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I have ran into a major problem!!!! I am not sure if i should or shouldn't invite my parents to the wedding or not?? ( i am a indian but more specific i am punjabi ohh, i have been born and raised in Canada)
This is how my story goes, I was 21 and living with my parents while in medical school. During this time my parents found what they called a perfect gentlemen for me to marry. Shortly after my older sister's wedding. They told me that the decision would be mine to make if i wanted to marry the guy or not!!!! Well, after seeing him for a bit i decided that i didnt want to marry him because were not compatible he drank alchol to the point were he almost passed out. I don't drink so we were total opposites. He was into the letz party all night and get high while i wasn't into that stuff. When I told my parents they totally flipped out!!! Asking why i wasnt marrying this guy when i told them they asked that was my only reason and i told them yes. We had a huge heated argument were we both said things to each other that we both regret. Anywayz, my parents told me i had no choice that i would have to marry the guy they had picked if i wanted to continue staying under the same roof as them. I didnt want to spend the rest of my life with an alcoholic so i did the exact opposite my parents would have never thought of my doing. I moved out that day!!! I had no idea where i was going. My friend let me stay at her place for the night. The next day i transferred to a medical school about 2500 km away from my parents. I did not tell them were i was going and until this day they have no idea where i am. I do send them birthday cards and greetings at other occassions but i never have but a return address on the envelope. It has been almost two years since i have seen or heard from my parents. I am almost done medical school and have been dating a surgeon that works at the hospital were i am finishing my schooling. He proposed so we are getting married and i am so excited. I have a really close friend who knows the whole truth and so do her parents and after hearing my story they accepted me as their daughter. Ever since then i have been involved in all their family functions as their daughter. But now i don't if i should tell my parents about the wedding and invite them. The wedding is going to take place back home where i grew up so all my friends and other relatives can attend. My fiancee knows everything and he told me that the decision was mine and that is exaclty what my friend's parents said that the decision was mine to make. My friend's parents told me that if my biological parents did attend the wedding that they would not interfere and would allow my parents to do their role as mother and father of the bride but if my parents did attend but didn't want to be part of the wedding they would happily act as the mother and father of the bride. My friend's mother told me that even though she didnt give birth to me I am still her daughter and even though my parents did their role at the wedding she still we be there for me after the wedding.
But now i am stuck on what to do Should I invite them or not? Please Help!!!!!
This is how my story goes, I was 21 and living with my parents while in medical school. During this time my parents found what they called a perfect gentlemen for me to marry. Shortly after my older sister's wedding. They told me that the decision would be mine to make if i wanted to marry the guy or not!!!! Well, after seeing him for a bit i decided that i didnt want to marry him because were not compatible he drank alchol to the point were he almost passed out. I don't drink so we were total opposites. He was into the letz party all night and get high while i wasn't into that stuff. When I told my parents they totally flipped out!!! Asking why i wasnt marrying this guy when i told them they asked that was my only reason and i told them yes. We had a huge heated argument were we both said things to each other that we both regret. Anywayz, my parents told me i had no choice that i would have to marry the guy they had picked if i wanted to continue staying under the same roof as them. I didnt want to spend the rest of my life with an alcoholic so i did the exact opposite my parents would have never thought of my doing. I moved out that day!!! I had no idea where i was going. My friend let me stay at her place for the night. The next day i transferred to a medical school about 2500 km away from my parents. I did not tell them were i was going and until this day they have no idea where i am. I do send them birthday cards and greetings at other occassions but i never have but a return address on the envelope. It has been almost two years since i have seen or heard from my parents. I am almost done medical school and have been dating a surgeon that works at the hospital were i am finishing my schooling. He proposed so we are getting married and i am so excited. I have a really close friend who knows the whole truth and so do her parents and after hearing my story they accepted me as their daughter. Ever since then i have been involved in all their family functions as their daughter. But now i don't if i should tell my parents about the wedding and invite them. The wedding is going to take place back home where i grew up so all my friends and other relatives can attend. My fiancee knows everything and he told me that the decision was mine and that is exaclty what my friend's parents said that the decision was mine to make. My friend's parents told me that if my biological parents did attend the wedding that they would not interfere and would allow my parents to do their role as mother and father of the bride but if my parents did attend but didn't want to be part of the wedding they would happily act as the mother and father of the bride. My friend's mother told me that even though she didnt give birth to me I am still her daughter and even though my parents did their role at the wedding she still we be there for me after the wedding.
But now i am stuck on what to do Should I invite them or not? Please Help!!!!!
