Too much of a good thing?

[AdamB84]

Question mostly for the ladies. So I've got the opposite problem a lot of men do--I apparently last too long for my wife. I do a lot of (non sexual) stamina training that carries into the bedroom. I could go all through the night, which I imagine a woman loving. When my wife and I first got together, we both loved having sex for hours on end.

Several years later, she prefers me to get to the point. She cums easily and (at least says) she's perfectly satisfied in ten minutes or so. I can finish that quickly most of the time, but it's not nearly as satisfying for me and seems psychologically backwards. But much longer than that much of the time leaves her cummed out and aching.

How long would you prefer just a regular session of sex to last? Is relatively short sometimes more fulfilling?

 

[Nezhul]

well, including foreplay and all, i'd say that at least 20-30 minutes for me. So I can relate with you - I like longer sessions.

What you need to do is compromise somehow. Does your wife not like being cummed out and aching?

 

[purplerosecrab]

In my experience, intercourse that doesn't last very long can still be perfectly satisfying. Less than 10 minutes is not unheard of for a lot of couples. And yes, as a woman I can confirm that going too long can be painful and/or uncomfortable. I love long sex sessions but generally intercourse is just one (and not the most important) part of the experience. What makes it long is the kissing, the fondling, the massaging, the closeness, and the kink if we're in the mood. A man who understands this on an intuitive level is priceless.

I'd say believe your wife when she says she's satisfied with shorter intercourse. See if there are other things you might do besides intercourse if one or both of you wants more.

 

[RedSilk69]

Question mostly for the ladies. So I've got the opposite problem a lot of men do--I apparently last too long for my wife. I do a lot of (non sexual) stamina training that carries into the bedroom. I could go all through the night, which I imagine a woman loving. When my wife and I first got together, we both loved having sex for hours on end.

Several years later, she prefers me to get to the point. She cums easily and (at least says) she's perfectly satisfied in ten minutes or so. I can finish that quickly most of the time, but it's not nearly as satisfying for me and seems psychologically backwards. But much longer than that much of the time leaves her cummed out and aching.

How long would you prefer just a regular session of sex to last? Is relatively short sometimes more fulfilling?

My college boyfriend was like that - so I became OK with ending the session when I was done. It ensured he was ready when I wanted it next

 

[mikendel]

Most of the time I like 10-15min. Every so often I want a all night pounding. I have a few men that I can call that last a long time for those occasions.

 

[TheWhiteBull]

Question mostly for the ladies. So I've got the opposite problem a lot of men do--I apparently last too long for my wife. I do a lot of (non sexual) stamina training that carries into the bedroom. I could go all through the night, which I imagine a woman loving. When my wife and I first got together, we both loved having sex for hours on end.

Several years later, she prefers me to get to the point. She cums easily and (at least says) she's perfectly satisfied in ten minutes or so. I can finish that quickly most of the time, but it's not nearly as satisfying for me and seems psychologically backwards. But much longer than that much of the time leaves her cummed out and aching.

Exact same problem as you man, except that she's always preferred it that short.

 

[Icy1]

For me during the week and when we are both busy I'm perfectly satisfied with 10 to 20 minutes spent on sex.
I do enjoy longer sessions too, touching, kissing, caressing, spending time making each other feel good followed by intercourse.

 

[suckonsimon]

Adam, how would she be about a session made longer by withdrawals a few times when her build to an orgasm begins, so that in that heightened state of arousal but without orgasming she gets oral on you, or has you between her breasts awhile, and then some more penetration until she begins a build to orgasm again and you come out of her and just french kiss a while. She has the pleasure of builds but without the problem of post-orgasm sensitivity, all along knowing that she will have a mega one in due course when you've had a lot longer of pleasuring?