Trans Love
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shavenukguy
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Good luck with your journey honey. I personally haven’t spoken with any trans men on here but I’m sure you will find others to share your experience with
ErickTheRed
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Been with a trans girl few years ago. She was really feminine and sexy. we had great time together
stickygirl
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Faceplant
As for your question, you'd need to distinguish between interest and fetish. You'll mostly find the latter here and IME zero interest in dudes like your good self
PissKitten
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I'm genderqueer and pansexual so it's all the same to me, but I've always held a soft spot for transmen, especially in terms of friendships. I feel more at ease talking with fellow genderqueer folk (especially transguys) and feel more normal despite my identity - in my experience, it's often other queer folk that treat me as a normal person as opposed to a fetish or strictly an identity.
LostBabygirl3489
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I'm nonbinary and I feel the same way (also pansexual).
I think I have a preference for trans people (including GQ, nonbinary, so forth) over cis people. Interestingly enough, a lot of people that are transgender have been attracted to me as well.
LostBabygirl3489
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Best of luck on your journey.
Transgender people are lovely and beautiful. I was assigned female at birth and I've been in denial about it for a long time but I am nonbinary. I feel like a man sometimes and other times I feel like a woman. Sometimes I feel like both. I've thought about going on HRT and my partner is extremely supportive of me going on it but I can't stand shaving as it is and I'd be super hairy (the males in my family have a lot of hair everywhere). I prefer to look feminine most of the time because I feel like I look better that way. But sometimes I will rock the masculine look and it confuses cis men haha. Anyway, I support you and I am here if you ever want to chat!
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I'm nonbinary and I feel the same way (also pansexual).
I'm glad to hear someone relates! I'm married to a cis man but before we got married, I had the hardest time finding lovers, love, and even friends when I presented as other than my birth sex. I'm glad it seems you are having easier luck than I did in that regard!
I appreciate personality traits over body parts. Intelligence, humor, honesty and empathy are worth so much more to me. I haven't been in a relationship with a Transgender person. It just doesn't matter what someone identifies as to me or what pieces they have. If we are both in love, that's what I would really want.
shavenukguy
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Beautifully put.
LostBabygirl3489
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Most people are really focused on gender, specifically cisgender people. I'm sorry you had similar issues. Before I met my partner, I had a very hard time finding someone who would accept me for me. My ex-husband was a straight cisgender guy and he was straight and did not like men at all. He did have a huge thing for transwomen, which is fine. But he rejected my masculine side and it really hurt me. I have a partner now that loves me whether I am feminine or masculine and I consider myself very lucky.
This is why I would have issue with dating a cisgender person...most of the ones I've met could never understand me or they'd make fun of me. Unless he/she was bisexual or pansexual, then they would be more understanding (as my experience has taught me).
yukonnights
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Most people are really focused on gender, specifically cisgender people. I'm sorry you had similar issues. Before I met my partner, I had a very hard time finding someone who would accept me for me. My ex-husband was a straight cisgender guy and he was straight and did not like men at all. He did have a huge thing for transwomen, which is fine. But he rejected my masculine side and it really hurt me. I have a partner now that loves me whether I am feminine or masculine and I consider myself very lucky.
This is why I would have issue with dating a cisgender person...most of the ones I've met could never understand me or they'd make fun of me. Unless he/she was bisexual or pansexual, then they would be more understanding (as my experience has taught me).
I think you hit on something really important. The lack of being able to really relate with gender fluidity is a real handicap for most cis-gendered folks. One can't include all of any population in such statements, but for many cis-gendered they simply can't fully understand.
But, that presents a severe conundrum because of the limited number of trans/fluid/queer folks available for a relationship
In regard to the larger question of finding a person to love; I think it is important to polish the inner beauty in ourselves. To truly learn to love our self and become the best version of that possible. The body is only a vessel which holds the true treasure. I admit that I'm an optimist...but I really believe that true beauty will attract the right person into our life.
Lethanol - in answer to your question; Yes, that person is out there...probably wondering where you are hiding. Best wishes for your happiness ~
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Echoing what's been said and adding that most the GF people I've met have been under 25 and that's a time when nothing is fixed in your life. It's difficult to establish a relationship until you have yourself figured out... but then having relationships is a good way of deciding what you're not. Maybe the conclusion is to try out lots of people for fun and with no preconceptions and then see where it goes. Guess that's not rocket science
