...everything will work itself out, and we will be fine.....

 

[catalina_francisco]

You will get there. I did it and I had to move 16,000kms and to a country where I didn't speak the language. Due to the way we did things, I didn't have a long time to think about it, or time to prepare for it. I flew back home to a house which had been trashed (and that is not an adequate description, it was much worse), and I had just under 6 weeks to pack up my whole life which was well over 40 years...20 of them in that house, clean the place up, sell my house, arrange shipping for my things (which turned out to be a huge problem for so far at such short notice), say goodbye to friends and family including my elderly parents and daughter and granddaughter who I used to seeing or talking to daily, arrange legal matters, and get myself and my son on the plane to come to Europe.....during this time of frantic arranging my granddaughter accidentally got hold of and swallowed pills for my mother's heart condition so I had to rush to hospital to be with her, try and calm my mother and track down my daughter who was at work, I picked up a very bad flu the minute I landed home to arrange everything and felt like just going to bed and dying, my beloved waterbed sprung a major leak and wasn't worth fixing so I slept on the floor, and I had F thinking I should be available to chat to him online almost 24/7 and really not getting just how much work I had to do alone to even get close to being ready on time. Up until a couple of months ago I was still having nightmares about it all. So see, yours will be a breeze!!

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/173/376615023_c81f9c8c7c_t.jpg Catalina

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Thank you for the support everyone who has posted. I am sure it will work out fine, just nervous because it is a huge change. My whole life will be turned inside out yet again.

No worries about My car, it may be small but it can go. Especially once i get it tuned up etc...

I am not worried about possessions as I once lost almost everything I own when I had to leave My old house in Vegas on about 24 hours notice. I have a few things I will be bringing, and if there is a little bit left over after I load My car, I can have it shipped, or stored. *shrugs*

I am really looking forward to being with her 24-7 and all the changes...

Thank you all again.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

You will get there. I did it and I had to move 16,000kms and to a country where I didn't speak the language. Due to the way we did things, I didn't have a long time to think about it, or time to prepare for it. I flew back home to a house which had been trashed (and that is not an adequate description, it was much worse), and I had just under 6 weeks to pack up my whole life which was well over 40 years...20 of them in that house, clean the place up, sell my house, arrange shipping for my things (which turned out to be a huge problem for so far at such short notice), say goodbye to friends and family including my elderly parents and daughter and granddaughter who I used to seeing or talking to daily, arrange legal matters, and get myself and my son on the plane to come to Europe.....during this time of frantic arranging my granddaughter accidentally got hold of and swallowed pills for my mother's heart condition so I had to rush to hospital to be with her, try and calm my mother and track down my daughter who was at work, I picked up a very bad flu the minute I landed home to arrange everything and felt like just going to bed and dying, my beloved waterbed sprung a major leak and wasn't worth fixing so I slept on the floor, and I had F thinking I should be available to chat to him online almost 24/7 and really not getting just how much work I had to do alone to even get close to being ready on time. Up until a couple of months ago I was still having nightmares about it all. So see, yours will be a breeze!!

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/173/376615023_c81f9c8c7c_t.jpg Catalina

Wow.. that sounds like it was a pain of a move...

fortunately, I ahve a few months to get everythign in order and decide what is the priority. (clothes, computer, guitar) and what I will take if it can fit.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

You will get there. I did it and I had to move 16,000kms and to a country where I didn't speak the language. Due to the way we did things, I didn't have a long time to think about it, or time to prepare for it. I flew back home to a house which had been trashed (and that is not an adequate description, it was much worse), and I had just under 6 weeks to pack up my whole life which was well over 40 years...20 of them in that house, clean the place up, sell my house, arrange shipping for my things (which turned out to be a huge problem for so far at such short notice), say goodbye to friends and family including my elderly parents and daughter and granddaughter who I used to seeing or talking to daily, arrange legal matters, and get myself and my son on the plane to come to Europe.....during this time of frantic arranging my granddaughter accidentally got hold of and swallowed pills for my mother's heart condition so I had to rush to hospital to be with her, try and calm my mother and track down my daughter who was at work, I picked up a very bad flu the minute I landed home to arrange everything and felt like just going to bed and dying, my beloved waterbed sprung a major leak and wasn't worth fixing so I slept on the floor, and I had F thinking I should be available to chat to him online almost 24/7 and really not getting just how much work I had to do alone to even get close to being ready on time. Up until a couple of months ago I was still having nightmares about it all. So see, yours will be a breeze!!

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/173/376615023_c81f9c8c7c_t.jpg Catalina

yikes that does not seem like a fun time at all, lol, but it all worked out in the end, and i know it will for us too

 

[myinnerslut]

i am so happy for you... and a few months isnt that long to wait... after three years its almost nothing

 

[graceanne]

The fact that you're worried speaks well for you. I'd worry if you weren't worried. I'd think that either you had no idea what you're letting yourself in for, or that you were gonna mess up good.

This is a big change, for you and rose (and her kids). Worry is healthy in this case, because it'll keep you on your toes, and doing your best. I bet if you ask your stepdad how he felt when he first married your mom, he'll tell you he felt a lot of what you're feeling now.

