To be a switch

[Noxiya]

For a while now, I've had the strange sensation of seeing one person and instinctively feeling submissive, or if I see another person, I want to be dominant. I discovered that there's an actual term for this. As a switch, if I am with a partner who is specifically Dom or specifically Sub, how do I keep a steady dynamic? Also, is it strange to want to 'earn' one's submission through physical dominance?
Thank you.

 

[GreyEyedAthena]

For a while now, I've had the strange sensation of seeing one person and instinctively feeling submissive, or if I see another person, I want to be dominant. I discovered that there's an actual term for this. As a switch, if I am with a partner who is specifically Dom or specifically Sub, how do I keep a steady dynamic? Also, is it strange to want to 'earn' one's submission through physical dominance?
Thank you.

Do you find you alternate between wanting to submit to or dominate a specific person? Say, for instance, wanting to submit to a PYL one day, and wanting to dominate that same person the next?

 

[Noxiya]

not necessarily

Do you find you alternate between wanting to submit to or dominate a specific person? Say, for instance, wanting to submit to a PYL one day, and wanting to dominate that same person the next?

Sometimes, yes. It's like, i have a friend i just really want to dominate, and there's a different friend i want to submit to-hypothetically. There are some people I'd alternate doing that, but if I'm with a dominant and i personally feel like being a Dom, i want to fight for it, and sort of earn my submission. It this makes sense

 

[deedee94]

Your desire in one situation may not be the same in another. I live with 2 men who exude dominance and power, but no 1 is the Dom, they both are and in their own way.

I'm basically a sub, but I do get carried away and do give out commands that essentially feeds my needs. Wether they comply or not is another matter.

I'm not a Dom nor a switch, but I am who I am, a most subversive sub ever.

Happy switching

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Absolutely, there are people who bring out the Domme or sub in me. As a switch, I don't react differently to one person, but find that I react differently to different people. So if I feel dominant tendencies with one person, I will always feel that way, though I may feel submissive with another.

As far as a steady dynamic, I make my desires and needs known at the right time in a relationship as far as I am able so the dynamic is usually quite steady. I have never had a relationship in which we flip-flopped our roles. If you feel Dommie or subbie, just say so and see how it goes. If you feel switchie, see if they are up to that.

As to earned submission, there is no way that I can submit to anyone without them earning my complete trust and respect. I see this as totally normal

 

[Noxiya]

Absolutely, there are people who bring out the Domme or sub in me. As a switch, I don't react differently to one person, but find that I react differently to different people. So if I feel dominant tendencies with one person, I will always feel that way, though I may feel submissive with another.

As far as a steady dynamic, I make my desires and needs known at the right time in a relationship as far as I am able so the dynamic is usually quite steady. I have never had a relationship in which we flip-flopped our roles. If you feel Dommie or subbie, just say so and see how it goes. If you feel switchie, see if they are up to that.

As to earned submission, there is no way that I can submit to anyone without them earning my complete trust and respect. I see this as totally normal

Thank you

 

[Vulpesvulpes]

For me, it's both. I feel totally dominant toward certain people and "switchy" with others. I could also see myself in a 24/7 relationship with the right sub but never as a sub.

I like the idea of playing the dominant role some days and submissive role the next with the same partner. As a sub, I like earning rewards or punishments (usually the same thing). As a dom, I like doling out rewards and punishments for real or imagined infractions. In both cases, it's part of a scene that we have chosen to act out. It's not real and either of us can stop it at any time. The fact that we can means that neither of us has really given up control and that neither is really submitting to the other.

I'm in this for fun, fulfillment, excitement and to scratch a certain itch. I don't believe that punishment is a productive means of behavior modification so I don't believe in giving a sub true punishment. I don't think it would be true punishment anyway since they would have to consent to it.

All of this means that I'm neither a true dom or true sub which is why I self-identify as a switch.