Tradwife life idea

[Carriedaway22]

I’ve been working on my first story, and actually wrote 3000 words yesterday (very happy about that), but while I was writing I went off on another possible tangent of an idea- every once in a while I end up finding these tradwife/“biblical submission” girls on YouTube. Alanal3, homewithkelli, and maybe you could throw tayloralesia in there too nowadays.

And of course, when they talk about their lives and how they submit to their husbands etc… they leave out any of their “exciting” bits. For modesty of course. But what are these girls lives actually like? Are they kneeling at the door and saying, “Yes Sir” when Master comes home? Is Kelli getting bent over in the garden whenever Scott feels like it? It would be interesting to take their personalities/ outward doctrine and expound upon them and imagine what their sex lives *could possibly* be like (while being just a bit hyperbolic maybe).

 

[Rob_Royale]

The trad wife idea is of interest to me because I find a woman dressed in a skirt and blouse, with her hair and makeup done, exceedingly sexy. The idea of coming home to that every day would be fantastic.

However, I've yet to come up with an idea for a story that isn't completely misogynistic.

 

[Brandnewbuddy]

The trad wife idea is of interest to me because I find a woman dressed in a skirt and blouse, with her hair and makeup done, exceedingly sexy. The idea of coming home to that every day would be fantastic.

However, I've yet to come up with an idea for a story that isn't completely misogynistic.

Maybe work the difficulty of coming up with an idea into the story:

For example: Male escort is used to odd requests and he prides himself into being able to take on any request (with a few he shuts down immediately), a rich client he has a good relationship with wants to do tradwife as a roleplay. He talks with her about what it would entail and she tells him…but she can’t quite explain what she wants to get out of it.

So our MC tries to feel things out over the course of a few days where he plays at being her husband and she plays the devoted wife who takes his coat, packs his lunch and greets him at the door with a kiss and a warm dinner.

But what does she want out of it? Even she’s not quite sure. Does she want a little domination and humiliation by way of an unpleaseable husband?

“Honey. A frozen casserole? Really? Last time I checked, I married you, not Marie Calendar. Try to do better next time and bring me another beer.”

Maybe a romantic fantasy where she does work herself to the bone but unlike her job where no one appreciates the hard work she does, MC plays a loving husband who appreciates all the things she did.

Or maybe MC figures out that the fantasy for her is being able to just devote the time to play it out. Like someone who builds models or someone who builds old cars without any intention of regularly using them, the fantasy for her is being able to devote her time to playing housekeeper, MC is just completing the fantasy.

I think one fun scene could be them figuring sex out. MC and her have a pretty high sexual chemistry normally but she wants to do a fictionalized 1950s style of sex.

“So we sleep in seperate beds?”

“Well no, of course not but maybe we only do missionary?”

“Not to doubt a client but I’m pretty sure my grandparents wouldn’t have had 8 kids if they were stuck with just missionary sex.”

“Okay…I keep my nightgown on the whole time and let you do whatever you want to me?”

“All right let’s start with that.”

 

[Carriedaway22]

QUOTE="Rob_Royale, post: 101068730, member: 6510558"]
The trad wife idea is of interest to me because I find a woman dressed in a skirt and blouse, with her hair and makeup done, exceedingly sexy. The idea of coming home to that every day would be fantastic.

However, I've yet to come up with an idea for a story that isn't completely misogynistic.
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Well, here’s the thing. Is that internal misogyny part of the story? Then it’s warranted. It’s the truth of the situation.

 

[Reshbod]

I like the idea of the tradwife, but more as a fetish than lifestyle. I have sketched out an idea but haven't done anything with it. The wife is an executive, lawyer or something like that, so during the week she is the one in charge. On some weekends, she dresses in a skirt, pearls and fixes her hair etc. and plays the role of the 50s housewife. On other weekends she twists things just a bit similar to Star Treks Mirror Universe where she dresses in the same style but in black and sports a whip and chains. She still serves her husband but in a very different way.

 

[Carriedaway22]

I like finding interesting “universes” within society. And what I mean is… people who have managed to create alternate versions of how their women should behave through various means, whether it be picking women for their naïveté, or using the Bible as a means to argue for control… or maybe just the traditions of where they and the woman are from. And I ask, “how far might that be being taken in some places? And how much ‘in plain sight’ might those people be?”

