Too big to be sub?

[Karmic]

I really, really want to be very submisive, I never have been yet, but I think of little else, I will be anyone who will dominates slut and slave for life, but.

I am worried, I'm big, I'm 6'3" tall, heavy set, I go to the gym every day, I'm getting real nice muscle tone and bulges in all the right places, I am doing it beacuse I want to be more physicaly pleaseing to the eye, for g/f's or b/f's

Is my size gonna be a problem?

 

[RudeNastyAssBitch]

No

Not For Any Domme That Knows What She Is Doing
Have Fun, boy!

 

[Mischka]

Try reading through this thread:

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=28874

It's quite the Everything You Want to Know About Dom/sub Lifestyle But Were Afraid To Ask thread.

 

[Aussie Worm]

Sub/Dom relationships arn't just based on size or strength its also based on mental power. My Mistress is smaller and weaker than me, but she can still hurt me and make me feel small when she has to.

 

[Hecate]

Not knowing you ....

I only can go guessing you are .. male? Your profile unfortunately doesn't enlighten me too much on that point. (Anyway - I am sure pretty much the same "rules" apply should you be female)

I quite enjoy to dominate a man who could easily overpower me if he chose to do so, but instead chose to hand himself over to me completely. At that point there is no much to add, right? As long as you try to keep in shape and "big" means tall and wide, based on bone structure and not fat I don't see any problem there at all (I wouldn't tolerate a sub of mine to not take care of body and soul though - so that might be a problem which I can't seem to see as far as you are concerned).. and I bet a lot of Dommes think that way. Only problem would arise if you craved some kind of "forced domination" - I fear in that case a Domme would not be the one able to provide that - if you are more the "I worship the ground you walk on" type of sub ... size truely doesn't matter.

Just one last thought... if I understand you right, you are taking your first venturing steps into this realm of D/s .. and you are asking for pretty much "anyone who wnats you" to take you. DON'T do that !! First: there is a lot of assholes out there on the net who are completely unable to distinguish between dominance and abuse - and you are pretty much asking for exactly that type of person to show up at your doorstep. Second: your submission is a gift! You - and only you alone - can decide whether or not to give it to someone else. Once you have given "yourself" to a Master/Mistress though it usually is not taken back easily. You do not make gifts and decide to want them back a moment later - now do you?

Go and play - find out about the submissive in you - do it on a role play forum, do it in a chat - do it even IRL in a club if you think you are ready for it ... but still be carefull!!! It may not be what you want once you get it - and don't accept the first person to administer a spanking as a Master/Mistress to trust with your life for life (geeze, for life is a damn long time for most of us!) You may even "fall in love" with the sensation - but don't confuse it with the person to provoke that feeling inside you. Much more than the possible physical damage done - which maybe you could even prevent by your size - D/s is about mental stimulation - and you are as much vulnerable to that kind of hurt and damage as is any tiny, lithe framed female.


Enjoy - I encourage you - but take care
Hecate

 

[Merelan]

And you all wonder why I idolize her.

 

[Hecate]

And you all wonder why I idolize her.

oh baby - don't stop at idolizing *winks*

 

[SpectreT]

Size doesn't matter...

You're only a little taller than me, and it sounds like you're in much better shape than I am, though I'm working on it. By sheer size and physical strength, you will probably have a tough time finding someone who CAN overpower you; That's where your mind comes into this. I'm not going into a long-winded post that amounts to a "Yeah, what Hecate said," so I urge you to read it (Hecate's) carefully. I was in a brief switch relationship, where we each indulged our budding dominant and submissive tendencies, so I can tell you, with the right person, it's not only possible, but FUN to be submissive either despite or because of your physical stature.

BTW, Hecate, thanks for posting an erudite and astute response to Karmic.

 

[dave-73]

BIG DOPEY FUCKING GIMP.....you stay away from those school playgrounds ya tossa

 

[DarlingBri]

Wow. You're what Dave Blunkett was on about. Impressive.

 

[Karmic]

Huh, what was that about?, with dave-73? *pouts*

 

[SpectreT]

BIG DOPEY FUCKING GIMP.....you stay away from those school playgrounds ya tossa

Anyone care to translate that to fairly standard English? Hell, I'll settle for American.
And, more Importantly, HUH?

 

[April]

Just ignore the resident village idiot.

 

[Karmic]

He upset me *brushes curls of hair out of eyes and pouts a lil more*

 

[DarlingBri]

Karmic, get a grip, real fast.

If you're going to post personally revealing, vulnerable stuff about yourself, some asshole is going to tread on your tender heart.

Its the price you pay for the contribution of the other 12 people who will give you their best advice.

Donations taken at the door.

Besides, he's from Newcastle. You can't expect much from him except erratic child support payments lifted off his dole cheque/welfare check.

 

[LordMagicMan]

Well you do sound like a sub. Just make sure you know what you are getting into before you choose that lifestyle. Do you research, the mental damage from it can be worse then the physical, if you end up with someone that doesnt know what they are doing.

If you need advice I can email you a bunch of links and info that you will find helpful.

Also order the books:

Screw the Roses: Send Me the Thornes

SM 101

 

[bluntforcemama]

Jesus, dave, get a life! And while your at it, shove your thumb up your ass and spin on it! My god... what a rude asshole.

Karmic, love... pay no heed to the resident psyche patient. I don't think you're too big at all, I'd love to be your Dom. Unfortunately, I'm only an equal opportunity lover. As it is, don't throw yourself at just any Dom, and don't let yourself be collared too easily if you're looking for a 24/7 gig. I bet you're absolutely gorgeous, so don't worry! If I was a Dom, I don't think I'd want a scrawny man.

 

[Karmic]

Thankyou all so much, I really look forward to talking to you all more in the future *gives cuddles and hugs to you all* Sorry, yeah hes an ass hole, your right,*grins lop sidedly* thanx