Touch

[prettiprinces76]

I'm putting the question out to all Lit Readers. I've been lurking for quite some time and I know if I ask, I'll get all kinds of inventive answers

I am 6 months into a 1 year separation period before my husband files for divorce. I'm coping as well as can be expected, but am missing the touch portion of my life. It's been 7 months since I last had sex, or really any intimate touching at all (other than pleasing myself, that is)

I have a WONDERFUL email buddy that welcomes my sexuality, so I have an outlet for my imagination. I've also had, in the recent past, an exquisite phone buddy that talked me into the best orgasms...... But something is lacking. I miss being touched. I'm such a sexual person and I masturbate quite a lot, but I almost feel like the masturbation is lackluster because it's always me doing the touching and no-one else.

I don't want to give my ex an grist for the divorce mill, so screwing around locally is risky. And to be honest, I'd fall easily into the BBW category, so dating/screwing around at the local bar scene is going to be an emotionally risky proposition for me anyway. An already divorced friend told me massages are the way to go. I can get another person touching me without it being weird or running the risk of rejection. I'm going to try that, but the question I'm posing to you, dear Lit readers, is how can I find other ways to satisfy the need to be touched? How can I find what I need?

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Surely

there are male escorts in Washington. There are here.

 

[VikingDong77]

Hi There,
I sympathize with ya! Bummer on the divorce... hope all that goes as smoothly as possible for you. I on the other hand am a married guy looking for that special touch. The weird thing here is that our marriage is pretty phenomenal in all regards EXCEPT for the touching part. I have thought about looking into getting a massage (not even the "erotic" massages).

I'm on here out of curiosity trying to find out how I can experience something I have been without for quite a long while

 

[prettiprinces76]

I've thought about escorts, I've also considered hooking up through someone here at Lit. I'm not sure what will happen, but something needs too. I, too have been without for quite some time and it's wearing on me. I'm not even sure how to go about replacing it.....random hook ups are great, but will I feel cheao and degraded afterwards? Should I even worry about that?

 

[talldad1]

I've thought about escorts, I've also considered hooking up through someone here at Lit. I'm not sure what will happen, but something needs too. I, too have been without for quite some time and it's wearing on me. I'm not even sure how to go about replacing it.....random hook ups are great, but will I feel cheao and degraded afterwards? Should I even worry about that?

I think a massage is a very good idea. A legitimate massage. It will certainly arouse you, and you will likely want to masturbate afterwards, but it will certainly solve your touch problem. You should arrange to speak with your phone lover immediately after the massage, like right after you get out the door.

 

[Josiyummi]

I'm putting the question out to all Lit Readers. I've been lurking for quite some time and I know if I ask, I'll get all kinds of inventive answers

I am 6 months into a 1 year separation period before my husband files for divorce. I'm coping as well as can be expected, but am missing the touch portion of my life. It's been 7 months since I last had sex, or really any intimate touching at all (other than pleasing myself, that is)

I have a WONDERFUL email buddy that welcomes my sexuality, so I have an outlet for my imagination. I've also had, in the recent past, an exquisite phone buddy that talked me into the best orgasms...... But something is lacking. I miss being touched. I'm such a sexual person and I masturbate quite a lot, but I almost feel like the masturbation is lackluster because it's always me doing the touching and no-one else.

I don't want to give my ex an grist for the divorce mill, so screwing around locally is risky. And to be honest, I'd fall easily into the BBW category, so dating/screwing around at the local bar scene is going to be an emotionally risky proposition for me anyway. An already divorced friend told me massages are the way to go. I can get another person touching me without it being weird or running the risk of rejection. I'm going to try that, but the question I'm posing to you, dear Lit readers, is how can I find other ways to satisfy the need to be touched? How can I find what I need?

Take a vacation. I am going through the same thing, divorce will be final in a few weeks. I had a 17 month dry spell until I went on a vacation... got lots of action. It was nice. I also fall into the big girl category, thick farm girl with big boobs. A low cut shirt, and a dose of confidence and it was alot easier than I remembered. Of course it helps when you are away from home, and don't know anyone, and you no longer care what anyone thinks.
I'm going again in a few months.

 

[prettiprinces76]

I think a massage is a very good idea. A legitimate massage. It will certainly arouse you, and you will likely want to masturbate afterwards, but it will certainly solve your touch problem. You should arrange to speak with your phone lover immediately after the massage, like right after you get out the door.

