shy slave
Literotica Guru
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- Jan 2, 2004
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This is an open letter to the men (and women) in white coats.
The Lit BDSM boards are a place many people use to be the other side of themselves. Other people use it as a means to educate and nurture people with an interest in BDSM, yet other people use it for discussion and honesty about a subject which in many countries is considered taboo.
The ‘net is an open universe. There is no membership to Lit and if there were there would be ways around it.
Lurking is not prohibited and free speech is advocated.
People here make friends, talk offline, tease and ask questions online.
It is part of real life. Just as email is checked so are posts on the boards.
In the back of our minds we know there are people who lurk, who sit with cock, vibe or both in hand, reading threads, looking at pictures and following links but they never post.
The upfront honesty of one recent poster has put you, the people in white coats, on the Lit map.
As well as lurkers, wankers and trolls we are now very aware of a different breed of people watching without speaking.
When this first came to light, I was surprised at by own naivety in not realising this would happen.
Many of us are not so cocooned in the warm glow of anonymity that we do not attempt to protect our privacy at a basic level. When one of us posts pics which may reveal more than we intended, a private message quickly ensures the balance is put right.
But you are different.
You hide, watch, sometime post in order to see a reaction and then return to lurk mode.
It is not a violation of our privacy, there is no privacy on the net.
But it does creep into every thought about every post read. Ever person, not just new posters, are viewed with suspicion. Do they have a hidden agenda, why are they acting in that manner in response to a post? These questions creep into the conscious mind, making a distrust pervade the boards.
Of course, you may argue that the only difference is we have now been told you exist.
In which case, there should be discussion as to whether ignorance is indeed bliss.
Every post written that reveals the personal heartache someone is going through; is met with a thought about you and what you will read into it.
People do not always discuss BDSM. As we get to know each other we discuss personal issues and health worries. Just as you would with a neighbour, friend or family.
Do you sit and wait to see who sends
, 
or {{hugs}}. Do you watch to see who gives advice, who ignores it, and what the original posters response is?
Or do you wonder at the fall of society when succour comes from people who have never met in real life and live all over the world?
Of course this is actually your opportunity to ask subjects you are studying about their behaviour and it is also the subjects’ opportunity to reply.
When animals, either in a natural setting or in a cage are observed there is no opportunity to discover what is really happening in their minds.
Now you can.
Equally, now, the mice in cages can respond.
Does it invalidate your research now we are aware of your existence in this net cage with us?
If so where will you move to next? If it makes little difference will the net end up with small groups with membership restrictions in order to be the community that Lit once was?
I believe the Brighton and Hove study are not actually studying BDSM but bisexuality, but do you look at the BDSM boards to see if there are correlations between BDSM communities and Bi communities?
I am interested in what specific universities are studying and the hypothesis of each study?
I can’t help but wonder where your studies of net life will be published.
Will it form part of therapy for ‘sex addiction’ or net addiction’ and, in time, will there be clinics to help us come to terms with the fact that we know and talk to people we have not met and cannot see?
In relation to the UK universities is this one way of supplementing poor grants from the Government and ensure your existence in the world of academia?
Please feel free to answer any or all of these questions; I look forward to any responses given.
The Lit BDSM boards are a place many people use to be the other side of themselves. Other people use it as a means to educate and nurture people with an interest in BDSM, yet other people use it for discussion and honesty about a subject which in many countries is considered taboo.
The ‘net is an open universe. There is no membership to Lit and if there were there would be ways around it.
Lurking is not prohibited and free speech is advocated.
People here make friends, talk offline, tease and ask questions online.
It is part of real life. Just as email is checked so are posts on the boards.
In the back of our minds we know there are people who lurk, who sit with cock, vibe or both in hand, reading threads, looking at pictures and following links but they never post.
The upfront honesty of one recent poster has put you, the people in white coats, on the Lit map.
As well as lurkers, wankers and trolls we are now very aware of a different breed of people watching without speaking.
When this first came to light, I was surprised at by own naivety in not realising this would happen.
Many of us are not so cocooned in the warm glow of anonymity that we do not attempt to protect our privacy at a basic level. When one of us posts pics which may reveal more than we intended, a private message quickly ensures the balance is put right.
But you are different.
You hide, watch, sometime post in order to see a reaction and then return to lurk mode.
It is not a violation of our privacy, there is no privacy on the net.
But it does creep into every thought about every post read. Ever person, not just new posters, are viewed with suspicion. Do they have a hidden agenda, why are they acting in that manner in response to a post? These questions creep into the conscious mind, making a distrust pervade the boards.
Of course, you may argue that the only difference is we have now been told you exist.
In which case, there should be discussion as to whether ignorance is indeed bliss.
Every post written that reveals the personal heartache someone is going through; is met with a thought about you and what you will read into it.
People do not always discuss BDSM. As we get to know each other we discuss personal issues and health worries. Just as you would with a neighbour, friend or family.
Do you sit and wait to see who sends
, or {{hugs}}. Do you watch to see who gives advice, who ignores it, and what the original posters response is?Or do you wonder at the fall of society when succour comes from people who have never met in real life and live all over the world?
Of course this is actually your opportunity to ask subjects you are studying about their behaviour and it is also the subjects’ opportunity to reply.
When animals, either in a natural setting or in a cage are observed there is no opportunity to discover what is really happening in their minds.
Now you can.
Equally, now, the mice in cages can respond.
Does it invalidate your research now we are aware of your existence in this net cage with us?
If so where will you move to next? If it makes little difference will the net end up with small groups with membership restrictions in order to be the community that Lit once was?
I believe the Brighton and Hove study are not actually studying BDSM but bisexuality, but do you look at the BDSM boards to see if there are correlations between BDSM communities and Bi communities?
I am interested in what specific universities are studying and the hypothesis of each study?
I can’t help but wonder where your studies of net life will be published.
Will it form part of therapy for ‘sex addiction’ or net addiction’ and, in time, will there be clinics to help us come to terms with the fact that we know and talk to people we have not met and cannot see?
In relation to the UK universities is this one way of supplementing poor grants from the Government and ensure your existence in the world of academia?
Please feel free to answer any or all of these questions; I look forward to any responses given.
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