Top 'masturbatory' sex fantasies

[Gary Chambers]

I got this list of favourite masturbatory sex fantasies from another writer friend. I think the original source was the Romance Writers of America. Lauren says she may find time one day to dig up the results of similar polls she conducted here at Lit, but I told her not to rush it, because she said she needs her beauty sleep and I think we all agree her avatar is worth preserving at any cost. Anyway, here's a list to get on with for now:

TOP FEMALE FANTASIES:
Women on Top: The woman dominant, may include some mild bondage.
Voyeur: Being watched while having sex with partner or while masturbating.
Three in a bed; two men one woman, or even three men/one woman
Master/Student: Being initiated into sex by a master.
Sex with Strangers: making it out with a total stranger
Naked orgy: group sex and being and watching naked people.
Rape ; it's a fantasy, but not one writers should engage with since it's a
nono in erotica/romantica.
Beautiful, irresistable female; she is simply beautiful. Idea being
softness, tenderness, feelings, emotions.
Dirty Lady: Woman as slut or stripper (links with voyeur fantasy)
Role reversal: strap-on penis etc.

TOP MALE FANTASIES:
A different place: sex anywhere except bedroom.
Peeping Tom : peeping through a window/keyhole watching her take on her
girlfriend/boyfriend or watching her take bath.
Risky situations: In the office, where someone might come in. In a shop
where a customer might interupt. In a nightclub in the dark, where they
might get found out.
In control: With the woman dressed in a serving role like French maid or
nurse.
Three in a bed : Two women, one man.
In control : Grilling his boss's wife.
Her Slave : Becoming her slave, getting tortured and molested by her.
Mrs. Neighbour: Sex with a neighbour.
Stranger sex : Being ravished by a total stranger.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

This is a very simplistic and naïve take on sexual fantasies, assuming as it does that people are only fantasizing about specific sexual acts. It looks like the kind of list a man would put together, because it only concentrates on the machanics of the act: who’s doing what to whom, and that’s a very male approach to sexual fantasies: very graphic and very visual and ultimately very shallow.

When you get past the basics, it seems to me that the essence and richness of any sexual fantasy is the psychological and emotional implications of the specific act. Not the act itself. The sexiest stuff is usually mental.

---dr.M.

 

[Colleen Thomas]

This is a very simplistic and naïve take on sexual fantasies, assuming as it does that people are only fantasizing about specific sexual acts. It looks like the kind of list a man would put together, because it only concentrates on the machanics of the act: who’s doing what to whom, and that’s a very male approach to sexual fantasies: very graphic and very visual and ultimately very shallow.

When you get past the basics, it seems to me that the essence and richness of any sexual fantasy is the psychological and emotional implications of the specific act. Not the act itself. The sexiest stuff is usually mental.

---dr.M.

Couldn't agree more Doc. This reads sort of like a check list.

-Colly

 

[Guest]

Mab. is spot on. Yesterday I was having my hair trimmed and re-streaked. Hairdresser Bruce played a John Lee Hooker tape. Can't recall the title but during one particular cut with great drum play, along with Hooker's voice, I sat in the salon chair with my eyes closed and had one of the best sexual fantasies ever. It's not on the list.

Perdita

 

[shereads]

TOP MALE FANTASIES:
A different place: sex anywhere except bedroom.

That qualifies as a fantasy? Wow. Men are easy.

 

[Gary Chambers]

This is a very simplistic and naïve take on sexual fantasies, assuming as it does that people are only fantasizing about specific sexual acts. It looks like the kind of list a man would put together, because it only concentrates on the machanics of the act...

---dr.M.

I didn't get it from a man, but I do take your point. I think a sort of checklist was the idea. Romance and erotica are blending at a commercial level into a supposed new genre some call romantica. So there are hundreds of romance writers grappling with the challenge of putting more explicit sex into their stories. I think this 'checklist' was probably a feeble attempt to come up with a formula they could use.

 

[Gary Chambers]

Frances, I noted the Call For Subs thread and will be checking out your site soon. It so happens I'm working on my first erotic romance novel right now. It's aimed at one of your competitors, but there's no contract in place so I'm still shopping, so to speak. I'm curious about male readers. Here at Lit, I'm told romance is one of the least read categories overall, but that may be because we have a mixture of genders and orientations in our reader base. The truth is, lots of men will read stories or watch films that could qualify as romances, but the romance genre never seems to make any attempt to drag them out of their adventure novel closet. Does Wicked Velvet make substantial sales to men, or do you consider women to be your sole market? Just curious. I try to aim a lot of my work at women anyway, but I'd love to find an erotic romance publisher who wants to break that gender marketing barrier.