 

[Kailey_86]

It might be tough right now to think about all of the changes that will be happening but everything will work out in the end. It might be difficult at first but time will make things easier. Trust me, i know from experience having moved every two years for the past 12 years. i'm so happy for the both of you. You guys seem like a great couple. Good luck with the move!

 

[catalina_francisco]

F always says, even if we were living under a bridge somewhere it wouldn't matter, as long as we were together...maybe that will help calm some of the nerves.

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/142/325332447_043454be42_t.jpg Catalina

 

[subtleone]

Love conquers all...

One thing that is abundatly clear from your posts is that you are both very much in love; It's amazing what you can overcome when you are unbreakable as a couple. Don't worry too much it will all be fine once you are together any little mishaps that occur will just be part of daily life. At least you can see each other at the end of each day and all the tension will float away (or rather flog away). Good luck to both of you and dont forget to enjoy the journey

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Agian, thanks to everyone for their support... and While I do agree that even if we had to be under a bridge, it would be OK cuz we are together a house is much warmer and more comfortable.

I will jut rely of My faith to guide Me as always...

 

[wynnie]

MP....

It is wounderful that you and Rose will be together. I know she is excited and even with the worries you have I know you are bouncing off the walls waiting for the time to come so you can see her 24/7. Everything will be great.. you will have a long ass drive but you will enjoy it because Rose will be there. It is good to worry .. at least a little.. other wise you wouldnt know how important it really is. Rose and her family are important to you..so you worry.. which is good. I wish you luck and safe travels!!! hugs..

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Thanks Wynnie....

I am definately looking forward to the trip, its the mundane afterwards that concerns Me.

 

[Etoile]

Congratulations to you both! This is wonderful news. You have a major advantage that you already have a place to call home once you are there. You know where you're going, and that cannot be undervalued. You will do fine!

 

[RonClarkeson]

Love and abuse!

As you know, My rose and I are currently in a long distance relationship. Well, we are in the progress in transitioning out of the long distance phase of our relationship and will be getting together permanently. In a few short months, she will be flying out here and we will be driving back together with as much as I can fit into My little Mustang LX.

I am a California native, and have lived here in Northern California almost all My life, with the exception of a two year span where I lived in Sin City. This time I will be moving 2202 miles away from My family and about the only life I have known. Yes, I absolutely love My rose, and I know that her and I are meant to be, but I am a bit nervous about this whole transition.

I know that I will not have a problem making friends there, as I have ha habit of making friends fairly easily no matter where I am. Its just that, and this is going to sound stupid I am afraid, I have never been in a serious enough relationship where everything is together as her and I's ill be. I am nervous about whether I am going to be able to get a good enough job to be the provider I need to be. I do hope and pray that I can be everything she needs and wants as a partner/Master, but there are times when I am not always as sure of Myself as I should be.

I am nervous about how this transition will affect her children, and whilst they do like Me so far, will they be able to respect Me as a stepdad figure? I had a good rolemodel as I have an awesome step-dad, but will I be able to adequately do the job at hand, or will I fuck this up big time?

Hell, I have already been stressing out as I was mapquesting the rout, and trying to figure out where to stop for the night. Of course, I found a secondary rout thats only a few miles more that will allow us to stop and I can see My dad for the first time in many years, as well as a very close friend of ours. (13 extra miles is not a big deal when you are dealing with 2000+)

I have a tonne of things that I have to do here to get ready for the big trip and move, and I am just stressed and nervous about everything except her and I's love for one another.

I don't fear change, as I welcome it. I welcome this change as it is what I have been dreaming about for over three years, but it is a big one. Everything about My life will be changing. I will be on the other side of the country, I will know no one outside of My rose & her family & a couple of her friends. I will be becoming a Father figure.

I know I will be bale to handle it, but it is just a lot to bear.

If you got this far, thank you for reading...
MP

Love her, abuse her, but do not humilaite her!

All the best!

 

[lil_pooka]

I've gone through this, well kinda. He was the one who moved here. That was almost 10 years ago. It was a little hard in the beginning, but love conquers all as they say. I agree that the fact that you're worried is a very good sign and I'm sure things will go wonderfully Good Luck!

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Love her, abuse her, but do not humilaite her!

All the best!

*groans* but i LIKE humiliation play!!!

 

[marieR19]

*hugs to both of you* It's definitely a big change, but reading your posts and knowing how much you two love each other and how good you are together, it's obvious that everything will work out fine. I am a firm believer in "love can conquer all"; Of course there will be new things to worry about and changes and job stuff, but you two will get through it by having each other. Okay, maybe I'm getting sappy, but anyways.


Heather

 

[MasterPhoenix]

One of the considerations is that I probably will not be moving right into her house to give her kids a chance to get used to Me being around and such. That is part of the transition, and I am confident that I will find cheap apartment, or even a few weeks at the motel we stayed at last time. Not that I see us being apart for too long of a time.

I am really looking forward to the adventure, and seeing how it will all paly out. And you all, will be kept up to date as it happens... cuz you are all friends.

*hugs and/or spanks* to all who offered their thoughts and want them