Top drop/bottom drop: Adifferent concern

[Owlz]

Top drop/bottom drop: A different concern

In my nascent and on-going BDSM education, I've read the thread about Top-drop and bottom-drop. Here's my concern.

I'm currently being treated for Clinical Depression and Generalized Anxiety Disorder. Clinical Depression is also known as Major Depression. How might I approach the handling of Top-drop or bottom-drop, given these circumstances? I've been known to have suicidal thoughts (though no concrete plans) of suicide in the past, and I fear Top-drop or bottom-drop may trigger these tendencies.

Thank you.

Owlz

 

[MissTaken]

Awareness is the key.

Being aware of your condition and making your Dominant aware of the condition is important.

Some of the feelings of sub drop seem to mirror symptoms of clinical depression. When it happens, make sure ot remind yourself that that is exactly what it is...sub drop and that it is temporary.

Doing all those things you do to remain healthy and "up" when depressed helps. Keep busy. Connect with your friends, family and partner. Do things that remind you how worthwhile and valued you are.

Take medication as prescribed, eat properly and get some excercise.

Your partner needs to check in with you in the even thtat you have dropped to the degree to which you can't take the initiative yourself to do these things. He or she should read up and be aware of the conditions and the things I hve just typed.

Most importantly, if I were you, I would not engage in D/s unless or until your clinical depression has being successfully treated for a long period of time.

 

[Owlz]

Awareness is the key.

Being aware of your condition and making your Dominant aware of the condition is important.

Some of the feelings of sub drop seem to mirror symptoms of clinical depression. When it happens, make sure ot remind yourself that that is exactly what it is...sub drop and that it is temporary.

Doing all those things you do to remain healthy and "up" when depressed helps. Keep busy. Connect with your friends, family and partner. Do things that remind you how worthwhile and valued you are.

Take medication as prescribed, eat properly and get some excercise.

Your partner needs to check in with you in the even thtat you have dropped to the degree to which you can't take the initiative yourself to do these things. He or she should read up and be aware of the conditions and the things I hve just typed.

Most importantly, if I were you, I would not engage in D/s unless or until your clinical depression has being successfully treated for a long period of time.

It's been on-going treatment for the past four or five years now.

As one hoo is new to BDSM, I had an interesting encounter with someone else here on the Forum (name withheld), and in that encounter, I was very definitely the Dom. Comments, especially (but not exclusively) as they relate to Top drop? FWIW, I felt great afterwards, as did my sub...no drops at all.

 

[MissTaken]

I haven't experienced "top drop", yet.

I think that it may be less likely to occur as the emotional and mental connection for the Dom isn't based on helplessness and need, as much as it is for the sub. It is actually based on empowerment and power. Two issues that many depressed individuals struggle with before ever engaging in D,s power exchange.

I will think further and come back.

 

[Owlz]

I haven't experienced "top drop", yet.

I think that it may be less likely to occur as the emotional and mental connection for the Dom isn't based on helplessness and need, as much as it is for the sub. It is actually based on empowerment and power. Two issues that many depressed individuals struggle with before ever engaging in D,s power exchange.

I will think further and come back.

Thank you, MissTaken, for your input and continued assistance. I consider you my newest friend and mentor here.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

... in that encounter, I was very definitely the Dom. Comments, especially (but not exclusively) as they relate to Top drop?

What is your question about Top Drop?

 

[Owlz]

Oops...forgot that part.

I've PM'ed someone today about this today, but in the interest of a broader spectrum of responses:

If you suffer from Major Depression and Generalized Anxiety, I suspect the possibility exists that Top Drop may result in triggering both, possibly to the point of suicidal thoughts. How have others dealt with this? (I've been in long-term therapeutic treatment for the past four or five years now, with medications, FWIW).

 

[AngelicAssassin]

... If you suffer from Major Depression and Generalized Anxiety, I suspect the possibility exists that Top Drop may result in triggering both, possibly to the point of suicidal thoughts ...

i'm trying to think of the correct way to say this ... the issue at hand is and always will be control.

A Top/Dominant/Master/"Pick your label," has the responsibility of two, or if polygamous, more people to bear.

A great deal of trust gets laid squarely on the shoulders of said "Pick your label," by that "label's" significant other(s). This is a natural thing and should be accepted, if not embraced whole-heartedly.

The "label" in question has to have have their shit wired very tight to keep the other(s) comfortably in control, both from the "label's" perspective, and from that of the significant other(s).

With that in mind, look up the definition of FAE, Fuel Air Explosive.

The bottom line is this. i appreciate your candor in asking the question, but i think if you have side issues that will affect not only you, but the significant other(s) in question, you might not want to walk down that particular path.

If you gamble with your own soul, Devil take the hindmost, and run faster. If you gamble with that of those that trust you, and lose ...