 

[Gary Chambers]

...I sat in the salon chair with my eyes closed and had one of the best sexual fantasies ever. It's not on the list.

Perdita

Perdita, I have a feeling you could consistently come up with fantasies that other's haven't even considered. Let's face it, some people are trailblazers.

sex anywhere except bedroom. That qualifies as a fantasy? Wow. Men are easy.

Let's make up our minds shall we? Whinging bastards or easy meat, which is it? Oh, and for the record, sex in shower cabinets, on kitchen tables and floors, in the garden, at the beach, etc. have never counted as fantasies for this man. That's like saying let's be really adventurous and use the blue beadspread instead of the green one. Oh, oh, maybe I'm whinging?

 

[Guest]

Re: Re: Top 'masturbatory' sex fantasies

TOP MALE FANTASIES:
A different place: sex anywhere except bedroom.
That qualifies as a fantasy? Wow. Men are easy.

LOL - My husband would agree with you!

 

[Gary Chambers]

...men not only have written for us (Don Winslow of Ironwood fame for example) they read our stories as well. Most say they are curious as to what turns us on.

I'll be sure to check it out today. Of course, those men could drop into our Author's Hangout to find out what turns women on, but I'm not sure the ladies here are a representative cross section of society. We all pride ourselves on our depravity, so as long as you're breathing or just freshly dead you can probably score in the Literotica AH.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

I have a theory that most sexual fantasies come down to one basic theme: The protagonist is just so attractive and desirable that he/she's able to turn anyone into a sex-crazed maniac.

In men this usually takes the form of the easy lay: any woman he interacts with is suddenly ready to jump in the sack with him. Hence the naighbor fantasy, the perfect stranger, group sex, sex in strange places (she just can't wait).

For women, this often takes the form of her driving the man she's with to extraordinary sexual feats by her mere presence. She's just irresistable. This is the theme behind non-consent, a lot of BDSM, a lot of incest, and a lot of voyeur.

Of course there are exceptions, but in general I think what we all fantasize about is our own sexual power.

---dr.M.

 

[DarlingNikki]

Of course there are exceptions, but in general I think what we all fantasize about is our own sexual power.

---dr.M.

Weird. That makes me feel so dirty.

 

[Guest]

Weird. That makes me feel so dirty.

Isn't that another male fantasy?

 

[Lovepotion69]

I forwarded the list to a friend and added personal comments to it. I realised there were probably only couple of things I haven't used on that list as scenarios...

I must be a very uncomplex superficial creature.

 

[Guest]

I forwarded the list to a friend and added personal comments to it. I realised there were probably only couple of things I haven't used on that list as scenarios...

I must be a very uncomplex superficial creature.

Hey, LP. I was just thinking the same thing about myself, and maybe to an even greater degree. Most, if not all, of those scenarios turn me on.

I guess the Gender Genie was right afterall. (Sorry Lauren. )

Lou

 

[Black Tulip]

I have a theory that most sexual fantasies come down to one basic theme: The protagonist is just so attractive and desirable that he/she's able to turn anyone into a sex-crazed maniac.

In men this usually takes the form of the easy lay: any woman he interacts with is suddenly ready to jump in the sack with him. Hence the naighbor fantasy, the perfect stranger, group sex, sex in strange places (she just can't wait).

For women, this often takes the form of her driving the man she's with to extraordinary sexual feats by her mere presence. She's just irresistable. This is the theme behind non-consent, a lot of BDSM, a lot of incest, and a lot of voyeur.

Of course there are exceptions, but in general I think what we all fantasize about is our own sexual power.

---dr.M.

I think you left out an important variation: the man is so powerful sexually speaking that the woman cannot resist him, thereby giving her an alibi to do what society frowns on. That goes for most or maybe all of the categories above.

 

[oggbashan]

We all pride ourselves on our depravity, so as long as you're breathing or just freshly dead you can probably score in the Literotica AH.

That explains it! I wondered why.

Og. Dead several millennia.

 

[Guest]

That explains it! I wondered why.

Og. Dead several millennia.

You score with me every time, King Og.

Lou

 

[oggbashan]

Tatelou's AVs and site make my heap of dusty bones think thoughts that they shouldn't.

Og

 

[Lauren Hynde]

Hey, LP. I was just thinking the same thing about myself, and maybe to an even greater degree. Most, if not all, of those scenarios turn me on.

I guess the Gender Genie was right afterall. (Sorry Lauren. )

Lou

Traitor.