 

[Carriedaway22]

There’s a time and place for fictional misogyny. It’s a horrible thing in the real world but it would be really hot in a story like that lol. Just my two cents

I absolutely concur that it is. Just like being a mermaid probably sucks, but Little Mermaid makes it seem quite cool.

 

[SubLynnM]

The trad wife idea is of interest to me because I find a woman dressed in a skirt and blouse, with her hair and makeup done, exceedingly sexy. The idea of coming home to that every day would be fantastic.

However, I've yet to come up with an idea for a story that isn't completely misogynistic.

Who cares if it's misogynistic? My mom is a tradwife, and I want to be one.

 

[Carriedaway22]

Well, I do believe it is important to understand that one can write something as a “real dynamic” but ignore just enough reality for a situation to work. Living in the city and walking your girl like a dog is a lot harder in real life.

 

[SubLynnM]

True. But that's not what being a tradwife is.

 

[Rob_Royale]

Who cares if it's misogynistic? My mom is a tradwife, and I want to be one.

A fair point. It's just, to this point in my writing career, my writing has featured women that are ex-trad wives and are now widows and/or divorced after being neglected/cheated upon despite their devotion. Now they are enjoying their life on their terms. I do MILF/Cougar stories and that formula has worked very well for that. And because it's not misogynistic, my work has been read and appreciated by men and women, which is very validating.

But, as you point out, who cares? When I started writing there was a short list of stuff I felt I wouldn't write, and as of recently, I have finally done them all. So to do something blatantly misogynistic, is definitely something I will do. I do have an idea for something along these lines and it is quite the little brain worm, so I'm certain I will get to it.

Thanks for commenting.

Rob

 

[SubLynnM]

You're welcome!

 

[Pavlovsdog6862]

You're welcome!

You be you nothing wrong with being stay at home wife

 

[Rob_Royale]

There’s a time and place for fictional misogyny. It’s a horrible thing in the real world but it would be really hot in a story like that lol. Just my two cents

I think you're right.

 

[SubLynnM]

Why do people think enforced submission into traditional roles is misogynistic?

 

[Rob_Royale]

Why do people think enforced submission into traditional roles is misogynistic?

I'll let this one sail on by me and let a woman field it.

 

[Brandnewbuddy]

It’s all about framing of the piece. Like if the story is saying “this a woman’s proper place” definitely misogynistic.

If it’s exploring it and but not making any full judgement could be more nebulous.

 

[SubLynnM]

What if it IS a woman's place? Who gets to say it isn't?

 

[Brandnewbuddy]

*put on rules lawyer glasses* well if it is, then you then need to get back to scrubbing those floors and making a pie and stop spending your time on the internet when you should be making the house ready for your man. *pats you on bottom* now get back to it doll.

 

[SubLynnM]

Ok, so what if that's what I want and need?

 

[Brandnewbuddy]

Then it’s what you want and there’s nothing wrong with that. As long as you aren’t saying it’s the same for all women…then it’s fine

 

[NuclearFairy]

Why do people think enforced submission into traditional roles is misogynistic?

Oh boy.

Okay, so if you were to willingly and joyfully submit yourself to any role, it's not misogynistic. Just like it's not misandristic for a big burly man to willingly and joyfully submit his entire life to his tiny petite dominating wife. If that's what works for them, it's what works for them.

But to enforce such a submission on women is misogynistic. And the reason people think of trad wives as being misogynistic is because whether they're in the lifestyle willingly or not, they go on and on about how this is women's natural state, and all women should get back to the kitchen.

But that dynamic doesn't work for everyone, and even when it comes close to working like that, such as with me, where I enjoy submitting to my SO and taking on several of the more feminine roles, but he's just better in the kitchen, and I'm better with the tool belt. So he'll be making me dinner while I fix the breaks on the van.

 

[NuclearFairy]

That does bring to mind an interesting way you could write a trad wife story. Have her have a house husband neighbor that she shares cooking, housekeeping, and getting their spouse off tricks with.

 

[SubLynnM]

May I ask who gets to decide all of this? At one time it was the socially accepted thought. Someone suddenly says, oh no this is wrong and now is not the socially accepted train of thought..
I'm just throwing that out there.

 

[xdresssissytoes]

Only the consenting adults in the relationship should decide on where it goes...how it evolves....who is in charge of who and what. I love being a non-trad husband .....subservient ......controlled.......submitting to her desire to use me ....however she wants.