I'm busy trying to find a good masseuse right now. I've only had a few massages over the years, so my recollection as to whether or not I get turned on my them is rather dim....but I'm willing to bet this time will be different

Take a vacation. I am going through the same thing, divorce will be final in a few weeks. I had a 17 month dry spell until I went on a vacation... got lots of action. It was nice. I also fall into the big girl category, thick farm girl with big boobs. A low cut shirt, and a dose of confidence and it was alot easier than I remembered. Of course it helps when you are away from home, and don't know anyone, and you no longer care what anyone thinks.
I'm going again in a few months.

I guess fear of taking that plunge is what's stopping me, and the lack of available resources. I am contemplating a long weekend for my birthday though. I can definitely fill out a low cut shirt (in a good way). I might even have a dress or two that needs to be dusted off.... Where did you go on vacation? Beach, resort, cruise....? Maybe I do need an adventure...

 

[RunningJib]

Realistic?

I'm busy trying to find a good masseuse right now. I've only had a few massages over the years, so my recollection as to whether or not I get turned on my them is rather dim....but I'm willing to bet this time will be different

Do you really think a shoulder massage is going to remove your anxiousness?

I'd recommend a reliable lover.

I had a lover a few years ago. Our relationship was strictly focused on the lack of intimacy that was missing in our lives. Because our circumstances were very similar, it worked for us. Because we have spouses that didn't or are incapable of articulating their sexual nature, we found each other and explored to our hearts content. Our relationship was based upon sex

What was good of the 'affair' is that you are sharing just a single partner.

I appreciate your circumstances and the need not to provide grist.

Good luck

 

[Josiyummi]

I'm busy trying to find a good masseuse right now. I've only had a few massages over the years, so my recollection as to whether or not I get turned on my them is rather dim....but I'm willing to bet this time will be different




I guess fear of taking that plunge is what's stopping me, and the lack of available resources. I am contemplating a long weekend for my birthday though. I can definitely fill out a low cut shirt (in a good way). I might even have a dress or two that needs to be dusted off.... Where did you go on vacation? Beach, resort, cruise....? Maybe I do need an adventure...

It was a cruise, and it was fantastic. Masturbating in the ocean is fucking amazing. and honestly... the entire vacation was very wonderful. Baltimore has a cruise port. Look into it. I highly recommend. Also, I've realized the best place to pick up men is in the casino... when their luck runs out, they want to get lucky.

 

[prettiprinces76]

Do you really think a shoulder massage is going to remove your anxiousness?

I don't think it will remove anxiety, no. It will be a quick, legal way to get someone's hands on me....plus get some tension worked out of my neck and back It's no orgasm, in terms of stress relief, but I'm hoping to get the monkey off my back, so to speak.

 

[Noor]

Check out the book "Shameless" about finding an erotic massage.

I have never found professional massage arousing but I have never had an erotic one.

 

[Rikki_13]

Besides the massages that I got during my divorce, I started hugging all of my family and good friends whenever I told them by just so I could feel some human touch. It was nothing sexual in the hugs or the massages, but it somehow made me feel better and less alone. May sound silly, but it helped me.

 

[talldad1]

Take a vacation. I am going through the same thing, divorce will be final in a few weeks. I had a 17 month dry spell until I went on a vacation... got lots of action. It was nice. I also fall into the big girl category, thick farm girl with big boobs. A low cut shirt, and a dose of confidence and it was alot easier than I remembered. Of course it helps when you are away from home, and don't know anyone, and you no longer care what anyone thinks.
I'm going again in a few months.

Very hot, happy to hear that you got a lot of action. That's very sexy!

 

[talldad1]

Check out the book "Shameless" about finding an erotic massage.

I have never found professional massage arousing but I have never had an erotic one.

Interesting, most women I know who have talked about getting a professional massage have been aroused, even though there was nothing sexual. Good to know that there are some who have not been.

 

[talldad1]

It was a cruise, and it was fantastic. Masturbating in the ocean is fucking amazing. and honestly... the entire vacation was very wonderful. Baltimore has a cruise port. Look into it. I highly recommend. Also, I've realized the best place to pick up men is in the casino... when their luck runs out, they want to get lucky.

NIce, and I like that you go to pick up men. I would love to hear about what you do.