 

[Guest]

I have a theory that most sexual fantasies come down to one basic theme: The protagonist is just so attractive and desirable that he/she's able to turn anyone into a sex-crazed maniac.
...
Of course there are exceptions, but in general I think what we all fantasize about is our own sexual power.

Mab., that's a very intersting idea, to me, because it doesn't fit my fantasies at all, not a bit. I've often said that I think all sexual relations are power-based (in RL); e.g., "Who's in control of the fuck?" Yet the basis of my sexual fantsies were always rooted in deep-seated need, perhaps psychologically explained, but somehow unknown to me. I was always in fear of being found out (the real me) in them, that's what made them so exciting. There was a primal touch to them but I honestly don't think they'd fit your idea. I will think on it more.

Anyway, the fantasies of a lifetime have been ruined because now I only imagine scenes with a real person, or even just his image. Not really sure how I feel about that but not complaining as the 'scenes' are as interesting as ever.

Perdita

 

[Gary Chambers]

...Anyway, the fantasies of a lifetime have been ruined because now I only imagine scenes with a real person, or even just his image. Not really sure how I feel about that but not complaining as the 'scenes' are as interesting as ever.

Perdita

You mean you used to imagine having sex with imaginary people, or did you go for the whole enchilada and imagine the imaginings too? We all pay for being sexually repressed, Perdita, but you seem to be paying at a usurious compound interest rate. For what it's worth, I think mining one's way through your terraced fantasies to the core of your reality would be an adventure of epic proportions. Have another rose.

 

[Guest]

Thanks for the rose, Gary. At the risk of unwanted exposure I'll answer that I could never fantasize about real people, not even moviestar hunks. It was all imagining, and often did not even include me, i.e., I'd make up the girl(s) too, sometimes based on me, sometimes not. Is that uncommon? I have no idea. I am very aware that my current real-fantasy has unearthed a long-hidden "Perdita" but now I am more in awe of the experience of this intercourse.

Thanks for the insight, I guess.

Perdita

 

[Gary Chambers]

Thanks for the rose, Gary. At the risk of unwanted exposure I'll answer that I could never fantasize about real people, not even moviestar hunks. It was all imagining, and often did not even include me, i.e., I'd make up the girl(s) too, sometimes based on me, sometimes not. Is that uncommon? I have no idea. I am very aware that my current real-fantasy has unearthed a long-hidden "Perdita" but now I am more in awe of the experience of this intercourse.

Thanks for the insight, I guess.

Perdita

I wasn't trying to be insightful or profound, Perdita, just having fun with these snippets of dialogue we call conversation online. If I inadvertently helped provide an insight, however, I'm glad.

I don't think it's unusual to have trouble including movie stars with yourself in a fantasy. There are a few I find extremely attractive. If I was going to allow myself to fantasise about someone sexually, however, I would opt for someone I know so that I could suspend my disbelief more easily. I don't really think you're repressed. I sense that most people in the Lit AH are in good sexual/emotional health, even if they've had to struggle to reach that point.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

Mab., that's a very intersting idea, to me, because it doesn't fit my fantasies at all, not a bit. I've often said that I think all sexual relations are power-based (in RL); e.g., "Who's in control of the fuck?" Yet the basis of my sexual fantsies were always rooted in deep-seated need, perhaps psychologically explained, but somehow unknown to me. I was always in fear of being found out (the real me) in them, that's what made them so exciting. There was a primal touch to them but I honestly don't think they'd fit your idea. I will think on it more.

My "analysis" of erotic fantasies was kind of facile, and was the result of trying to identify what's the common theme in sexual fantasies? (Besides sex, of course) Probably the most common fantasy is just thinking about "doing it", but when you get beyond that...

When I say that we all fantasize about having sexual power, I'm not talking so much about "who's on top", I'm thinking more about a kind of general sexual potency. Men like to imagine that they're able to turn any woman into a raving sexual beast, and women like to think the same regarding men, but the way the sexes express this fantasy is different.

I've always found women's fantasies to be more involved and interesting than men's. Men's tend to be basically fairly simple and straight ahead; women have all these social and personal constraints they have to filter their feelings through, so you get all these passive-aggressive fantasies and dreams of having their sexual natures exposed.

This last fantasy--the thrill of having your sexuality exposed and witnessed by others--has always been especially fascinating for me because I don't think there's a male version of it. I've written a few stories involving this kind of "revealed sexuality" fantasy, and I understand it as a blend of shame and pride that seems unique to women.

All generalities are false, of course, but it's awfully interesting to try and understand the other sex's version of what's erotic.

---dr.M.