Too young to stress!

[smoothg103rd]

Just had a heart to heart to one of my closest friends. I would be honest he is a hot head, but he got a good heart. He was telling me about the shit he going through, and how he is stressed out. Saying shit like he didn't eat a full meal in like a week. And the house he was staying in got raided so he really ain't got no where to go. And how he feels trapped, and the only way he gone make it out this life is through jail, or death. I was telling him I feel the same way, and the only people that could change the outcome is us. I told him that I'm lost too, but I'm looking for a way out. As long as we keep looking we will find it. I told him look at me for a example, yeah I'm not where I want to be, but I'm trying to improve everyday. Baby steps will get you to your destination too, it will just take a little longer. You can't expect to be a totally different person over night, just become a better person day by day. I feel and think more maturely now, and I sincerely if we want change bad enough, then we will have it. We could both cut the bullshit together.

 

[Skiddles2014]

Did you blow him before or after your heart to heart?

 

[Que Va]

Just had a heart to heart to one of my closest friends. To be honest, he is a hot head; but he has a good heart. He was telling me about the shit he going through, and how he is stressed out. Saying shit like, he didn't eat a full meal in a week. The house where he was staying was raided, so he really ain't got nowhere to go. He feels trapped, and the only way he gone make it out this life is through jail, or death. I was telling him that I feel the same way; the only people that could change the outcome is us. I told him that I'm lost too, but I'm looking for a way out; as long as we keep looking we will find it. I told him look at me for an example. Yeah, I'm not where I want to be, but I'm trying to improve everyday. Baby steps will get you to your destination too, it will just take a little longer. You can't expect to be a totally different person overnight, just become a better person day by day. I feel and think more maturely now. I sincerely believe if we want change badly enough, then we will. We could both cut the bullshit together.

Don't be too discouraged if he isn't ready to hear or act on it. Your articulating such things to him makes the idea more implanted in you. He may be in a bit worse shape than you but the conversation is probably more relevant to you than him is why it happened.

 

[Wife of Bath]

Just had a heart to heart to one of my closest friends. I would be honest he is a hot head, but he got a good heart. He was telling me about the shit he going through, and how he is stressed out. Saying shit like he didn't eat a full meal in like a week. And the house he was staying in got raided so he really ain't got no where to go. And how he feels trapped, and the only way he gone make it out this life is through jail, or death. I was telling him I feel the same way, and the only people that could change the outcome is us. I told him that I'm lost too, but I'm looking for a way out. As long as we keep looking we will find it. I told him look at me for a example, yeah I'm not where I want to be, but I'm trying to improve everyday. Baby steps will get you to your destination too, it will just take a little longer. You can't expect to be a totally different person over night, just become a better person day by day. I feel and think more maturely now, and I sincerely think if we want change bad enough, then we will have it. We could both cut the bullshit together.

this is the answer. Only you can change your circumstances. The first step is to accept that and move forward with positive thinking and hopefully a plan.

You can sort it out.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Did you blow him before or after your heart to heart?

You are starting to make yourself look bad.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Don't be too discouraged if he isn't ready to hear or act on it. Your articulating such things to him makes the idea more implanted in you. He may be in a bit worse shape than you but the conversation is probably more relevant to you than him is why it happened.

Imma do what I have to do, with or without him. But I love that man, I look at him like a brother. So if he tryna better himself, and I'm trying to better myself, than we could better ourselves together.

 

[smoothg103rd]

this is the answer. Only you can change your circumstances. The first step is to accept that and move forward with positive thinking and hopefully a plan.

You can sort it out.

I been thinking a lot, about change. I just don't know how to change (and be happy). I really don't have a plan yet, just the ambition. Hopefully the plan will come.

 

[Que Va]

You are starting to make yourself look bad.

"Starting" to?

I will do what I have to do, with or without him. But I love that man, I look at him like a brother. So if he is trying to better himself, and I'm trying to better myself, than we could better ourselves together.

There are probably community outreach programs that would be glad to hire you to encourage people to get out of the life or not to start. Don't know what that sort of thing pays, but I bet it is a nice, stable gig that would be pretty flexible about hours.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Queer~Vader;62696743]"Starting" to?



There are probably community outreach programs that would be glad to hire you to encourage people to get out of the life or not to start. Don't know what that sort of thing pays, but I bet it is a nice, stable gig that would be pretty flexible about hours.[/QUOTE]

The thing about that is, I want to truly help myself before I help others. I can't preach to kids to change their lives, when I hadn't change mines. I got to be comfortable and stable, mentally, physically and financially. Before I ever could think about doing something like that.

 

[Noor]

Sometimes, helping others helps you.

I would feed your friend if you can, it's very hard to think straight on an empty stomach.

 

[Skiddles2014]

You are starting to make yourself look bad.

So it was after?

Good luck putting on your big boy pants!

 

[smoothg103rd]

Sometimes, helping others helps you.

I would feed your friend if you can, it's very hard to think straight on an empty stomach.

It's not that he doesn't have the money to eat, cause I'm sure he could by himself something. It's just that he can't or (won't) eat. The stress and pills just taking their toll on him. I spoke to him around 12 o'clock and I could smell the liquor on him. And it fucks me up to see my boy like this.

 

[smoothg103rd]

So it was after?

Good luck putting on your big boy pants!

Clowns like you amuse me.

 

[Que Va]

The thing about that is, I want to truly help myself before I help others. I can't preach to kids to change their lives, when I haven't change mine. I nee to be comfortable and stable, mentally, physically and financially. Before I ever could think about doing something like that.

Don't sell yourself short. I was raised religious. I always felt as if I was not living right, even thought I was pretty straight edge. From a perspective like that it is not about where you are in your life but which direction you are headed.

One of the best things my ex taught me that has made me a much better father is that it is OK to be wrong, to fall short and to screw up. Just have to admit it what I do.

If you were all of the things above that you eventually will be, the kids would look at you and not understand that you got there a couple of steps forward and sometimes one back. You would be more effective with flaws.

Just like your friend, they need to understand that even people they admire make mistakes and when they make one on their journey just pick themselves up and start again.

Being in a role like that when you are not "ready" will put some positive pressure on you to step up. if you consider a role like that, be upfront with the people you report to, and the kids you help. "Hey I'm still working on this myself."

You don't have to be this great shining example. Maybe just start small. Go to a youth center with some cheap chessboards and teach chess. When we get outside of ourselves and help others it tends to better ourselves.

 

[Skiddles2014]

Clowns like you amuse me.

Whiny losers like you amuse me.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Whiny losers like you amuse me.

A least we get a kick out each other.

 

[Aphro]

Just had a heart to heart to one of my closest friends. I would be honest he is a hot head, but he got a good heart. He was telling me about the shit he going through, and how he is stressed out. Saying shit like he didn't eat a full meal in like a week. And the house he was staying in got raided so he really ain't got no where to go. And how he feels trapped, and the only way he gone make it out this life is through jail, or death. I was telling him I feel the same way, and the only people that could change the outcome is us. I told him that I'm lost too, but I'm looking for a way out. As long as we keep looking we will find it. I told him look at me for a example, yeah I'm not where I want to be, but I'm trying to improve everyday. Baby steps will get you to your destination too, it will just take a little longer. You can't expect to be a totally different person over night, just become a better person day by day. I feel and think more maturely now, and I sincerely if we want change bad enough, then we will have it. We could both cut the bullshit together.

You have the right idea, smooth. One day at a time.

Lead by example, show your friend how you are changing your life, and it will maybe inspire him to follow and make his own changes. I sure hope so, anyway.

Visualize where you want to be...a year from now, three years from now, five years from now. If you keep that always in your mind, it will help you stay on track day to day. I think you really do want a different life, and I believe that you will do it if you stay focused.

 

[smoothg103rd]

You have the right idea, smooth. One day at a time.

Lead by example, show your friend how you are changing your life, and it will maybe inspire him to follow and make his own changes. I sure hope so, anyway.

Visualize where you want to be...a year from now, three years from now, five years from now. If you keep that always in your mind, it will help you stay on track day to day. I think you really do want a different life, and I believe that you will do it if you stay focused.

I appreciate this! I could tell that you are sincere in your words. And its a comforting feeling. Thank you.

 

[PayDay]

pssht.

Kids...

The possibilities are always limitless.

 

[Aphro]

I'm absolutely sincere. And I wish you every success in realizing your dreams.

I believe if you want it, you can do it. You've got a job now, and it's always much easier to get a job when you are already working. You have the opportunity to meet new people who may be able to help you later on, so you are on that first stepping stone that will get you across the river. I know you want to be able to offer more to your children, and that is an admirable goal. One day, you will look back and you won't believe how your life has changed. For the better.

 

[smoothg103rd]

I'm absolutely sincere. And I wish you every success in realizing your dreams.

I believe if you want it, you can do it. You've got a job now, and it's always much easier to get a job when you are already working. You have the opportunity to meet new people who may be able to help you later on, so you are on that first stepping stone that will get you across the river. I know you want to be able to offer more to your children, and that is an admirable goal. One day, you will look back and you won't believe how your life has changed. For the better.

I just got to be patient, and don't let my ambition cloud my judgment. I been times I let negatively affect my transition. But now I feel like those things are beneath me.

Where I'm from It's easy to commit a crime, it's easy to go to jail. But it's not easy to man up and handle your responsibility, and be a role model to my children and love ones. And honestly I'm tired of taking the easy way.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Get well soon brah.



Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have - life itself.

Walter Anderson

 

[possum123]

Just try to do a little better each day. Some days you may not make it but the next day will be different.
I have faith in you. You can do it.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Just try to do a little better each day. Some days you may not make it but the next day will be different.
I have faith in you. You can do it.

I'm good. I'm more worried about others than myself.